What's on our minds.

The things is that we are always having thoughts of pleasure on our minds. We have visions of winning the lottery. Flying to secluded destinations with people waiting on us hand and foot. We long for the easy life and it's lustfulness of being able to get what we want and more than anything, who we want. It has to be split between guys and gals but some stuff are similar between them.

Guys
The secret desires in our heads works differently. Some guys look at at a girl walking down the street and wish she was his girlfriend or wild lover. Sometimes they imagine the girl seeking their attention and wanting them sexually. The details are all too real to them at times. Many just think back at the porn that they saw a few days ago and substitute her face with the one in the show. It also goes to the work areas like when a guy is having a business meeting with a girl. He may slowly be undressing in his mind or imaging what she looks like naked. He may even role play, in his head, a drama of himself and the girl and of course it ends up with him getting her into bed and making love.

By the end of it and when reality starts to set back in he just goes on his way doing whatever it was that's normal.The next day is another day for pleasure for him and it's his release from the world and it's difficlties. The freedom to be on top of the world and every woman being his lets him get through the day.

Girls
These women fool most men. They use modesty or just pretend that they are innocent to these thoughts and desires. They won't tell guys that they are interested. That's for sure. They know that guys look at them and when they catch one doing it they look away so there's no misunderstandings. The plain truth is that they too have these lustful, pleasurable, naughty thoughts. They long to have a knight in shinning armor come sweep them off their feet. They would rather have Prince Charming kissing them than the frog they have in their life at the moment. Women's thoughts also stretch the imagination wild but theirs are more lengthy and romantic.

The girls like to even see themselves as a ravaging beauty in some magazine that the guys are after and will drop dead in front of them. Guys always imagine themselves as they are because they are not getting any ass at that moment so it makes them feel better. The reality is, most girls don't like what they see in the mirror and want to role play other ways. A lot of them do the whole porn show thing in their heads as well but women tend to be less intrusive, like taking "it" up the ass. Hers will be pleasurable with lots of steamy scenes, water flowing, hot bodies mashed together; unless her fetish is more to bondage or something, than anything goes. At the end, and when reality sets back in, she goes on her way hoping that someone has picked up on her thoughts and will present itself the next day.

Both
I only gave a few points here. The fact is that most of us are in that zone daily. We think more about sex than anything else. Well, maybe money too. We want each other but we see the same person in different settings, seduction, romance, sexiness, roles and bed partners. Why? It's because we long for different pleasures. Men and women have different sexual needs. Guys who see porn feel inadequate because they are afraid the the girls may have seen porn and may expect him to have a cannon but when he pulls out a pee shooter, what's he to do?

Girls react differently to guys because they feel inadequate with things like the size of their breast. Maybe even that their Virgina may not be a welcome sight to him. Has he seen better? Is it tight? What's he thinking? Should I kill the lights? These things draw the women to their own sexual thoughts whereby she changes her appearance and knows what's on her mans mind and she's in control.

People fantasize daily. From money to banging the hottest Hollywood star or singer and we love it. If we didn't have that, our lives would be so screwed up that we would be miserable all the time.

Bar advice. It's human nature to have these thoughts. Whatever our marital status may be or age and even size, it's normal. The mind is a powerful tool. Use it.

Holistic Care & Modern Day Healthy Lifestyles: You are what you eat - Part 2....

Holistic Care & Modern Day Healthy Lifestyles: You are what you eat - Part 2....

Bar advice. This is a good blog to read. Get some good tips from here. We all neglect our health and realize when it's too late or when we get sick.

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Bar advice. Some offers are just too good to pass up. This is one of them.

What sort of relationship are you in?

A relationship should be like a flowing river. Fresh, moving around and finding ways around obstacles. Enjoying a relationship should never be like a still pond of water that just exists. A relationship should have life and should never be a compromise.

Many relationships become like a pond. They began like river but are now stationary wondering where to go, and whether to exist at all. They continue existing without any pleasure. The main reason is the inability of partners to face the uncertainty of breaking the relationship. How does it end up that way?

The relationship continues because the partners do not want to face the future alone. They are tired of it and worried that they will undergo more pain if they break the relationship. They neither try to refresh the relationship nor break it. There lies the heart of the matter.

What should they do? They should sit together, talk about the stagnation in the relationship, and talk about how to give it a new life. If they decide that it will not be possible, they should break up and look towards a better future. A relationship without pleasure will break up any way after some years. By that time, lot of time would have been lost and the discord would leave a very bad stamp of experience on both the partners. Better to control the disease in time.

Worst thing that can happen is if both do not solve it and one of them gets involved with someone new and the other finds out. it will feel like a betrayal even if things weren't going smoothly and the relationship was stagnant. The other will feel that there was wasted time given to the other and all kinds of psychological effects will take place. It's sad to see things like that happen to people that start out really good then change and never seem to know what to do, how to change it and not find help from others.

You got to want to be in love and make your partner fight for your love daily. Even if people have kids, they have to have that 'special' time for themselves and always have the fire burning in their hearts for each other. When children, friends and family see that, it makes them search for love inside themselves as well.

Bar advice. Love yourself. Give onto others. Help people. Be generous. Pray. It's all good, you'll see.

Pain, trust and forgiveness.

Bar advice. Getting help from family and friends will help in the healing process. Seek prfessional advice if need be but remember this. Time is a great healer too.

Love is forgiveness

Most of the lovers do not forgive their loved ones. They may forgive their sworn enemy, but they may not forgive their lover. Do you agree with me? Why is this so? It should have been exactly reverse. Somehow it's a always the case of a third party.

What is love? What do we understand by loving someone? How is love different than other relationships and emotions? In love, we give our whole mind and heart to our beloved. We try to keep our beloved most comfortable. We take care not to hurt our darling. In love, we care for each other. We are in the mood of giving in love. Giving always gives more pleasure in love than anything else. If we give things, our heart, our being, our soul, our time and more; it doesn't matter to us because we feel so cherished and want to make the other happy.

If our lover makes a mistake, shall we berate them? Shall we blame them and give them pain? Shall we hold it against them forever? Shall we call them betrayer? If we do all this then it is not love, but a business relationship. You feel you have given so much now want the truth, faithfulness and everything else in return. You feel sad and confused. What has gone wrong?

In love, we have to forgive. We have to pacify our beloved that mistakes are a way of life and everybody does them. We have to tell them not to worry and we are with them. We have to tell them to stop thinking of what happened and think of good things and try to live life joyously. But a majority of us behave in reverse. That is our failure. It was never love to begin with. If you believe that you love your partner, please learn forgiveness.

A quick story is whereby I was forgiven for flirting with another girl and her friends told her about. It was really nothing and there was no intent for anything to happen. i guess I did not consider what her feelings about it would be. She confronted me and the girl about it. Nothing really did happen but it hurt her to know that I did something of that nature. In the end we had a long talk and I apologised for what happened and for hurting her. We made up and she cried for a while but was glad that we had sorted things out.

One thing that normally happens when women find out that a guy has cheated, not in my case though, is to seek out the other woman to confront her. She does this to see with her own eyes what was so special about the other woman. Also, she wants to give her a piece of her mind. The one thing is she forgets is that the guy is a willing party to the actions taken. She should be dealing the issues with the guy instead of the other woman who may not even know that he was seeing anyone. The worst thing happens to be the lack of respect that the guy has done if he sleeps with another when he's in a relationship. There's really something lacking in the relationship if this happens. Both need to tackle the problem with great desire.

If they are a married couple or not, forgiveness can still be allowed. Why? It hurts yes but the shame and guilt has been placed on the head of the culprit. The one you love and reality are still in love with although he may have done this terrible thing. It will take time but people can work things out. If it be the girl that has made the betrayal, most men will be devastated. Professional help may be need but it can be done as well.

Bar advice. The human heart is a fragile thing but it's ability to love and forgive is great. You may not know just yet your own ability.

Expressing appreciation

One very vital way we show that our spouse is important to us is by expressing appreciation. There's a tendency to forget the good things a person does and focus on his mistakes and errors. It should be the other way round with you and your spouse. Think more about their good works and express appreciation for them more than complaining about their errors.

Women are more likely to express their feelings of lack of appreciation than men, but neither wives or husbands should be taken for granted. Some people really want their relationships to work and will do whatever is necessary to ease the difficulty of their partner.

I remember when I was trying to run a home based internet marketing and I was run off my feet maintaining the website, taking calls from customers, packaging and shipping items, responding to emails, etc. Generally all the things that go with running a internet business. I had to do all of this and still do the bar business at the same time. It was really hard work. Much harder than what I'm doing now working at the bar. Then I worked Monday to Sunday, till 4 am most times. When you're with someone as well and trying to earn money and help with finances of two people, there's a slow down in a persons appreciation level if things are not going according to plan.

At the end of a heart-felt discussion where both express their feelings about the efforts, both making to move their lives forward, people realised one thing. We don't really want to give up what we were already doing, but what we both want from the other is appreciation. The discussion should be on just realizing that love is what drives us to do things for the other and not because we have to but because we want to.

After that discussion, make more of a conscious effort to express gratitude for the things that both do. So look at your spouse and the things that they do. Focus more on their good deeds than bad ones. And then learn to say an earnest "Thank you" or "Well done". Believe me, it goes a long way.

Bar Advice. Sometimes the simplest of things can brighten your partners day. Even loving the other more when he or she realizes that their partner is doing their best in the relationship. It's never too late.

Celebs without Make up

Bar advice. I will still give it to Mariah Carey and Jessica Simpson. Even without the make they are hot. Don't get me wrong. This video just proves that people don't realize that celebs are normal people away from the glamour.

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