Discussing sex incorrectly or at the wrong time with your partner can lead to a number of undesirable consequences. You should not want your date to judge you, and you don't want your discussion to be marked with anger.
Many people are afraid of these problems. They are very shy when it comes to talking about sex with their partner. At the same time, if you are comfortable enough to have sex with someone, you should also be able to discuss it with them. However, one of the most difficult aspects of sex is bringing it up with someone you that you've never discussed the topic with before.
My advice to you is to avoid bringing up the subject of sex on the first date. It may very well be a recipe for disaster. Bringing up the discussion of sex on the first date will convey a message that you are not interested in their personality, but are instead simply focused on sex. This is perhaps one of the fastest ways to end a date. To avoid this problem, you must use self control. Get to know the person first before trying to immediately bring up the discussion of sex. You should take the time to become comfortable with the person you are dating. Once you have been on multiple dates with a person, and the two of you are more comfortable with each other, you can then bring up the discussion. Guys especially are in too much of a hurry. Why? Well he thinks that he may not get a second shot.
Even then, this should be done in a cordial manner. Avoid using vulgar words or expressions. You could ask the person if they are interested in spending more quality time with you alone. More often than not, this will convey the message that you are trying to get across, and they will either accept it or reject it. If your request is rejected, they will likely have a reason for it, and talking to them about it can allow you to learn more. In most cases, the person may want to get to know you better, or they may have a specific period of time they wish to wait before they engage in sexual relations with their partner. You should be searching for love as well, remember.
If you respect your date, you will understand this. It is wise to avoid trying to pressure someone into doing something they don't want to do. When they are ready, it will be much better for the both of you. Sex is a sensitive topic, and people will have their own beliefs based on their culture, religion, and upbringing. It is important for you to understand this.
We all want it. Yes, even the women, but we sometimes do stupid things when our animal instincts take over. Being horny is natural. Both men and women are, but, we have to be on the same page to enjoy each others comforts. Frankly, if you love someone and you're having sex with them as well, it's got to be the best feeling ever. true feelings of love in your heart adds to the act of making love. That's the kind of relationship that last a lifetime. The connection is strong and both partners know what the needs of the other one's are.
The first date sex may actually happen. Sometimes both people are just lonely or want to be loved for whatever reason and figure out the rest the next day. It's a chance taken and hopefully not regretted. It sometimes works out but it may just end. Some do it because they haven't been with anyone for a long period or the date resembles someone before. Some do it because they may be promiscuous. Try to get a sense of your dates intentions or non intentions. This is something that can't really be taught.
Bar advice. If you're going to go on dates. Be honest. True. Have fun. Flirt, but if the subject of sex does come up, don't ignore it. It may go either way. Good or bad. You'll be surprised that in this day and age, most people can talk about it fairly easy and they don't end up in bed unless they really want to.
Friday, May 4, 2007
Thursday, May 3, 2007
Danca Brasil Samba Show & Salsa girls
Bar advice. It's a cultural thing that all of us enjoy. 'Hot ass' dancing seems to be the in thing in all clubs as well. More people the merrier.
Dirty Dancing
I just met this girl from a salsa bar that came by to my place. Kat's here name. I'm nicknaming her "meow". She is a sweet looking kitten. A little petite and in great shape. That's because she's taking up dancing lessons. Salsa.
Hot and steamy, dirty dancing, hips gyrating, pelvis shaking and kick ass moving. What more can I say. Well, when I met her the second time she was in this really tight outfit that contoured her body. Drool guys. Anyway, the third time, she was at the bar to meet a friend but she arrived first so it gave me an opportunity to talk to her. During the conversation I mentioned to her about the whole 'hot ass' that I was checking out and we had a nice laugh about it. She even said that she was glad that she still has admirers out there. A bit of reverse flirting from her but why wouldn't there be. Dancers are always in good shape. Where has anyone come across a dancer that was out of shape? It's just as good as doing exercises. A great cardiovascular workout.
Later we started talking about zodiac signs. We spoke a little about it on our second meet and we got into talking about the characteristics and compatibility of others. She said that her sign is Aries and a Dragon. I have emailed her all about the Dragon but I left out the Aries part so I decided to write it here.
Aries
When they are in top form (which is often) Aries are: valorous, dexterous, affable, gifted, enterprising,well-meaning, quick-witted , lusty, daring, persuasive, competent, honest and thrifty.
But at their worst, Aries are promiscuous, willful, excessive, gullible, sanctimonious, authoritarian, rigid, belligerent, self-indulgent, isolate , brash, tightfisted, pushy and obstinate beyond all reason.
The very essence of Aries is vigor. They are born dynamic and spend their lives demonstrating a titanic ability to accomplish both manual and creative tasks in a trice. They are single-minded, capable and charmingly, babyishly naïve.
Aries is symbolized by the Ram.Rams are ramrod strong. They are also famous for tumbling slews of Damsels in distress. So not only are they powerful, Rams are uncommonly sexual.
This Ram portrait.
Aggressive, pushy and adolescently horny - is about right on where your average Aries human is concerned. Aries people are hard driving go-getter's who invariably overdo and over achieve. Aries is the first sign of the western zodiac. Untested, unsophisticated and genuine to a fault. Aries charges through life, bumping into obstacle after obstacle then getting bravely up, only to wonder where the lumps and scrapes and bruises came from. She holds no grudges. She'd rather forget the whole ugly experience and carry on as though nothing had happened. Aries live mostly in the present, ignore disagreeable memories and do not belabor the future.
Aries are believers in life with a capital 'L'. They really trust in their heart of hearts that everything is going to work out all right. When it doesn't. They simply pretend that it did.
Aries are not even remotely brainless. But they are stubbornly naive. They protect their innocence and refuse to admit to cynicism or cunning. People born in Aries don't fare well in shady dealings or tolerate folks who have dubious motives. For most Aries, if the world were a perfect place, life would be chockablock with nice people who do nice things for each other in a very nice atmosphere. Obviously, Aries are often disappointed in others.
Aries are also forthright. They blurt out exactly what they think. They adore spontaneity, prefer not to have to plan ahead and don't mind having to react instantaneously. This absolute worship of the seat-of-the-pants method of action can cause others to misapprehend Arie's motives. Not to worry. Aries are unusually true blue. They don't like to lie (unless they're lawyers) and just about never conceal their intentions. In fact, they don't seem to have deep seeded intentions. Just facts and results.
The Aries chasm is deep. They fall and fall down some more. When they finally hit bottom, they have to creep around on their hands and knees picking up rocks and turning over pebbles looking for a shred of soulful emotion. Aries are doers and goers who get on admirably with the business of life. Aries always favor outcome over emotion. They claim to love luxury and pleasure but whenever they get some lush leisure time, they find themselves bored and hurry up to get the down time over with so they can jet back into action.
In love, Aries are devoutly committed. However, due to their obsessive naive, they are stunned when love fails. "He left with my best friend! I got home from work. No clothes! No dog! No furniture! They were all gone!" Poor Aries. She didn't hear her lover's complaints or notice his numerous flirtations or understand his emotional needs.
So if you love one of these brave, soldierly creatures, don't expect to be drowning in fountains of emotion. However, on the plus side, you won't have to put up with much depression either. Get on with enjoying how talented your Aries partner is for fixing the plumbing, decorating the family room and taking the bus. She needs to be busy. Can't sit still sometimes.
Professions? Aries can do anything that requires keeping perpetually busy. They make wonderful painters and sculptors and ceramists because they are precise and work so well with their hands. I don't see much hope for Aries psychiatrists or private detectives or police officers. Aries people should stick to hands on jobs like engineering and architecture and designing and plumbing and heating and sewing and surgery and maybe even driving the bus. Hopefully one can become a salsa teacher.
Bar advice. I know she's going to 'kill' me for writing this but when you're in this business, we give out the advice that others won't. I don't know how to dance salsa but this is the only dirty dancing I can do with an Aries/Dragon. 'Hot ass', if you're reading, see you on Saturday.
Hot and steamy, dirty dancing, hips gyrating, pelvis shaking and kick ass moving. What more can I say. Well, when I met her the second time she was in this really tight outfit that contoured her body. Drool guys. Anyway, the third time, she was at the bar to meet a friend but she arrived first so it gave me an opportunity to talk to her. During the conversation I mentioned to her about the whole 'hot ass' that I was checking out and we had a nice laugh about it. She even said that she was glad that she still has admirers out there. A bit of reverse flirting from her but why wouldn't there be. Dancers are always in good shape. Where has anyone come across a dancer that was out of shape? It's just as good as doing exercises. A great cardiovascular workout.
Later we started talking about zodiac signs. We spoke a little about it on our second meet and we got into talking about the characteristics and compatibility of others. She said that her sign is Aries and a Dragon. I have emailed her all about the Dragon but I left out the Aries part so I decided to write it here.
Aries
When they are in top form (which is often) Aries are: valorous, dexterous, affable, gifted, enterprising,well-meaning, quick-witted , lusty, daring, persuasive, competent, honest and thrifty.
But at their worst, Aries are promiscuous, willful, excessive, gullible, sanctimonious, authoritarian, rigid, belligerent, self-indulgent, isolate , brash, tightfisted, pushy and obstinate beyond all reason.
The very essence of Aries is vigor. They are born dynamic and spend their lives demonstrating a titanic ability to accomplish both manual and creative tasks in a trice. They are single-minded, capable and charmingly, babyishly naïve.
Aries is symbolized by the Ram.Rams are ramrod strong. They are also famous for tumbling slews of Damsels in distress. So not only are they powerful, Rams are uncommonly sexual.
This Ram portrait.
Aggressive, pushy and adolescently horny - is about right on where your average Aries human is concerned. Aries people are hard driving go-getter's who invariably overdo and over achieve. Aries is the first sign of the western zodiac. Untested, unsophisticated and genuine to a fault. Aries charges through life, bumping into obstacle after obstacle then getting bravely up, only to wonder where the lumps and scrapes and bruises came from. She holds no grudges. She'd rather forget the whole ugly experience and carry on as though nothing had happened. Aries live mostly in the present, ignore disagreeable memories and do not belabor the future.
Aries are believers in life with a capital 'L'. They really trust in their heart of hearts that everything is going to work out all right. When it doesn't. They simply pretend that it did.
Aries are not even remotely brainless. But they are stubbornly naive. They protect their innocence and refuse to admit to cynicism or cunning. People born in Aries don't fare well in shady dealings or tolerate folks who have dubious motives. For most Aries, if the world were a perfect place, life would be chockablock with nice people who do nice things for each other in a very nice atmosphere. Obviously, Aries are often disappointed in others.
Aries are also forthright. They blurt out exactly what they think. They adore spontaneity, prefer not to have to plan ahead and don't mind having to react instantaneously. This absolute worship of the seat-of-the-pants method of action can cause others to misapprehend Arie's motives. Not to worry. Aries are unusually true blue. They don't like to lie (unless they're lawyers) and just about never conceal their intentions. In fact, they don't seem to have deep seeded intentions. Just facts and results.
The Aries chasm is deep. They fall and fall down some more. When they finally hit bottom, they have to creep around on their hands and knees picking up rocks and turning over pebbles looking for a shred of soulful emotion. Aries are doers and goers who get on admirably with the business of life. Aries always favor outcome over emotion. They claim to love luxury and pleasure but whenever they get some lush leisure time, they find themselves bored and hurry up to get the down time over with so they can jet back into action.
In love, Aries are devoutly committed. However, due to their obsessive naive, they are stunned when love fails. "He left with my best friend! I got home from work. No clothes! No dog! No furniture! They were all gone!" Poor Aries. She didn't hear her lover's complaints or notice his numerous flirtations or understand his emotional needs.
So if you love one of these brave, soldierly creatures, don't expect to be drowning in fountains of emotion. However, on the plus side, you won't have to put up with much depression either. Get on with enjoying how talented your Aries partner is for fixing the plumbing, decorating the family room and taking the bus. She needs to be busy. Can't sit still sometimes.
Professions? Aries can do anything that requires keeping perpetually busy. They make wonderful painters and sculptors and ceramists because they are precise and work so well with their hands. I don't see much hope for Aries psychiatrists or private detectives or police officers. Aries people should stick to hands on jobs like engineering and architecture and designing and plumbing and heating and sewing and surgery and maybe even driving the bus. Hopefully one can become a salsa teacher.
Bar advice. I know she's going to 'kill' me for writing this but when you're in this business, we give out the advice that others won't. I don't know how to dance salsa but this is the only dirty dancing I can do with an Aries/Dragon. 'Hot ass', if you're reading, see you on Saturday.
Monday, April 30, 2007
Confidence makes you Sexy
He walks down the street with a purpose to his step, and people notice him. He is aware of this. He especially likes the looks he gets from the ladies.
She is sitting on a bench awaiting the bus to arrive when she sees him approach from the opposite end of the street. There is just something about the way he carries himself. If she were asked to describe him using only one word, that one word would be. SEXY!!
Confidence is sexy in both men and women. However, the amount of confidence that should be displayed and still considered to be sexy differs between the sexes. Some women have had the misfortune of being labeled cold or uptight for appearing too confident. Whereas the same amount of confidence, when shown by a man does not draw such harsh criticisms.
Confidence sends a message of strength, bravery, competence, and skill to others. These positive qualities tend to attract others to the confident person. People are more likely to look for the guidance of a confident person in times of trouble and crisis. This is because confident people are strongly believed to be more level headed, able to think beyond emotions when problems or emergencies arise. Confident people tend to rise further in work careers and in other areas of life because their strong belief in themselves results in the trust of others, especially of those who can help them to further careers and social standings.
The appeal of these qualities, so often equated with confidence, (strength, bravery, competence, and skill) hearkens back to the time of the cave man. It was only those cave men who showed great confidence against such great adversity, who won the affections of cave women. Confident cave women appealed to cave men because it signaled that she was also quite capable of surviving the harshness of the world they were living in at the time. This encouraged mating between cave men and women, allowing the continuing survival of the human species despite the heavy perils to life that savage animals and environmental conditions presented for man at the time.
Today most of us live in comfortable homes, safely protected from the elements. None of us has ever had to face-down a lion in a battle for life and limb. Sexual relations are not just for the sole purpose of the continuance of the human species as it was back then. The steady growth of human populations throughout the world is testament to the fact that the human species is not in jeopardy of being lost. Still, we find confidence just as sexually appealing today as those early cave men and women did.
You can gain the confidence that will get you where you want to go in your career and life. Build your confidence. Walk with purpose in your step. Draw the attention you desire from the opposite sex with the best known aphrodisiac. Confidence!!
Did you know that exercise can help boost your confidence levels? Have you ever noticed how the really fit guy in the gym confidently lifting large weights, always seems to have a crowd of gals close to him? Have you wished for that kind of appeal with the ladies? Or how about the woman that men just can't seem to take their eyes off of, out on the dance floor with her tight, toned body, confidently grooving to the music? Would you like to have what she has? You can have the confident and fit body that commands the attention of others, through exercise.
Our society puts such an emphasis on physical beauty that it seems natural that the more fit and physically attractive a person the more confident they will be. Your sex appeal will increase with confidence and your confidence will increase the more attractive you are, and being in shape helps.
So the next time you're at the gym, hold your head high, even if you're not feeling so confident about yourself, this simple gesture holds a lot of power and you can certainly fake it. The more confident you feel about yourself the sexier those around you will find you.
Bar advice. Looks are not all thee is in life. Confidence gave Arthur Miller what he needed to be with Marilyn Monroe and he was just a timid writer. Can you do it?
She is sitting on a bench awaiting the bus to arrive when she sees him approach from the opposite end of the street. There is just something about the way he carries himself. If she were asked to describe him using only one word, that one word would be. SEXY!!
Confidence is sexy in both men and women. However, the amount of confidence that should be displayed and still considered to be sexy differs between the sexes. Some women have had the misfortune of being labeled cold or uptight for appearing too confident. Whereas the same amount of confidence, when shown by a man does not draw such harsh criticisms.
Confidence sends a message of strength, bravery, competence, and skill to others. These positive qualities tend to attract others to the confident person. People are more likely to look for the guidance of a confident person in times of trouble and crisis. This is because confident people are strongly believed to be more level headed, able to think beyond emotions when problems or emergencies arise. Confident people tend to rise further in work careers and in other areas of life because their strong belief in themselves results in the trust of others, especially of those who can help them to further careers and social standings.
The appeal of these qualities, so often equated with confidence, (strength, bravery, competence, and skill) hearkens back to the time of the cave man. It was only those cave men who showed great confidence against such great adversity, who won the affections of cave women. Confident cave women appealed to cave men because it signaled that she was also quite capable of surviving the harshness of the world they were living in at the time. This encouraged mating between cave men and women, allowing the continuing survival of the human species despite the heavy perils to life that savage animals and environmental conditions presented for man at the time.
Today most of us live in comfortable homes, safely protected from the elements. None of us has ever had to face-down a lion in a battle for life and limb. Sexual relations are not just for the sole purpose of the continuance of the human species as it was back then. The steady growth of human populations throughout the world is testament to the fact that the human species is not in jeopardy of being lost. Still, we find confidence just as sexually appealing today as those early cave men and women did.
You can gain the confidence that will get you where you want to go in your career and life. Build your confidence. Walk with purpose in your step. Draw the attention you desire from the opposite sex with the best known aphrodisiac. Confidence!!
Did you know that exercise can help boost your confidence levels? Have you ever noticed how the really fit guy in the gym confidently lifting large weights, always seems to have a crowd of gals close to him? Have you wished for that kind of appeal with the ladies? Or how about the woman that men just can't seem to take their eyes off of, out on the dance floor with her tight, toned body, confidently grooving to the music? Would you like to have what she has? You can have the confident and fit body that commands the attention of others, through exercise.
Our society puts such an emphasis on physical beauty that it seems natural that the more fit and physically attractive a person the more confident they will be. Your sex appeal will increase with confidence and your confidence will increase the more attractive you are, and being in shape helps.
So the next time you're at the gym, hold your head high, even if you're not feeling so confident about yourself, this simple gesture holds a lot of power and you can certainly fake it. The more confident you feel about yourself the sexier those around you will find you.
Bar advice. Looks are not all thee is in life. Confidence gave Arthur Miller what he needed to be with Marilyn Monroe and he was just a timid writer. Can you do it?
Sunday, April 29, 2007
The Advice Sisters
http://www.advicesisters.net
Life & career expert Advice Sister Alison helps you make great relationships and attract success, happiness & love!
Bar advice. This site is rank No1 in search engines. There's always two perspectives to questions and it gives you a feel like you're takling to friends who are giving you their advice. Great read.
What's on our minds.
The things is that we are always having thoughts of pleasure on our minds. We have visions of winning the lottery. Flying to secluded destinations with people waiting on us hand and foot. We long for the easy life and it's lustfulness of being able to get what we want and more than anything, who we want. It has to be split between guys and gals but some stuff are similar between them.
Guys
The secret desires in our heads works differently. Some guys look at at a girl walking down the street and wish she was his girlfriend or wild lover. Sometimes they imagine the girl seeking their attention and wanting them sexually. The details are all too real to them at times. Many just think back at the porn that they saw a few days ago and substitute her face with the one in the show. It also goes to the work areas like when a guy is having a business meeting with a girl. He may slowly be undressing in his mind or imaging what she looks like naked. He may even role play, in his head, a drama of himself and the girl and of course it ends up with him getting her into bed and making love.
By the end of it and when reality starts to set back in he just goes on his way doing whatever it was that's normal.The next day is another day for pleasure for him and it's his release from the world and it's difficlties. The freedom to be on top of the world and every woman being his lets him get through the day.
Girls
These women fool most men. They use modesty or just pretend that they are innocent to these thoughts and desires. They won't tell guys that they are interested. That's for sure. They know that guys look at them and when they catch one doing it they look away so there's no misunderstandings. The plain truth is that they too have these lustful, pleasurable, naughty thoughts. They long to have a knight in shinning armor come sweep them off their feet. They would rather have Prince Charming kissing them than the frog they have in their life at the moment. Women's thoughts also stretch the imagination wild but theirs are more lengthy and romantic.
The girls like to even see themselves as a ravaging beauty in some magazine that the guys are after and will drop dead in front of them. Guys always imagine themselves as they are because they are not getting any ass at that moment so it makes them feel better. The reality is, most girls don't like what they see in the mirror and want to role play other ways. A lot of them do the whole porn show thing in their heads as well but women tend to be less intrusive, like taking "it" up the ass. Hers will be pleasurable with lots of steamy scenes, water flowing, hot bodies mashed together; unless her fetish is more to bondage or something, than anything goes. At the end, and when reality sets back in, she goes on her way hoping that someone has picked up on her thoughts and will present itself the next day.
Both
I only gave a few points here. The fact is that most of us are in that zone daily. We think more about sex than anything else. Well, maybe money too. We want each other but we see the same person in different settings, seduction, romance, sexiness, roles and bed partners. Why? It's because we long for different pleasures. Men and women have different sexual needs. Guys who see porn feel inadequate because they are afraid the the girls may have seen porn and may expect him to have a cannon but when he pulls out a pee shooter, what's he to do?
Girls react differently to guys because they feel inadequate with things like the size of their breast. Maybe even that their Virgina may not be a welcome sight to him. Has he seen better? Is it tight? What's he thinking? Should I kill the lights? These things draw the women to their own sexual thoughts whereby she changes her appearance and knows what's on her mans mind and she's in control.
People fantasize daily. From money to banging the hottest Hollywood star or singer and we love it. If we didn't have that, our lives would be so screwed up that we would be miserable all the time.
Bar advice. It's human nature to have these thoughts. Whatever our marital status may be or age and even size, it's normal. The mind is a powerful tool. Use it.
Guys
The secret desires in our heads works differently. Some guys look at at a girl walking down the street and wish she was his girlfriend or wild lover. Sometimes they imagine the girl seeking their attention and wanting them sexually. The details are all too real to them at times. Many just think back at the porn that they saw a few days ago and substitute her face with the one in the show. It also goes to the work areas like when a guy is having a business meeting with a girl. He may slowly be undressing in his mind or imaging what she looks like naked. He may even role play, in his head, a drama of himself and the girl and of course it ends up with him getting her into bed and making love.
By the end of it and when reality starts to set back in he just goes on his way doing whatever it was that's normal.The next day is another day for pleasure for him and it's his release from the world and it's difficlties. The freedom to be on top of the world and every woman being his lets him get through the day.
Girls
These women fool most men. They use modesty or just pretend that they are innocent to these thoughts and desires. They won't tell guys that they are interested. That's for sure. They know that guys look at them and when they catch one doing it they look away so there's no misunderstandings. The plain truth is that they too have these lustful, pleasurable, naughty thoughts. They long to have a knight in shinning armor come sweep them off their feet. They would rather have Prince Charming kissing them than the frog they have in their life at the moment. Women's thoughts also stretch the imagination wild but theirs are more lengthy and romantic.
The girls like to even see themselves as a ravaging beauty in some magazine that the guys are after and will drop dead in front of them. Guys always imagine themselves as they are because they are not getting any ass at that moment so it makes them feel better. The reality is, most girls don't like what they see in the mirror and want to role play other ways. A lot of them do the whole porn show thing in their heads as well but women tend to be less intrusive, like taking "it" up the ass. Hers will be pleasurable with lots of steamy scenes, water flowing, hot bodies mashed together; unless her fetish is more to bondage or something, than anything goes. At the end, and when reality sets back in, she goes on her way hoping that someone has picked up on her thoughts and will present itself the next day.
Both
I only gave a few points here. The fact is that most of us are in that zone daily. We think more about sex than anything else. Well, maybe money too. We want each other but we see the same person in different settings, seduction, romance, sexiness, roles and bed partners. Why? It's because we long for different pleasures. Men and women have different sexual needs. Guys who see porn feel inadequate because they are afraid the the girls may have seen porn and may expect him to have a cannon but when he pulls out a pee shooter, what's he to do?
Girls react differently to guys because they feel inadequate with things like the size of their breast. Maybe even that their Virgina may not be a welcome sight to him. Has he seen better? Is it tight? What's he thinking? Should I kill the lights? These things draw the women to their own sexual thoughts whereby she changes her appearance and knows what's on her mans mind and she's in control.
People fantasize daily. From money to banging the hottest Hollywood star or singer and we love it. If we didn't have that, our lives would be so screwed up that we would be miserable all the time.
Bar advice. It's human nature to have these thoughts. Whatever our marital status may be or age and even size, it's normal. The mind is a powerful tool. Use it.
Tuesday, April 24, 2007
Holistic Care & Modern Day Healthy Lifestyles: You are what you eat - Part 2....
Holistic Care & Modern Day Healthy Lifestyles: You are what you eat - Part 2....
Bar advice. This is a good blog to read. Get some good tips from here. We all neglect our health and realize when it's too late or when we get sick.
Bar advice. This is a good blog to read. Get some good tips from here. We all neglect our health and realize when it's too late or when we get sick.
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