New Year...Wow 2007 is here.

I could not write during the eve or the first two days as I was partying a little too much. I think most of us would have done so. Now that it's a new year, what do we do?

Lots of people would have made their resolutions and such, which they are not going to keep, and some didn't even think about it till today because they were partying too much so they're not sure what to change for the new year. Probably nothing. I didn't really make any either. Not because I didn't remember but because I just decided to make decisions and not waste time on wishful thinking.

This will be part of what i am deciding to do and I'm going to write these things down before they get diminished or fade away from my thoughts. What are some of these things? Well first of all I got to change this blog to the full extent of my abilities and not just limit down to talking about girls and booze and fun stuff. I have decided to make it more flexible. basically I'll talk about all sorts of things and how it effects us.

That doesn't mean that I won't be bring up all the stuff I advised people about that have sought my advice at the bars. The whole thing connects really. It's mashed up between what's now and stuff I know. Basically I'm going to merge what I know about from my current place. The Roof Bar with all the others before and add stuff that's happening to me now. Somehow this blog has become my bar and I'm pouring out the stuff out just like a patron.

Bar advice. We all need a bartender to talk to. some find it elsewhere.

Looking forward to the New Year or not.

The end of the year is coming so what is going on in our heads. Well, for some it's work, business, new beginnings and for others it's who am I going to be with to party on new years eve.

Just like Christmas we sometimes have that sense of loneliness. New year, however, is celebrated by everyone around the planet so just as we are looking forward to new beginnings, we also want to have a last ending and going out with a bang. What is going to happen is we will start to give ourselves resolutions for the coming year and tell ourselves that we got to stick to them. The problem is that we also tell ourselves that we got a few days to party like mad.

We hit the bars, clubs, massage places and some maybe even the red light districts. It's natural and a lot of people will be doing just that. Two years ago I remember a really great, freak out time we had at a previous bar that I had. There were so many hot girls and the guys were salivating just looking at them. There were some hookers but it was all fun. Like I said, everyone celebrates the new year. The feeling in the air was like a full moon above and all the coyotes were howling. Something you see in the movies or cartoons.

We all got that animal magnetism. It draws the male and female togetherness and when there's something to celebrate and lots of drinks at the bar, then hormones take over and we go a little nuts over sex. The opposite sex, even if less attractive on that night, is still pursued because everyone wants to end with a bang like I said. Somehow we just want something special before the last day of the year. some because it was a really bad year for work or some because they are far away from the one they love. Maybe some need to fill a space when they broke up with someone recently. Even the hookers will throw in a freebie if they like you.

Bar advice. Before the end of the year comes. Make those resolutions. In fact make a long list of it then after that when the first day comes. Take out that list and throw it all away except one. Why? Because it's hard to change. You'll feel better when you can do one then not do any.

Christmas Time

Well it seems that the time of year, Christmas, has just passed. If you notice, I haven't been doing anything with the blog because I've been too busy. Not because of work, mind you, but I actually closed the bar for a few days.

What have I been doing? Well, Christmas eve I went to church for mass. Then went back to my sisters place for some grub. Later we went to my brother in law's(sis husband) mother's home. She also happens to be my godmother. I've been going there for the last 27 years actually. We normally get there after they finish the midnight mass. Eventually everyone gathers and there will be some exchange of presents. Lot's of food and drink and we end up going home by 4am. This is normal and a bit of a tradition for us.

Following day I went to his brother's house for lunch. They were all there as well. I didn't get to see his home previously as he got married last year but was staying at his mom's home till then so it was a nice treat for me. Also met up with a few people that I hadn't seen in a while. Did give them a few business cards for my bar. Hope that helps me later.

Next night we ended up in my sisters place. She had already planed this party on boxing day so that she would have enough time to prepare everything to eat and drink. As usual, I ended up being the bartender for the night. For the first time, they got the church guys to bring down the band equipment. It was set up in the living room and after the main guys had their meal they started playing. The food, by the way, was great. We had turkey, ham, stuffing, black pepper beef, baked cauliflower, stir fried vegetables and lots more. There was also some nice deserts, cakes and fruits. Best of all was the people and enough booze to go around for a great party.

We took turns to sing. There were a lot of carols but a lot of other music as well. Mostly those great oldies which ranged from the Bee Gees, Beatles, Elvis and lots more. We all had such a good time in spite of the rain that came down all night. The house was full of people. I finally got to give everyone their presents. I could see they were happy about what they got, especially the ladies, as I got them all jewelry items this year. Thank goodness my internet cash has come in handy. The IMA has pulled in good cash for me. Anyway the worst part about all this was me waiting for Brenda to call me. Why?

I sent her a Christmas present by mail. I even paid for LUM( Local urgent mail) service so it would get to her before Christmas. She only contacted me the next day at about 1am. I guess this was because she finally opened her present and saw that I sent her diamond earnings. The thing is, she messaged me instead of calling. Although she wrote that the present was too expensive but she liked it, she could have at least picked up the phone. I told myself that I was going to 'test' her anyway but I will say that I was disappointed. I have yet to conclude on this matter.

Bar advice. Sometimes the company of family, friends and loved ones are more important during Christmas. Those of us that are alone and sad should reflect on this. It's not the presents but the presence of others that brings joy into our hearts.

Wishing before Christmas

We all do it. We want something before that date arrives. It reflects many people. Even if you're not in that faith religiously. We know what it feels like because we see it in the people around us day to day.

People are either shopping for presents, booking hotel rooms or dinner reservations for that night. Well, we want all that too but some may be having a bad year so it's not going to work out as we like. Then what?

Well, we make the best of it. Remember that girl Brenda that I mentioned before, well I haven't spoken to her for about 2 weeks and today I messaged her for her zip code. She replied back with it but asked the reason. She indicated that if I was sending a card, it would get there late but I replied that it wasn't a card at all. In fact she doesn't know it but I'm sending her Diamond earrings. Why?

Well I'm surprising her. I did not contact her for 2 weeks because I just felt that we needed space and this time of the year is a tense period. If I push it I may loose her all together. I hope she likes what she gets. Whatever it is, I still really, really, really like her.
I leave it to faith that falls next year. I'll highlight about this again soon.

Bar advice. Let things take it's course slowly sometimes. We're all only human.

Beyonce - Irreplaceable

This song is for all those that need advice when you don't know what to do in a bad relationship.

Bar advice. No one is irreplaceable.

To the left

If you have heard Beyonce's song or seen the video then you'll feel that it's just right if you're in that situation. This could go both ways. Guys and girls. The song can be seen that way.

What do you do if you get that situation going on with the person you are with? The time will come when you say enough is enough. The holiday season is current and it's not the time for quarrels and such but what do you do if things are bad in a relationship? First thing that we think of is that we don't want to be alone. Especially this time of the year. Then we think of how we will be looked at by others when they see that you're not with the other by your side. Some may congratulate you while others may frown at you. This brings me to this story of this girl Christine who was with this guy Tom.

Tom was not as educated as her and was very jealous whenever she talked or interacted with other guys. He was also younger than her a couple of years. They were together a few years till Christine ended her job because the company closed down. She had three kids to look after and this guy was becoming more like the fourth kid that she didn't want. She confided in me about a lot of things that went on in their daily lives. From him acting like a dad to her kids, that she didn't like, their quarrels and all the way to their sex life. Even to the point of telling me that his penis was too small to satisfy her. We laughed at that together but she wasn't laughing all the time. Mostly it was tears that she showed. It seems that Tom took her in the sense like she was his wife. Trouble is, he wasn't.

It got to a point where she was frustrated with all of his faults. Asking her for money, when he knew that she had been cheated by someone recently, to getting her to foot the travel fares for them to go to Thailand for a holiday. She wasn't able to get a job for a while and he was always making things worse for her especially since she had three other mouths to feed. She had bought him clothes and jewelry before and he never did anything really nice for her. Every time he wanted her it was for his own pleasure and not her needs sexually or supporting her financially. It came to a point when she could not take it anymore. Then one day it happened.

Things just got ugly. He started accusing her of being with someone else. Not having time for him and understanding him or his problems. She got so mad that she slapped him in front of relatives and friends and took all his stuff and threw it out of the house. Day after day he kept calling and pleading her with SMS messages to come back. She actually met him once after that and it turned out to be another disaster that evening. More so it confirmed to her that it was totally over.

She's doing all right now. Got a new job and changing homes. No guy with her as yet but she said she was going to hold off and not jump in with both feet till she was ready.

Bar advice. When I asked her what was the best thing about what happened after all that. She said that it was the sense of liberation and total freedom again that made her feel that she could soar like an eagle and she knew that things would somehow work out.

Money never enough

I guess with he holidays coming and the end of the year at hand we all need some extra money. Some hope to strike the lottery. some a big bonus check and some just want to get a job.

We all need money in this world. Who in their right mind can go without it. Not most of the people in the world, except a few that have some sort of vow or religion perhaps. Never the less we all need it, want it and the more the better. Not wanting to sound greedy but more is better than less. In Singapore, and a lot of other countries, living conditions and things are very high. A lot of expats come here for work and they get paid as if they were at home and more so in lots of cases. To them it is much cheaper here and that includes those that find the women of the night. The surrounding Asian countries may be cheaper but if you're working here then you got to make the best of it.

There's a lot of people that are making a truck load of cash on the Internet. There are these Internet gurus that make so much money doing this that they can live anywhere in the world and still make money with their laptops. Doing business by the beach with a Singapore Sling in your hand doesn't sound all that bad. It's not as easy as people say it is but some are rather easy. All it takes is to have a huge list of people to send info about what you got and money starts rolling in. Try the Internet Marketing Advantage to form an online business.

We go to the pubs and have our beer. Maybe a shot of tequila and see hookers propositioning themselves at us but we look across the street and see a suave nightclub with people drinking champagne and women tossing themselves at them because they just got out of a fancy Ferrari. What's their secret? Well they work smarter and with leverage marketing. Affiliates that join in their Internet businesses that increase sales for them. It's better to have a thousand working for you then you doing all the work and getting nowhere right? Lets say you affiliate with friendfinder. Well you just get people that are interested in meeting others in that site and when they pay to sign up you get a percentage of the money. Some people don't know how to go about doing internet marketing. There's help. Cody Moya has a site that will teach you the right ways. Those that don't want to do much reading can get videos with audio that shows you the steps from people like Cody. Get all the info you need for free.

When we go out and have a good time we know that we have to use money. We eat, drink and make merry and it's got to come out of our pocket. We piss all that cash away and we have to work hard to get more. Even if we spent, say, $10.00. We got to earn that back to be able to enjoy ourselves the next time. Well if you were earning a constant amount daily for not lifting a finger that would be better. Wouldn't it? This new site is doing just that. It's called GDI. It will bring you MONEY into your pocket constantly and you don't have to do a thing. If you did get people to join then you will of course make a lot more. This is got to be the easiest and cheapest. Well almost.

Bar advice. Work smarter as well. No ones telling you to give up your day job(not just yet) or beer for that matter but wouldn't it be nice to drink champagne once in a while and not have to worry about the money. Even the next day. I'd rather be having some hookah in Turkey or calamari in Barbados then slog with the boss watching me all the time. Think about it.

Whatever

Somehow I decided to just focus about this girl Brenda at the moment. Instead of discussing other things, situations and such but I will bring that up though because they reflect what is happening to me currently as well.

Whatever happens between us is somewhere between personal, private but also weird. Why? Well she in one state or another at different times of the day and I don't even know where I fit in . It's like I fit in only to when her agenda seems to want it. I know that I've been around the block with a truck load of girls before but there's nothing like the chase of a beautiful and gorgeous women. This is the hunt that I have been longing for after some time now.

She makes me feel like a teen at times that is looking for his first kiss. I like it. Last night I met here with two of her cousins and it was fine. they did not drink much as it was a Sunday but I just wanted to be seen by some of her relatives. They both were girls so that made it a little funny trying to squeeze conversations in especially since they were talking more about their family issues. Whatever.

All I know is that after the cousins left we had a reasonably good time talking . Got to kiss her on the shoulders, which is Divine, and sent her home in the cab. Did get pissed off that she didn't allow me to kiss her goodnight. That's the thing about her. One day all's good and the next day I go no idea what's in her head. She never responded to my calls today either. Sometimes I want to give up but she's a fight that I don't want to either. Know what I mean? See, I just like everyone else.

Bar advice. Patience some times may be better. Wait, watch, listen and then try again.