Love and marriage

A student asked a teacher. "What is love ?"

The teacher said, "In order to answer your question. Go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi stalk and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick another."

The student went to the field, went through the first row and saw one big padi stalk, but he wondered, maybe there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one but thought may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realise that the padi was not as big as the initial one he saw, he knew he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted it. So he went back to the teacher with empty hands.

The teacher said "This is love. You keep looking for a better one, but when you realised it, you have already missed the right one"

"What is marriage then ?" the student asked.

The teacher said, "In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick another."

The student went to the corn field. This time he was careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn that he felt satisfied himself and came back to the teacher.

The teacher said, "This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you got. This is marriage."

Here is a lesson that represents what we do in life. How we loose sight of what is right in front of us. We can continue to search for love. We hope for the best decision when it comes to choosing the person that we marry. Can it be so difficult? The answer is yes. We make it difficult. We place all kinds of barriers in front of us. Things like pleasing our parents. Searching for a comfortable life. Working to achieve success and having no time for relationships. Not seeing eye to eye with others. Thinking that material things comes with marriage. Not open to change or setbacks in a relationship. Not understanding that the simple things and opening of ones heart is real love.

Most guys by forty and gals at thirty five find that they may have "missed the boat" when it comes to settling down. It looks bleak at times. The main reason is that we don't put in the intention of marriage in our heads. Some had a bad experience with a guy/girl. Thrusting a person may become difficult. Mostly it's because in this day and age people don't think of rushing into marriage. There's lot's of opportunities that they don't want to miss out on. The last thing on their minds is to be tied down forever.

We end up later in life watching our friends playing with their children. Seeing people walking their kids down the aisle. Others kissing each other and holding hands. We start to imagine what it would be like to have been married and not be so lonely at times.

Bar advice. It's still not to late. Put yourself out there. Join a singles social network or go online like friendfinder. There's a lot of people that are in this boat still looking as well.

Back blogging again

I was having some difficulties with the PC and at work in the bar so haven't been able to add to the blog for a while. Anyway things were a little hectic trying to sort out the Internet marketing business that I'm in.

Busy or not, I just had to get back to this quickly. Those reading may be wondering what happened to me. Recently met a nice girl and 'No' didn't find her on friendfinder or anything like that. Just met her at the bar and we got to talk. She was kind of hot and one thing led to another and we ended up in each others arms. She is from the Philippines. Educated and very business orientated. She told me how she was doing business over the Internet and found it a little hard. That's very true actually but some like My Money Dragon aren't. There's also the OTO Goldmine and Megabooster that can make you money quite easily. If you know Google then you can use Adsense on your site like the ones on the right of this blog or you can join the Adwords Miracle that can make you a small fortune as well.

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After telling her all these things, I kind of got her a little confused. That's because she didn't know there was so many ways to earn money on the Internet.Getting back to her. She was only here for two days and we had a great time. I know people think that if you're from the Philippine or one of the other South East Asian countries then there's going to be a problem. Some people are not like that and with the experience that I have I can tell if someone is out to play me or not. This girl seemed to have her head on her sholders and was really interested to get the info to improve herself. It's always good to see people trying to better themselves and their lives.

Bar advice 律師忠告 . Trying to improve one's self is far better than moping about it. get off your ass and help yourself. Dreaming about making things better and actually doing it are two different things. I gave you examples of some of them earlier. Start somewhere.

Older women

I have recently encountered the words 'Cougar Women'.A term dreamt up by some male or possibly jealous young female to describe an older woman engaged in a relationship with a younger man. The description 'Cougar Woman' infers a predatory mature woman (35-50+) who hunts, stalks, lusts after and imposes her attentions upon some innocent, inexperienced young male.

The traditional description for the older male who does likewise is, 'Sugar Daddy'. Would it not be appropriate, in light of today's touted 'equality of the sexes' to apply the description of Panther Daddy? Who knows, if enough people around the world pick up on these descriptions then such terms might ultimately become a part of the English language.

We all know that in most cultures throughout history (even today) untold numbers of innocent, naive and inexperienced young women have being forced into unsuitable marriages. The financial, social or political benefits from such actions pass generally to males.

Today however(certainly within the western world cultures)the majority of younger male or females involved in relationships with 'Cougar Women' or 'Panther Daddies' are far from innocent, naive or inexperienced. They are educated and understand that a 'consideration' or 'benefit' forms the part of any contract. Who's to criticise such liaisons where the partners have a clear understanding and appreciation of the terms of engagement? Under the assumption that we all enjoy but one lifetime, then we should live our lives to the full but with the provision that in doing so we make every effort to avoid hurt to others.

The younger parties in such relationships can gain many benefits that they may not (perhaps due to social position) normally be able to attain in life. The older party will certainly enjoy the boost to their ego and, no doubt the sexual fun and games that will form a major feature of the relationship.

The Cougar Woman and Panther Daddy relationships are but one aspect of the 'Relationship Age Gap' equation. Statistics indicate that 'Older woman - younger man' relationships have increased substantially throughout that past sixty odd years and that great numbers of such relationships are successful and lasting based upon true and solid love connections.

Thanks to technology, health and beauty facilities of the past sixty odd years there is no reason why older woman should suffer the aging process experienced by their hard working great and great-great grand mothers.

So, this now brings me to this word 'Mature'. As I look around at the excellent physical conditions of some of the older ladies that I know, then the word mature should apply more to the 65 plus age range. I know someone that was in her 40's that was attracting younger guys even without trying.In fact she was pestered for dates by a sane, good looking 22 year-old male and although it was of much concern to her 19 year-old son, it was apparent that the lady in question was somewhat thrilled at the attention and, lets be frank about it. What woman wouldn't be?

I once read a biological article that claimed that the female sexuality peeked at the 35-40 age ranges and the male in early twenties. I would attach some credence to that claim based partly upon personal experience. Try understanding from the outset (pleasure affair, not a love affair) where the partners experience a powerful mutual instant attraction both physically and mentally, hold strong respect for each other and, perhaps above all, enjoy an unfettered ability to communicate without embarrassment, then such a relationship can develop into an exciting, pleasurable and memorable life experience for both.

Thank goodness society has changed. Today the older woman, younger man relationship would pass unnoticed. Some 40 years back however, discovery of the relationship would have resulted in the older woman being condemned and ostracized without mercy by society and, principally by her own sisterhood.Probably Hollywood had more of an influence on today's acceptance of this so it becomes something normal. Maybe the fact that not many of us see people in this situation that we don't really care either.

Bar advice.To the slightly older girls out there ignore the silly terms 'cougar' or 'mature'.If you fancy him, he fancies you and you get on well, then go for it. Doesn't matter if he's younger.You will both probably have a whale of a time both in and out of the sack? Love is blind to age as well.

Meeting girls online

Lots of men often ask me if meeting women at the clubs or in public places isn’t gradually becoming obsolete in today’s modern society with the growing popularity of the Internet? My answer to that is: Has driving become obsolete since the growing popularity of aviation?

The truth is that the Internet serves it purpose to a certain degree. Is there really any method that you can compare which can have you meeting women from as close as the girl next door or as far as all four corners of the globe and all with a single click? Probably not. But just like everything else, the Internet as a method for meeting women has its advantages and disadvantages.

Firstly, there is no comparison to seeing a woman in the flesh who you admire and plotting the course to meeting her and ultimately becoming a part of her life. Of course this too can be done on the Internet; but one big difference. On the Internet, the woman is virtual. Over the past few months I have taken a look at a few of the sites out there which have crept up to fill this void which introduce men and women to each other and all the ones which I have seen all seem to serve their purpose to some effect. As a matter of fact, I have known people who have met their perfect matches on some of these sites and have even gone on to do the ultimate.

On the other hand I am all too familiar with people who have come away from the Internet experience so beaten, broke, frustrated and battered because they have been disappointed, disillusioned and let down, by such things as the photo collectors those e-women who only collect photographs of people they “meet” on the net or those women who supply fake photographs that bear no resemblance to who they actually look like. Then there are those who like Miss Haversham from the old novel “Great Expectations” having been spurned and burned by relationships in the past they set out to trawl the net causing as much pain as possible to every man whom she happens to come across - and the Internet is full of these women.

In this age of political correctness and women’s liberation these women are more than likely wreaking vengeance on the spineless men of the net as vengeance for the absence of men approaching them. I have come to verify that experiences on the Internet aren’t too different for the women either. However, there’s one caveat for the fairer sex. The men that these ladies hope to and do attract are so desperate for attention and anything else on offer that they are willing to jump through every hoop which the women put in front of them so that they can have the chance to be with these women - and these hoops are in no short supply. Take this one for example, (and you need not be in Asia) asianfrindfinder. It may or may not be what you are after but it won't hurt to look.

These men are willing to pander (virtually and really) to these women’s’ every need, and numerous net-women have to practically fight these characters off with a stick. Some examples of this are like telling them such things as the kind of things they should do in the photographs and the style of photo that they should supply in order to obtain “special consideration.” Even though the ones that they themselves have on show are often generic. As well as cross-examining these men like a prosecutor to an accused – all to eventually declare a mistrial. For this, special consideration, these men are rewarded by the women in due course neither showing up for meetings, nor returning email and calls and similar things, and maybe some verbal abuse, if they are lucky.

Some of the women seem like the perfect person who you really would want to meet and introduce to mother but then you realize that you have been more or less automatically eliminated as soon you read the profile. Now that’s honesty but then what are you supposed to do? Run away with your tail between your legs or stick around, call the bluff, face the challenge and try to convince her otherwise? Let's suppose you do and in the most unlikely event convince her, what about the fundamental point that never would have worked in the first place. Then there are the ones that you never hear from and those that are the high-quality ones. I know a friend of mine whose phone was always ringing off the hook with calls from these women but he met few of them and has never got past first base as he would wish with any of them. We figured out it was because he was giving these women too much “special consideration” on his web space and profile. After he ceased that desperate practice it all started to change.

Look, the Internet can be and is a fun place to meet women, and it seems like this will remain so for quite some time, however it is helpful not to take the women who you meet there too seriously, that is until you personally get to know them. Try friendfinder. This helps in any part of the world where you can meet women. Additionally the odds are and can be stacked in your favor away from the offline modem if done right.

Bar advice. One thing that men must remember is that on the Internet it is easy for any man to “approach” any woman and tell her anything. But it takes a special man to actually approach a woman in person.

Money never enough

I guess with he holidays coming and the end of the year at hand we all need some extra money. Some hope to strike the lottery. some a big bonus check and some just want to get a job.

We all need money in this world. Who in their right mind can go without it. Not most of the people in the world, except a few that have some sort of vow or religion perhaps. Never the less we all need it, want it and the more the better. Not wanting to sound greedy but more is better than less. In Singapore, and a lot of other countries, living conditions and things are very high. A lot of expats come here for work and they get paid as if they were at home and more so in lots of cases. To them it is much cheaper here and that includes those that find the women of the night. The surrounding Asian countries may be cheaper but if you're working here then you got to make the best of it.

There's a lot of people that are making a truck load of cash on the Internet. There are these Internet gurus that make so much money doing this that they can live anywhere in the world and still make money with their laptops. Doing business by the beach with a Singapore Sling in your hand doesn't sound all that bad. It's not as easy as people say it is but some are rather easy. All it takes is to have a huge list of people to send info about what you got and money starts rolling in. Try the Internet Marketing Advantage to form an online business.

We go to the pubs and have our beer. Maybe a shot of tequila and see hookers propositioning themselves at us but we look across the street and see a suave nightclub with people drinking champagne and women tossing themselves at them because they just got out of a fancy Ferrari. What's their secret? Well they work smarter and with leverage marketing. Affiliates that join in their Internet businesses that increase sales for them. It's better to have a thousand working for you then you doing all the work and getting nowhere right? Lets say you affiliate with friendfinder. Well you just get people that are interested in meeting others in that site and when they pay to sign up you get a percentage of the money. Some people don't know how to go about doing internet marketing. There's help. Cody Moya has a site that will teach you the right ways. Those that don't want to do much reading can get videos with audio that shows you the steps from people like Cody. Get all the info you need for free.

When we go out and have a good time we know that we have to use money. We eat, drink and make merry and it's got to come out of our pocket. We piss all that cash away and we have to work hard to get more. Even if we spent, say, $10.00. We got to earn that back to be able to enjoy ourselves the next time. Well if you were earning a constant amount daily for not lifting a finger that would be better. Wouldn't it? This new site is doing just that. It's called GDI. It will bring you MONEY into your pocket constantly and you don't have to do a thing. If you did get people to join then you will of course make a lot more. This is got to be the easiest and cheapest. Well almost.

Bar advice. Work smarter as well. No ones telling you to give up your day job(not just yet) or beer for that matter but wouldn't it be nice to drink champagne once in a while and not have to worry about the money. Even the next day. I'd rather be having some hookah in Turkey or calamari in Barbados then slog with the boss watching me all the time. Think about it.