Are you bored with work and in need of some inspiration for something a little more out of the ordinary? The four astrological elements (Fire, Earth, Air and Water) can act as a guide to help you discover what unique career opportunities might be right for you!
Recently saw a girl blogging about her zodiac and what she loves to do so I thought I'd post this.
Fire(Aries, Leo and Sagittarius)
Those born under a Fire sign are natural-born leaders. Like a torch, they often light the way. Never ones to shy away from a challenge, Fire signs won't stick around for long if a job becomes dull or monotonous. Looking for a new career path? The best place to start is by reexamining your passions. What thrills and excites you? Make a list and then research related careers. Trailblazing Aries thrives on a challenge and loves winning the game, attractive Leo knows how to put on a show and passionate Sagittarius is up for any adventure. Unique careers include, fire fighter, stunt person, TV anchor, professor, travel guide and ambassador. The world is at your feet!
Earth(Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn)
Earth signs can put their practical nature to use when it comes to career plans. They love creature comforts and are willing to work long and hard for the money to get them. They can make their mark in any organization that values excellent communicators and remarkable organizers. Taurus makes an excellent executive, clear-headed Virgo excels in industry and responsible Capricorn is a regular workhorse. Earth signs might consider running for mayor, taking up rock-climbing, becoming a ballet impresario or learning a few carpentry skills. No matter how big the dreams, Earth signs will stay grounded!
Air (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius)
People ruled by Air love being creative and have a knack for seeing things from multiple perspectives. If you need a career change, make use of these talents. Do a creative career brainstorm by jotting down as many job ideas as you can. Consider the most attractive careers or companies and then imagine yourself in an interview. What would a possible employer feel about your qualifications? How would a client react to your personal style? Gemini is a versatile communicator, fair Libra a truth-seeker and peaceful Aquarius wants to save the world. Interesting careers? Public relations specialist, fund raiser, theatrical agent, interior designer and alternative healer. The world is your oyster!
Water (Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces)
It might seem that Water-ruled signs would have the hardest time when it comes to career planning because they are ruled so strongly by emotions. But Water signs are intuitive and artistic, and can think very creatively about their career paths. It's not unusual for people with a strong Water element to have the most unconventional and exciting careers. Sensitive Cancer makes a strong protector, wily Scorpio an excellent manager and dreamy Pisces a fine artist or musician. Unique careers include art critic, midwife, oceanographer, hypnotist and private investigator. Follow your bliss!
Bar advice. Whether you fall under the Fire, Earth, Air or Water element, there is no career that is off-limits to you. The best advice is to match your strongest qualities and interests with careers that require them.
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
Monday, August 13, 2007
Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows
Readers beware. The brilliant, breathtaking conclusion to J.K. Rowling's spellbinding series is not for the faint of heart--such revelations, battles, and betrayals await in Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows that no fan will make it to the end unscathed. Luckily, Rowling has prepped loyal readers for the end of her series by doling out increasingly dark and dangerous tales of magic and mystery, shot through with lessons about honor and contempt, love and loss, and right and wrong. Fear not, you will find no spoilers here, to tell the plot would ruin the journey, and Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows is an odyssey the likes of which Rowling's fans have not yet seen, and are not likely to forget. But we would be remiss if we did not offer one small suggestion before you embark on your final adventure with Harry--bring plenty of tissues.
Bar Advice. Sure this is children's books but don't we all want to go back to our childhood sometimes. Just an escape to a world of magic can make us feel so much better.
Sunday, August 12, 2007
Love and marriage
A student asked a teacher. "What is love ?"
The teacher said, "In order to answer your question. Go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi stalk and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick another."
The student went to the field, went through the first row and saw one big padi stalk, but he wondered, maybe there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one but thought may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realise that the padi was not as big as the initial one he saw, he knew he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted it. So he went back to the teacher with empty hands.
The teacher said "This is love. You keep looking for a better one, but when you realised it, you have already missed the right one"
"What is marriage then ?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick another."
The student went to the corn field. This time he was careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn that he felt satisfied himself and came back to the teacher.
The teacher said, "This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you got. This is marriage."
Here is a lesson that represents what we do in life. How we loose sight of what is right in front of us. We can continue to search for love. We hope for the best decision when it comes to choosing the person that we marry. Can it be so difficult? The answer is yes. We make it difficult. We place all kinds of barriers in front of us. Things like pleasing our parents. Searching for a comfortable life. Working to achieve success and having no time for relationships. Not seeing eye to eye with others. Thinking that material things comes with marriage. Not open to change or setbacks in a relationship. Not understanding that the simple things and opening of ones heart is real love.
Most guys by forty and gals at thirty five find that they may have "missed the boat" when it comes to settling down. It looks bleak at times. The main reason is that we don't put in the intention of marriage in our heads. Some had a bad experience with a guy/girl. Thrusting a person may become difficult. Mostly it's because in this day and age people don't think of rushing into marriage. There's lot's of opportunities that they don't want to miss out on. The last thing on their minds is to be tied down forever.
We end up later in life watching our friends playing with their children. Seeing people walking their kids down the aisle. Others kissing each other and holding hands. We start to imagine what it would be like to have been married and not be so lonely at times.
Bar advice. It's still not to late. Put yourself out there. Join a singles social network or go online like friendfinder. There's a lot of people that are in this boat still looking as well.
The teacher said, "In order to answer your question. Go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi stalk and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick another."
The student went to the field, went through the first row and saw one big padi stalk, but he wondered, maybe there is a bigger one later. Then he saw another bigger one but thought may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him. Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realise that the padi was not as big as the initial one he saw, he knew he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted it. So he went back to the teacher with empty hands.
The teacher said "This is love. You keep looking for a better one, but when you realised it, you have already missed the right one"
"What is marriage then ?" the student asked.
The teacher said, "In order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back. But the rule is, you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick another."
The student went to the corn field. This time he was careful not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn that he felt satisfied himself and came back to the teacher.
The teacher said, "This time you bring back a corn. You look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you got. This is marriage."
Here is a lesson that represents what we do in life. How we loose sight of what is right in front of us. We can continue to search for love. We hope for the best decision when it comes to choosing the person that we marry. Can it be so difficult? The answer is yes. We make it difficult. We place all kinds of barriers in front of us. Things like pleasing our parents. Searching for a comfortable life. Working to achieve success and having no time for relationships. Not seeing eye to eye with others. Thinking that material things comes with marriage. Not open to change or setbacks in a relationship. Not understanding that the simple things and opening of ones heart is real love.
Most guys by forty and gals at thirty five find that they may have "missed the boat" when it comes to settling down. It looks bleak at times. The main reason is that we don't put in the intention of marriage in our heads. Some had a bad experience with a guy/girl. Thrusting a person may become difficult. Mostly it's because in this day and age people don't think of rushing into marriage. There's lot's of opportunities that they don't want to miss out on. The last thing on their minds is to be tied down forever.
We end up later in life watching our friends playing with their children. Seeing people walking their kids down the aisle. Others kissing each other and holding hands. We start to imagine what it would be like to have been married and not be so lonely at times.
Bar advice. It's still not to late. Put yourself out there. Join a singles social network or go online like friendfinder. There's a lot of people that are in this boat still looking as well.
The Secret revealed
Think success
To attain the kind of success that you want, you need to dream big. Every success story starts with big dreams. You need to have big dreams for yourself - which you want to be somebody rich, famous or fulfilled. You need to have a clear vision of what you want to achieve. But it doesn't stop in dreaming alone. You should actively visualize success in your mind that you can almost feel it, touch it or it is within your reach. Play this image back at every opportunity. What does it feel to triple your current income? How will your life change? What will your business look like if you achieved the million dollar mark?
Be passionate with what you do.
Success comes easily if you love what you do. Search your inner self to find what you like and what you're good at.
Focus on your strengths
Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses. To be effective, you need to identify your strengths and concentrate on it.
Never consider the possibility of failure
"It is not in the nature of man nor of any living entity, to start out by giving up." You should have a strong faith in your idea, your capabilities and yourself.
Plan accordingly
Set goals and make plans for your accomplishment is the skill required to succeed. Project this by writing it down on paper then getting a picture and adding it to what you wrote. Seeing something is better than reading it and the vision is set firmly in your subconscious.
Work hard
Every successful entrepreneur works hard, hard and hard. No one achieves success just by sitting and staring at the wall every single day.
Constantly Look for Ways to Network
To succeed in business, you need to possess good networking skills and always be alert to opportunities to expand your contacts. Sometimes you can't do it all. Making good contacts can help in your needs.
Willingness to Learn
To succeed, you must be willing to ask questions, remain curious, interested and open to new knowledge. This willingness to learn becomes more crucial given the rapid changes in technologies and ways of doing business.Also, don't think that someone younger in your network isn't able to add to your success.
Persevere and have faith
No one said that the road to success is easy. Despite your good intentions and hard work, sometimes you will fail. Remember, if you persevere, nothing can stop you. Just keep at it. Brush off any failure and move on. Some of the biggest millionaires went bankrupt more than once.
Discipline yourself
Self discipline is the key to success. The strength of will to force yourself to pay the price of success Doing what others don't like to do, going the extra mile, fighting and winning the lonely battle with yourself.
Bar Advice. Whatever work you do remember this. You'll never work a day in your life if you love what you're doing because it will never feel like work to you.
To attain the kind of success that you want, you need to dream big. Every success story starts with big dreams. You need to have big dreams for yourself - which you want to be somebody rich, famous or fulfilled. You need to have a clear vision of what you want to achieve. But it doesn't stop in dreaming alone. You should actively visualize success in your mind that you can almost feel it, touch it or it is within your reach. Play this image back at every opportunity. What does it feel to triple your current income? How will your life change? What will your business look like if you achieved the million dollar mark?
Be passionate with what you do.
Success comes easily if you love what you do. Search your inner self to find what you like and what you're good at.
Focus on your strengths
Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses. To be effective, you need to identify your strengths and concentrate on it.
Never consider the possibility of failure
"It is not in the nature of man nor of any living entity, to start out by giving up." You should have a strong faith in your idea, your capabilities and yourself.
Plan accordingly
Set goals and make plans for your accomplishment is the skill required to succeed. Project this by writing it down on paper then getting a picture and adding it to what you wrote. Seeing something is better than reading it and the vision is set firmly in your subconscious.
Work hard
Every successful entrepreneur works hard, hard and hard. No one achieves success just by sitting and staring at the wall every single day.
Constantly Look for Ways to Network
To succeed in business, you need to possess good networking skills and always be alert to opportunities to expand your contacts. Sometimes you can't do it all. Making good contacts can help in your needs.
Willingness to Learn
To succeed, you must be willing to ask questions, remain curious, interested and open to new knowledge. This willingness to learn becomes more crucial given the rapid changes in technologies and ways of doing business.Also, don't think that someone younger in your network isn't able to add to your success.
Persevere and have faith
No one said that the road to success is easy. Despite your good intentions and hard work, sometimes you will fail. Remember, if you persevere, nothing can stop you. Just keep at it. Brush off any failure and move on. Some of the biggest millionaires went bankrupt more than once.
Discipline yourself
Self discipline is the key to success. The strength of will to force yourself to pay the price of success Doing what others don't like to do, going the extra mile, fighting and winning the lonely battle with yourself.
Bar Advice. Whatever work you do remember this. You'll never work a day in your life if you love what you're doing because it will never feel like work to you.
Friday, August 10, 2007
Guy's, don't go begging for sex
Never ask a woman for sex. Never paw at a woman for sex. Never settle for mercy sex. Asking for sex is like begging, and you'll lose all respect from your woman.
In mercy sex, the woman's attitude is that she prefers her vibrator and personal fantasies to you, but if you insist, she'll accommodate you. "You can use me for my body... but you better kiss my ass for it and do everything I demand in return!"
So she lets you climb on top of her to get you off her back. The goal for her isn't to get done by you, it's getting it done and over with so that she doesn't have to do it again. She knows you'll settle for lousy sex, and she has no reason to be a real, sexual woman for a wimp of a man. With time, when you accept mercy or lousy sex from your woman, she'll come to despise you for being such a weak wuss of a guy.
So never paw at her. Let her paw at you. Never ask for sex. Let her ask for sex or take her, bend her over, and rail hard her like a man. So to speak.
Let sex be her reward. If she does lots of nice things for you, like cook you dinner, buy you a gift, compliment you, make sure that she's rewarded with a thorough, dominating, all-out passionate love making sexual night in return.
Nor be ashamed of your desire to have sex. Never ask forgiveness from women for your sexual appetites as a man. "The sexual beast" inside of you wants bacchanal, hedonistic sex with no inhibitions about treating her like a piece of property, free to satisfy your deepest sexual desires. Don't be ashamed of your inherent nature
as a man. Be proud of your sexual appetite. I don't mean to make it seem barbaric but sometimes going back to the caveman days may just be what you guys need.
Bar advice. Stop being a wimp and a wuss and a needy beggar in your relationships. It has no place in a relationship and you, as your duty as a man, have to stop all that crap RIGHT NOW.
In mercy sex, the woman's attitude is that she prefers her vibrator and personal fantasies to you, but if you insist, she'll accommodate you. "You can use me for my body... but you better kiss my ass for it and do everything I demand in return!"
So she lets you climb on top of her to get you off her back. The goal for her isn't to get done by you, it's getting it done and over with so that she doesn't have to do it again. She knows you'll settle for lousy sex, and she has no reason to be a real, sexual woman for a wimp of a man. With time, when you accept mercy or lousy sex from your woman, she'll come to despise you for being such a weak wuss of a guy.
So never paw at her. Let her paw at you. Never ask for sex. Let her ask for sex or take her, bend her over, and rail hard her like a man. So to speak.
Let sex be her reward. If she does lots of nice things for you, like cook you dinner, buy you a gift, compliment you, make sure that she's rewarded with a thorough, dominating, all-out passionate love making sexual night in return.
Nor be ashamed of your desire to have sex. Never ask forgiveness from women for your sexual appetites as a man. "The sexual beast" inside of you wants bacchanal, hedonistic sex with no inhibitions about treating her like a piece of property, free to satisfy your deepest sexual desires. Don't be ashamed of your inherent nature
as a man. Be proud of your sexual appetite. I don't mean to make it seem barbaric but sometimes going back to the caveman days may just be what you guys need.
Bar advice. Stop being a wimp and a wuss and a needy beggar in your relationships. It has no place in a relationship and you, as your duty as a man, have to stop all that crap RIGHT NOW.
Tuesday, August 7, 2007
Making up
In the beginning every relationship is bliss. The relationship is sweet, sugary, beautiful and lovable. You're in heaven. Everything is exciting and new. You love everything in your partner. The dress up, the talks, the habits and everything your partner does and visa verse but as time passes you start finding faults with each other.
You don’t like his or her outfit and you don’t find his or her talk interesting any more. There is a long list of “I don’t like this about you”. You are doing nothing but nagging at each other. This is when normality makes the spice of the chase disappear. It is very easy to break of a relationship and very difficult to maintain it but it is much more difficult to start over with the broken relationship. Yet it is very important to make up ans start over with a broken relationship especially if you have the responsibilities of your children.
Making up. What you do is to have patience and be forgiving. Forgive and start afresh. Try and find faults within yourself and it will be easy for you to forgive the other. Forgiveness heals the wound and tolerance enhances the depth of your relationship. You mustn't forget things like, he throws his socks in the corner when he gets home or she takes too long in the bathroom when you're in a rush to go out, are stuff they use to do before they knew you. It means a new conditioning when being together that will make things work.
It is amazing to fall in love but at the same time it is like being in hell when you split apart. Therefore it is a must to see that it makes no sense and that you have to revitalize your relationship and get that excitement back. Remember the moments that made you both happy, remember what he/she loved most about you. Make an effort to revive those moments back.
Don’t run off but face the problem no matter how tensed the situation is. You have to stick together as it is involves you, your partner and your family. You have to take a step forward and make your partner understand. You have to sit together and sort out problems between the two of you. Try doing things that bring excitement in your life. Improving your relationship is not a long process. It is a single little that you can take. You will find your relationship blooming beautifully as ever.
But if things are very grave, your partner is violent and you are sure that you cannot move with the relationship any further, then there is no need to stick along in remorse and pain. You can always start all over again. Off course it is difficult to forget the past and it is an obstacle in your way to a new relationship. What you need to do is to give time to yourself, involve in hobbies and activities that please you. Socialize, or do something creative that releases your heart from the pain you are going through. After a period of time you yourself will want to start a new relationship with no previous fears and pains. The bereavement including shocks, pain anger all disappear when you give space to yourself and believe in yourself.
Bar advice. What we all want is something less strained. Before jumping into full commitment have a heart to heart conversation about these things even if you've only heard of it and never been through it. It helps later.
You don’t like his or her outfit and you don’t find his or her talk interesting any more. There is a long list of “I don’t like this about you”. You are doing nothing but nagging at each other. This is when normality makes the spice of the chase disappear. It is very easy to break of a relationship and very difficult to maintain it but it is much more difficult to start over with the broken relationship. Yet it is very important to make up ans start over with a broken relationship especially if you have the responsibilities of your children.
Making up. What you do is to have patience and be forgiving. Forgive and start afresh. Try and find faults within yourself and it will be easy for you to forgive the other. Forgiveness heals the wound and tolerance enhances the depth of your relationship. You mustn't forget things like, he throws his socks in the corner when he gets home or she takes too long in the bathroom when you're in a rush to go out, are stuff they use to do before they knew you. It means a new conditioning when being together that will make things work.
It is amazing to fall in love but at the same time it is like being in hell when you split apart. Therefore it is a must to see that it makes no sense and that you have to revitalize your relationship and get that excitement back. Remember the moments that made you both happy, remember what he/she loved most about you. Make an effort to revive those moments back.
Don’t run off but face the problem no matter how tensed the situation is. You have to stick together as it is involves you, your partner and your family. You have to take a step forward and make your partner understand. You have to sit together and sort out problems between the two of you. Try doing things that bring excitement in your life. Improving your relationship is not a long process. It is a single little that you can take. You will find your relationship blooming beautifully as ever.
But if things are very grave, your partner is violent and you are sure that you cannot move with the relationship any further, then there is no need to stick along in remorse and pain. You can always start all over again. Off course it is difficult to forget the past and it is an obstacle in your way to a new relationship. What you need to do is to give time to yourself, involve in hobbies and activities that please you. Socialize, or do something creative that releases your heart from the pain you are going through. After a period of time you yourself will want to start a new relationship with no previous fears and pains. The bereavement including shocks, pain anger all disappear when you give space to yourself and believe in yourself.
Bar advice. What we all want is something less strained. Before jumping into full commitment have a heart to heart conversation about these things even if you've only heard of it and never been through it. It helps later.
Monday, August 6, 2007
Girls night in
Maybe there is some fun to be had in hitting the town with your a posse and strutting your stuff every now and then but if you want a fun time with the girls that doesn't involve hellacious hangovers and a "don't ask don't tell" policy, it could be time for an equally fun bonding experience, an all girl house party. Before you roll your eyes at thoughts of pillow fights and crank calls, check out these fun theme parties. It may become a memorable Saturday night and a perky Sunday morning. Remember to kick out all guys first.
Spa night.
Give the girls an opportunity to unwind with a relaxing night of rejuvenating activity. Ask them to bring their comfiest lounge wear and robes, recruit a manicurist to give fast mani and pedicures and a masseuse for rotating shoulder or foot massages. Serve bubbly or keep it clean with sparkling water with crushed mint and offer light fare such as grilled vegetable skewers, Chinese chicken salad, fresh berries and whipped-cream parfaits. Scatter good gossip magazines, light scented candles, and everyone will be in relaxed mode.
Dance the night away
Get the house jumping by hiring a dance instructor to teach your gang some smooth new moves. You can find quality candidates by calling a local dance studio. Just be sure you select a style that doesn't require dancing with partners, hip hop, pole dancing, belly dancing, and striptease would all get the party started and keep it going. Serve margaritas and energy boosting grab and go snacks such as brisket, new potato skins with all the fixins and salsa dip.
Yoga Retreat
Find your collective inner om with a mind and body centering evening of yoga or meditation. Hire an instructor from a local studio, invite guests to arrive in their comfiest workout clothes, and host an early evening session. Unwind with a light, healthy dinner of sushi, and soba noodles in broth. Light some incense, put on some soothing music, and watch everyone get Zen. Add some scented candles if you like.
Chick flick night
Warn friends it'll be a tearjerker. Pick a double header that's sure not to leave a dry eye in the house. Think Terms of Endearment, Life Is Beautiful, and The Notebook. Maybe the classic Sleepless in Seattle. Scatter pillows on the floor around the couch and coffee table, serve a concession stand menu of vanilla vodka with Coke, popcorn, hot dogs, and classic candies, and press play. If you don't want to put on the pounds then just go with red wine, cheese platter served with olives and such. Don't forget the tissues.
Bar advice. Sometimes the girls need to get away and just talk, laugh or cry with each other. It heals when understood and shared by others.
Spa night.
Give the girls an opportunity to unwind with a relaxing night of rejuvenating activity. Ask them to bring their comfiest lounge wear and robes, recruit a manicurist to give fast mani and pedicures and a masseuse for rotating shoulder or foot massages. Serve bubbly or keep it clean with sparkling water with crushed mint and offer light fare such as grilled vegetable skewers, Chinese chicken salad, fresh berries and whipped-cream parfaits. Scatter good gossip magazines, light scented candles, and everyone will be in relaxed mode.
Dance the night away
Get the house jumping by hiring a dance instructor to teach your gang some smooth new moves. You can find quality candidates by calling a local dance studio. Just be sure you select a style that doesn't require dancing with partners, hip hop, pole dancing, belly dancing, and striptease would all get the party started and keep it going. Serve margaritas and energy boosting grab and go snacks such as brisket, new potato skins with all the fixins and salsa dip.
Yoga Retreat
Find your collective inner om with a mind and body centering evening of yoga or meditation. Hire an instructor from a local studio, invite guests to arrive in their comfiest workout clothes, and host an early evening session. Unwind with a light, healthy dinner of sushi, and soba noodles in broth. Light some incense, put on some soothing music, and watch everyone get Zen. Add some scented candles if you like.
Chick flick night
Warn friends it'll be a tearjerker. Pick a double header that's sure not to leave a dry eye in the house. Think Terms of Endearment, Life Is Beautiful, and The Notebook. Maybe the classic Sleepless in Seattle. Scatter pillows on the floor around the couch and coffee table, serve a concession stand menu of vanilla vodka with Coke, popcorn, hot dogs, and classic candies, and press play. If you don't want to put on the pounds then just go with red wine, cheese platter served with olives and such. Don't forget the tissues.
Bar advice. Sometimes the girls need to get away and just talk, laugh or cry with each other. It heals when understood and shared by others.
Sunday, August 5, 2007
Are you really incompatible?
In today's global culture people have differences of opinion. Whether the topic is marriage, travel,politics, work, religion or even what type of car is the most reliable, different people feel differently but what about when you and your guy can't agree? Does it mean you're incompatible? For the most part, the answer is no.
What we tend to forget in our quest for the fairytale relationship, is that no one person can be all things to another. It just won't happen. So while you may have a certain way you like to spend your Saturday nights (hitting the latest hot spot for dinner or dancing) and your partner may have another idea of how to pass the evening (in front of the TV watching desperate housewives), there's no reason you can't still find fulfillment in each other. The key is, remembering to find it elsewhere, too!
The only area where differences of opinion definitely spell trouble is within the relationship itself. The lines of communication must always be open, even if it's uncomfortable, and this means in every aspect, but most importantly regarding your level of commitment. Sometimes it's better to make plans together in advance so both people can agree to what will they be doing together. It's a unity factor. Sometimes one has to give in to the other to make the relationship work but it has to be both side that give and take. Don't always make plans without involving the other or discussing if he/she wants to do this or go there.
Also, if one of you thinks it's serious while the other is still playing the field, things are bound to break down. If one of you wants to share everything and the other keeps everything secret, the chances of connecting are cut considerably. If either or both of you are disrespectful of or cruel to each other on a regular basis to the point where either of you is hurting, think about how you want to be treated and try to take a step back. Sit down and review plans of the communication between each other.
You must agree on honesty, kindness and respect. Your relationship won't work and you certainly won't be compatible if you don't tackle these issues. However, if you respect each other, maintain an open and honest rapport and are equally committed, anything is possible. Accepting that your partner has their own mindset, opinion and thoughts on whatever subject makes the relationship flow with intellectual stimulus that can be a major turn on as well.
Bar advice. Everybody has an opinion about most things. If adding your two cents worth helps your relationship by all means open your mouth. If not....
What we tend to forget in our quest for the fairytale relationship, is that no one person can be all things to another. It just won't happen. So while you may have a certain way you like to spend your Saturday nights (hitting the latest hot spot for dinner or dancing) and your partner may have another idea of how to pass the evening (in front of the TV watching desperate housewives), there's no reason you can't still find fulfillment in each other. The key is, remembering to find it elsewhere, too!
The only area where differences of opinion definitely spell trouble is within the relationship itself. The lines of communication must always be open, even if it's uncomfortable, and this means in every aspect, but most importantly regarding your level of commitment. Sometimes it's better to make plans together in advance so both people can agree to what will they be doing together. It's a unity factor. Sometimes one has to give in to the other to make the relationship work but it has to be both side that give and take. Don't always make plans without involving the other or discussing if he/she wants to do this or go there.
Also, if one of you thinks it's serious while the other is still playing the field, things are bound to break down. If one of you wants to share everything and the other keeps everything secret, the chances of connecting are cut considerably. If either or both of you are disrespectful of or cruel to each other on a regular basis to the point where either of you is hurting, think about how you want to be treated and try to take a step back. Sit down and review plans of the communication between each other.
You must agree on honesty, kindness and respect. Your relationship won't work and you certainly won't be compatible if you don't tackle these issues. However, if you respect each other, maintain an open and honest rapport and are equally committed, anything is possible. Accepting that your partner has their own mindset, opinion and thoughts on whatever subject makes the relationship flow with intellectual stimulus that can be a major turn on as well.
Bar advice. Everybody has an opinion about most things. If adding your two cents worth helps your relationship by all means open your mouth. If not....
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