Holiday's we're "Chasing Bars"

Here is a You Tube video showing what we may be doing this Christmas and New Year. It's a really humorous copy of the music and song, Chasing Cars by Snow Patrol, that was a worldwide hit from the show Grey's Anatomy. Here is the funny song, Chasing Bars, by DCLugi.



Bar advice. Chasing bars or cars isn't as fun as chasing boys or girls. Have fun this holiday time chasing what you need.

Me, Aerosmith and a girl.

The night before I played Aerosmith on air, Dottie(not real name), came to the bar with her boyfriend. He had been there before but not her. The moment I saw her and heard her speak, I knew there was something special about her.

They sat a the far end of the bar. I played some of the latest hit and such but later I decided to change to some older rock tunes. As the songs kept going I noticed that Dottie was bopping and tapping her feet to the beat a little more. Now, I know this business and what she was doing told me that she was enjoying it. The guy on the other hand didn't seem to know all the songs unlike her. I got to chat with both later that night and managed to get a business card from her so I could email her if I opened a new bar. Yeah right! I just wanted it for myself anyway. Later they left but not before she said she would return the next day. I had hoped that she liked me too.

Now the next day comes. Guess who I see first. Early in the day it's Kat, a.k.a.'hot ass'. She's got salsa classes so stopped by after reading the emails I sent everyone about the bar closing. We talked for a while. I got her a drink because I wasn't going to be there anymore. Later I got to steal a quick kiss from her as a farewell. Told her I was going to miss her coming around. She's a fun girl and we could talk about anything and everything even though she was younger than myself.

Let's get back to Dottie. She finally shows up about nine that evening. Brought three friends as she said she would. They all seemed like nice people. They sat at the last table but later one of her girlfriends walked over to the bar, which was the smoke zone, and starting talking to me while having a puff. Not sure if that was anything planned but I was about to get a plan of my own going. I decided to change the hip hop music I was playing to something more rock because of the night before. Just before that the same girlfriend and a guy came up to smoke. Said a quick hello and went to slot in the CD.

My back is normally turned away from the customers when changing discs. As I got the first track on, I had to take the other disc out from the other player, I heard someone calling. There was Dottie at the bar area. She just said, "I love Aerosmith" to which I replied "Yeah, it's one of my favourites too". She went back to her seat right after that. I wasn't sure why but after that all returned as well. I started to sing along to some of the tracks. This I knew I could do reasonably well. I just wanted to impress her at the same time enjoy it with her. I was also hoping she'd take more notice since she took delight in their songs.

I then decided to bring over a mug of beer to keep her there a little longer. I saw that all the glasses were empty so I just said that hers was on the house for being a fan as well. I was hoping that I could persuade her to stay if the other three was going to leave but to my astonishment she came up with the idea instead. Her friends left and she brought over her beer and sat at the bar so we could chat. I was rocking then. We enjoyed more of the songs and also played some of the other stuff from the previous night that she liked. She just fascinated me. I hoped that she had a good time as well. I did feel a connection to her in a very odd manner. Still don't know what it is.

Later she had her boyfriend meet her at the main road to take her home. I called her the next day but she was busy. Tried to get her to come down so I sent a text message. She replied she was coming with her boyfriend the next day. When asked why not alone, she replied because she was 'with him'. I had no words. I told myself, truly what else can I say. She was with someone else. Devastating to hear because you don't really find Aerosmith fans that easily. For that matter a chick that likes rock tunes nowadays. Well actually because she's really sweet too.

As she was leaving I did, however, get a return kiss on the cheek as I kissed her hand goodbye. It was very unexpected. I felt some chemistry but not sure about her. Perhaps, I hope. Nevertheless, I can only depend on fate now.

Even I may go "Crazy" when I meet a hot chick like that. Anyone meeting a girl hopes she'll show "Sweet emotion" and she'll look like an "Angel". We don't want a "Rag doll" and we don't want them "Cryin" either. When you're "Living on the edge", you really got to "Walk this way" and "Get a grip" of yourself. Men like them and want them. Even a "Blind man" can see that so if you're "Jadded" and you keep saying "I don't want to miss a thing", do what poker players do. Throw the dice of life and if "Dueces are wild" get "Back in the saddle" and "Kiss your past goodbye". Remember her "Pink" lips and "What it takes" to "Dream on". You don't have "Nine lives" and everyone knows that "Falling in love is hard on your knees". If you say there's a "Hole in my soul" then wait for "Fallen angels" because "Somethings gotta give". You never know if something "Amazing" could happen. Gotta leave it to fate.

Bar advice. Those that are real Aerosmith fans can understand. If you're not, well, " Ain't that a bitch".

Chasing Cars ( Grey's Anatomy Special)

Bar advice. Those that have seen Grey's Anatomy will know it. What it shows as well is the pain, troubles, difficulties and daily struggles that people go through to make it in the world. Sometimes we can't do it by ourselves. Sometimes we need to reach out.

Here without you

Bar advice. Sometimes we all feel bad when we break up, divorce, loose someone or move away. That's part of life but they will always be in our hearts and minds. It's OK to cry.

Meeting women in bars and on the street

So you want to know how to meet girls in areas with plenty of them. Here are the situations First: The bars and clubs where the music is so loud, where there are too many people with little or no space to move, and the girls are dancing with themselves,. The main idea is that it is very hard and almost pointless to start a conversation in these areas. How do I do it?

Second: How do I meet girls who are walking along the street maybe going somewhere. Like on their way to work or shopping or somewhere else. The point is how do people do this to with women. But here, its almost considered weird because you pop out of nowhere and she's not expecting it.

Finally, what do you do when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend? Should you leave her alone or continue your business of getting her? What if she is totally in love with her boyfriend, how do you win her over?

Okay, first, bars and clubs are very difficult venues. Unless you're specially suited to the party style nightlife, these venues will be a bit daunting and even if you are predisposed to this type of pick up, you will still have to deal with lots of competition from other men. That said, it's not impossible to meet women in nightclubs. But it will require you to be a little more outgoing and aggressive than other venues.Unless she's a working girl then there's no problem except the money as price.

Here's stuff that you can do. When you're in a club, you tend to like to hang out in open-air areas where you can talk to other people easier. Patios that are right outside the club can be good for this. Most clubs will have some form of outdoor area where you can hang out especially places like New York and Los Angeles and even Singapore (Starting in July 2007) where you're not allowed to smoke inside. The dance floor can also be quite effective. If you like to dance, go out there and try dancing with the women who are dancing by themselves. If they're not into it, move on. If they are then it's play time! Also, keep in mind the time at which you're going to the club. Usually, the later it gets, the easier it is to pick up a girl (this is because as it gets later, people are more predisposed to "hook up" due to alcohol, desperation, boredom, etc.) so think about that.

Second, to approach women on the street takes a bit of finesse. People do tend to be a bit more private than in many parts of the world. My best advice in this respect is to actually follow the girl for a bit and see where she's going. If she stops off at a coffee shop or a bus stop, or whatever, that is the time to approach her! If it looks like she's going someplace you can't follow her into (like her home or office for instance) then you'll have to take the chance and try approaching her cold. But make it a quick approach and include a time constraint ("I know you're on your way somewhere, this will only take a second..."), get her number as quick as you can, then move on.

Finally, when it comes to the "boyfriend" thing, that's a matter of personal taste. Some guys don't want to mess with that, others don't care. The thing is, most women aren't that committed to their boyfriends, so it's not as big of an obstacle as you might think.The important thing to do in this situation is to try and "read" the woman. Sometimes, a girl will tell you she has a boyfriend when she really doesn't because she wants to politely reject you (and sometimes she really does have a boyfriend and wants to stay faithful to him). If this is the case, you have to look at the signals she's giving you to see if she's actually into you or not. If a woman does like you and is in fact into you, she will usually withhold the fact that she has a boyfriend. And if she does bring it up, she wants you to take the lead and "sweep her off her feet" so she won't have to feel guilty about cheating on him. So when that's the case, it's time to pump up the aggressiveness on your pick up.

Bar advice. If you learn how to read a woman properly then you'll get somewhere. Don't fear rejection to the point that you'll become the oldest bachelor among your friends. If you need help then I suggest you get some help from books or ebooks on the subject

Beyonce - Irreplaceable

This song is for all those that need advice when you don't know what to do in a bad relationship.

Bar advice. No one is irreplaceable.