Talking about sex, again!

The roots of the widespread human insecurities and complexities which revolve around what is in essence a simple animal act reach into our not so past history. Victorian attitudes to sex persisted long into the last century.

A man in the first half of the 20th century who wanted sex with a 'nice' girl usually had to pay a price, marriage. Whilst today's bride or bridegroom will have an average of 10 sexual partners before tying the knot, back then the score was more often than not, zero. While marriage avowedly passported couples to sexual union, women and men in the 1920s and even later, still found themselves going up the aisle with a wealth of information about etiquette but stricken with poverty over the facts of life.

Virgin marriages were apparently created first out of sexual ignorance but later continued as such out of disgust for or fear of sex. Uncertainties over sexual orientation prompted others to wed, but the official blessing did not always magically translate into personal sexual fulfilment within marriage.

Fear of getting pregnant was another strong motivating factor not to go the whole way. Couples wanted to limit the number of mouths to feed. In the absence of reliable methods of contraception, withdrawal before coitus and abstinence were the reasons behind why birth rates plummeted in the 20th century and many families produced only the 'standard' two children.

Sexless marriages seem not to be confined to the pre-modern era. Celibacy in marriage as a matter of informed consent by both partners is rare but has happened. Some seem to be content to be known as someone married but not do what normal married partners do. For many couples during the last century, the sexless nature of marriage was at the insistence of the wife and was deemed a price too high to pay for many husbands. The links between sexual frustration and violence sadly seem obvious, if not inevitable.

Sexual violence also grew out of these power imbalanced relationships, incidents being triggered by a wife's refusal to give sex on demand. Men insisted on their conjugal rights and women were helpless at law to defend themselves. Marital rape was only recently created a crime and few cases were ever reported but times were, thankfully moving on, and women were soon seizing some of that power back, at work, at home and in the bedroom.

Then came the swinging sixties. Women fought loudly to cast off the shackles of domestic burdens and sexual repression, to discover and celebrate their own sexual wants and desires. Gay people came out of their closets too. Flower power buzzed with Beatlemania. The early flowerings of greater openness about our bodies and their needs. For example, women meeting together to examine their vagina's with mirrors can all too easily be dismissed as uncool by the generations born since 1970 but compared with the repressive chill which froze sexual energy in the first half of the century, this was joyous release. An atmosphere sizzling with sexual heat and alive with experimentation.

So, are we all sorted out now? For many people, both women and men, their personal experiences of the pleasures of sex and intimacy don't live up to the sex feasts supposedly on offer. When sexual abundance seems to be all around, it's hard to admit you're hungry even more so if you're starving for it whilst in a marriage or in a relationship, with its official blessing of sex, or other long term sexual partnership. Some people have fear in letting their own pleasure and enjoyment become a cheap and demeaning event in their lives or their self worth that they stop all activity at once. They tend to take a step back leaving their partners to question what they did wrong or why it isn't going any further and also why it ended. There's also the feeling of lost of self worth and unfounded worry about what the other person thinks about them especially if it doesn't work out. This strongly happens to those in the later part of their lives.

If it's something else, talking can help. Make sure that you do actually have the space and time to talk. Think about the setting and how you can create real time for each other. Importantly is to get together in the first place. It's not going to end up into a steamy sex night but loosening up a little, giving in to your needs and your partner a little should be a start. Holding hands, kisses, hugs or just a touch more should be acceptable in this modern age. What is it that you want less or more of? It's good to have moral standards on things but what if it gets in the way of your love interest? Some people like to be traditional but if you're going back a century remember we're in a new millennium.

Bar advice. Welcome to the era where talking about sex and acting out on the passion of making love is not new and not looked at as a degrading characteristic to anyone but three cheers to those that wait till marriage.

Deep Sexual Bliss

These compelling benefits can raise your stud-muffin factor 100 fold! You can last as long as you want in active lovemaking, including during intercourse.>

You can give your female partner complete sexual satisfaction by taking as long as she wants and needs to have all the orgasms she can stand. Your relationship with your lover can be immeasurably enhanced and strengthened. She will adore you! You can experience a great deal of physical pleasure, more than you could possibly imagine. You can become a multi-orgasmic man, having any number of orgasms in a single session of lovemaking that extends over a period of hours.

Each orgasm can last longer and be more intense than an ordinary ejaculation. Usually these orgasms are experienced as pleasure throughout the body rather than being restricted to the genitals alone. You can maintain optimal prostate health.

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You can regularly experience various forms of mystical altered states of consciousness. You can radiate a sense of self-confidence and charisma that you formerly may have envied in other superior alpha males.

You will also learn these..
Yin and Yang and how they relate to men and women. How variations of the missionary position can create better sexual friction. How to do the “Full Lift” to adequately stimulate the g-spot. Why sideways positions are best for sharing spiritual energy. How skilled women can let her man “Ride the elevator”.

“The Queen’s Ecstasy”, "Slipslide” and it's variations. Why you should not follow the golden rule of "do unto others". How to do "Grounding Exercises" and why they are important. What the "Yab Yum" position is and how to achieve it. Where to place your hands to best help circulating the sexual energy. When standing positions are ideal and how to accomplish them.

Positions that allows for both partners to rest, while still maintaining sexual contact. Why opposites positions are so erotic and accomplishing their variations. Why foreplay is important for females to reach orgasms. Going from friction sex to energy sex to soul sex. The different forms of foreplay and how to engage in them.

The positions that encourage emotional unions. The importance of undressing during your lovemaking sessions. The single greatest turn-on for almost every male lover. Why the woman gives more energy and how it’s beneficial when she’s on top. Why giving and receiving massages is important. What is "Sexual Fire Breath" and why is it used. The importance of fantasies and how to enact them.

And you thought you knew everything. HA!

* Side note: If you're having a medical problem in this area, my advice is to see a doctor. These things are to enhance your performance not solve your medical issues.

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Kino

So what is this thing called Kino? The common view of kino(note: kino = touching) is that you're giving the woman pleasure and that this arouses her and makes her attached to you

It's critically important to physically touch a woman early on in a seduction, sometimes referred to as "kino". Here's the scientific explanation of how and why it works. Then I'll explain how to use touch to reliably get laid.

Touching a woman causes her body to release a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin increases a woman's testosterone levels, the hormone responsible for her sex drive. Oxytocin also causes her to feel a bonding with you and to feel good around you. Even for a woman who "never feels like sex" and acts cold, a few touches can make her horny for sex. It doesn't matter where or how much you touch her, even a small touch on the arm is enough to release oxytocin hormones into her body and warm her up to you.What's more, oxytocin gives her the desire to be touched even more, producing yet even more oxytocin, a reinforcing cycle of sex hormone escalation.

One other thing. This oxytocin touch response is much more powerful for women than for men. Oxytocin requires estrogen to work. Without estrogen, it has no effect and women have much more estrogen in their bodies than men. Okay, here is how to use this powerful scientific knowledge to get laid.

First, be the kind of guy who is comfortable touching women from the moment you meet them. Be a physical kind of person. Act as if touching a woman is a normal thing you do all the time and women will accept that. If you start touching a woman all of a sudden after a few weeks, it will seem weird to her, so start from the very first time you meet her.

Begin with small touches on the hands and arms to make her oxytocin hormones kick in. As you progress, play footsies with her under table. Take her hand when you walk together (don't ask, just take it). Tell her to sit on your lap and stroke her thighs (again, don't ask just do). The more you touch her in a playful take-charge way, the more she'll want more touches and then even more. By the time you're touching her nipples through her shirt the oxytocin hormones will be raging, shooting her testosterone driven sex drive into the stratosphere.

Also, never ask a woman "Can I touch you?" It's creepy. Don't ask. Women like men of action, assuming you have some form of rapport with her. Don't suddenly spring into that sort of action because she'll say you molested her. Now here's what you do with women who consider you to be "just a friend". One woman I knew considered me "just a friend" and whatever I said to her didn't seem to work.

Knowing the scientific certainty of her oxytocin response, I began to work my spell. At first, I touched her innocently on her arms and hands. No resistance. Soon I got more playful with her and would hold her by the waist. She kept telling me she only wanted to be friends, but her body was beginning to tell me another story. I also told her how much "I liked being friends" with her. I then proceeded to playfully tickle her from time to time. All the touching made her oxytocin and testosterone levels flood her body and she was getting horny despite herself.

Pretty soon she was calling me and after we've did the "deed", her bonding feelings for me caused by the oxytocin were firmly entrenched. That's the flip side of the oxytocin response once you've got her, your only problem will be keeping her at arms length! Kino is a touchy subject and can get difficult in the end.

Bar advice. Keep your hands in your pockets if you don't want to persue the girl. Turning her on and then turning her away is not a good thing to do.

Giving her adventure, romance and the forbidden....

Guys got to learn that they are not the only ones that have day dreams of doing stuff that's just wacky and out of this world. We all have work to do and our normal daily stuff makes us drift to fantasy land when we want to escape away from it all. However, guys can use this advantage to get the girls.

Women secretly long for romantic rebellion, for a chance to become irrational and uncivilized. Women are dying to be overwhelmed with emotions, to let go of their usual routine. They hunger for something more out of life, something grand, something like the adventure and romance they read about in books as young children.

Deep down women are actually excited and intrigued by guilty, transgressive pleasures. Women are not the sweet, innocent creatures that some men would like to imagine them to be. Like men, they are deeply attracted to the forbidden and the dangerous. Guys get shocked when they hear what some of the ladies are thinking.

The seducer knows that women are waiting for adventure and sexual pleasure. Women never get enough of it from friends and lovers, and they cannot get it by themselves. The seducer knows that women want more illusion, fantasy, play, and forbidden sex. He knows that they want to participate in something rare and thrilling.

You can play on this dream of women by promising a fantasy world of escape and pleasure, by creating the picture inside her head of a fantastic future in which you'll whisk her away to. Sometimes it's just that particular moment like having sex in public and feeling the thrill of almost getting caught. It's an adrenaline rush.

Talk about adventure and travel, and have your apartment a place dedicated to pleasure and play where she feels transported away from the world of work and responsibility.

Do not talk of work, duties, judgments, or reality. Instead, offer the rare thrill of losing herself in the moment, where her five senses come alive and her mind is left behind. If you sell them pleasure and adventure, an escape from their dull reality, women will happily follow you. Learn to add words like a spa message done by you, candlelight, rose petals or even bubbles in your conversation. The power of suggestion is very tempting.

Be that man that promises women that thrilling adventure of pleasure and passion. Be the charismatic that lifts her thoughts up into the clouds. Be the lover who promises them unsurpassed sexual and romantic passion. Be the fire who insinuates the sexually forbidden and the dangerous. Be the natural who has that ease around women that makes them comfortable and want to follow you to the ends of the earth.

Make things happen. Become the kind of man who can whisk the women away on the promise of sexual adventure, fun and pleasure with a strong and thrilling man who can take her away into passion and dreams. You still got to put in the hard work if you want her to melt in your arms.

Bar advice. Women too have feeling and thoughts of all these things. Next time you're in front of a girl and she seems in that daydream state, ask her. If she tries to evade the question, well, you know what to do.

What's on our minds.

The things is that we are always having thoughts of pleasure on our minds. We have visions of winning the lottery. Flying to secluded destinations with people waiting on us hand and foot. We long for the easy life and it's lustfulness of being able to get what we want and more than anything, who we want. It has to be split between guys and gals but some stuff are similar between them.

Guys
The secret desires in our heads works differently. Some guys look at at a girl walking down the street and wish she was his girlfriend or wild lover. Sometimes they imagine the girl seeking their attention and wanting them sexually. The details are all too real to them at times. Many just think back at the porn that they saw a few days ago and substitute her face with the one in the show. It also goes to the work areas like when a guy is having a business meeting with a girl. He may slowly be undressing in his mind or imaging what she looks like naked. He may even role play, in his head, a drama of himself and the girl and of course it ends up with him getting her into bed and making love.

By the end of it and when reality starts to set back in he just goes on his way doing whatever it was that's normal.The next day is another day for pleasure for him and it's his release from the world and it's difficlties. The freedom to be on top of the world and every woman being his lets him get through the day.

Girls
These women fool most men. They use modesty or just pretend that they are innocent to these thoughts and desires. They won't tell guys that they are interested. That's for sure. They know that guys look at them and when they catch one doing it they look away so there's no misunderstandings. The plain truth is that they too have these lustful, pleasurable, naughty thoughts. They long to have a knight in shinning armor come sweep them off their feet. They would rather have Prince Charming kissing them than the frog they have in their life at the moment. Women's thoughts also stretch the imagination wild but theirs are more lengthy and romantic.

The girls like to even see themselves as a ravaging beauty in some magazine that the guys are after and will drop dead in front of them. Guys always imagine themselves as they are because they are not getting any ass at that moment so it makes them feel better. The reality is, most girls don't like what they see in the mirror and want to role play other ways. A lot of them do the whole porn show thing in their heads as well but women tend to be less intrusive, like taking "it" up the ass. Hers will be pleasurable with lots of steamy scenes, water flowing, hot bodies mashed together; unless her fetish is more to bondage or something, than anything goes. At the end, and when reality sets back in, she goes on her way hoping that someone has picked up on her thoughts and will present itself the next day.

Both
I only gave a few points here. The fact is that most of us are in that zone daily. We think more about sex than anything else. Well, maybe money too. We want each other but we see the same person in different settings, seduction, romance, sexiness, roles and bed partners. Why? It's because we long for different pleasures. Men and women have different sexual needs. Guys who see porn feel inadequate because they are afraid the the girls may have seen porn and may expect him to have a cannon but when he pulls out a pee shooter, what's he to do?

Girls react differently to guys because they feel inadequate with things like the size of their breast. Maybe even that their Virgina may not be a welcome sight to him. Has he seen better? Is it tight? What's he thinking? Should I kill the lights? These things draw the women to their own sexual thoughts whereby she changes her appearance and knows what's on her mans mind and she's in control.

People fantasize daily. From money to banging the hottest Hollywood star or singer and we love it. If we didn't have that, our lives would be so screwed up that we would be miserable all the time.

Bar advice. It's human nature to have these thoughts. Whatever our marital status may be or age and even size, it's normal. The mind is a powerful tool. Use it.

Adding some spice to what you got.

Life is made of many things that we either love or hate. All of us are busy trying to get as much as possible of the things we love and to avoid those we hate, Relationships, however, are among the rare things that are entirely up to us. Relationships can be wonderful or hateful. It’s the feeling between the partners, the experience and the chemistry that count. If you love the other and know enough about yourself and the world to avoid mistakes then you’ll have a fine relationship. If you and your partner are also satisfied with each other in bed, then heaven is one step away.

Exploration is one of the keys to the kingdom of love. You have to know how to do it and how to time it. Don’t leave it out of the relationship or it will go stale. Don’t rush it either or pretty soon there’ll be nothing left to explore. Wanting to know your partner inside out is fine, but don’t try to learn it all in the first three months. This is a process you can spread over a couple of years, leaving little secrets for future discoveries and preparing surprises for your partner.

The same goes for sex and its role in relationships. For some people, sex is the great catalyst that binds a relationship and makes it good. It’s the act that ends all fights and makes everything seem perfect for a while. For others, sex is a pleasant, but not overly so, pastime, a sort of bonus to the relationship. No chance of it being the main course here.

Regardless of what you want sex to be in the relationship, this act of physical pleasure should benefit from the passion to explore that we have discussed above. Many men and women who say sex is a modern obsession that should be given no more than its proper place in a relation have little idea of what sex could be. The combinations of moves and positions available for both foreplay and sex are practically unlimited and the pleasure of sustained exploration for things that could further enhance the experience for both partners is like buying a hot new car and finding a case full of money in the trunk.

Another thing, we know that searching for tips and tricks and hints may be a difficult business. Many people don’t have the time for this, especially in today’s busy world. A thorough knowledge of sexual techniques is ideal for men and women looking for the ultimate sensual experience and we could all use a guide or list of tips every once in a while. A lot of us have fantasies and fetishes that may or may not turn the other one on but you never know till it's discussed. if you're into one thing surely the other 'may' be possible. Communication is the key.

Bar advice.Whether you’re looking for the ancient Indian techniques described in the Kama Sutra, toys for sweet sex games or just some tips on how to convince your partner to go along with a fantasy, communication will bring more into the relationship than you can imagine.Start doing it today and you’ll be a better lover in no time at all.