A lot of guys ask this, "What if she tells me she has a boyfriend?"
The fact is, most beautiful women have a boyfriend most of the time. If men are like spiders trying to catch as many women into their web as they can, women are like swinging tree-monkeys, swinging from boyfriend to boyfriend but never letting go of the first without having a second lined up to grab onto. So you can't just ignore women with boyfriends or you'll severely limit your options.
Most of the time if a girl says she has a boyfriend just ignore it and keep gaming her like normal. Usually, the girl will come around. By the way, the worst thing you can do is let it stop you dead in your tracks, the girl is testing you to see if you're a wuss. Guys got to learn that women like the chase. It's the thrill of the guys attention and pursuit that also triggers desire in her.
One technique to use is a "boyfriend destroyer". A boyfriend destroyer is especially effective if her boyfriend is not meeting her core values and she's looking to leave him anyway and just needs an extra nudge out. This is a way of rooting out the bad her boyfriend has done and making her want to dump him even more. Ask her about why she feels for him still even if he's not making her happy. She'll rattle on about things he didn't do or times he hurt her. Just nod and agree and eventually change the subject because you don't want to let the negative feelings fall on to you because at that moment all men will seem like scum to her.
Another way is to ask a girl what her boyfriend is like. You got to do this in a casual conversation. She'll of course start telling you all about him. You'll probably get the juicy details about how nice he is and such but try to find out what she doesn't like about him or the things he does that drives her up the wall. Why are you so interested in her boyfriend? You're not, what you're doing is gathering information on things she likes and dislikes about a man. She is volunteering this without her even knowing it. You may be able to put some moves on her but slowly because she's still with another guy. Find ways to hint that you like her of sorts. Maybe get her number.
One thing is that some girls are just ga-ga over their boyfriends. Those guys can't do anything wrong even if it was done in front of her. These girls, you can forget about. She loves him and there will be no hope of them splitting up. He will be forgiven for all wrongs so cutting in is near impossible. Sometimes you got to bow out of the scene and take centre stage elsewhere.
Bar advice. Not to say that it's good to take another guys girlfriend but if you like someone, go get her. Advice here is remember this. Other guys may just do the same to your girlfriend against you with this same tactic.
Monday, October 15, 2007
Sexy confidence
If you're wondering how to improve your sex life or how to even get one, there's a simple answer that may surprise you. The desirability factor has very little to do with how you look on the outside, and a whole lot to do with how you feel on the inside. Believe it or not, confidence, the sort that comes from comfort in yourself and who you are as well as your sexuality; is the best tool for seduction.
Beyond the celebrities we all find sexy in countless grocery store magazines, to whom, in real life, do you find yourself drawn? Most likely, it's people who smile easily, who aren't afraid to meet your gaze, who move with effortless grace and feel comfortable in their own skin. It's the confident people, not necessarily those we find physically perfect, who draw us in. Feeling good about yourself signals potential partners that not only are easy to be around, but are probably great in bed.
A genuinely confident person however, who knows what they want in and out of the sack. On that note, sexually confident people tend to have a certain degree of integrity, sexually speaking. In other words, while a cocky individual, someone whose bravado screams look at me, look at me, but whose demeanor indicates their self esteem is faux; may be less than giving when getting some. The confident individual cares not just about their own pleasure but about their partner's as well. Sex, after all, is reciprocal. Oftentimes, the better your partner feels, the better you feel about yourself. Basically, confidence exudes warmth, energy and passion.
The first step to sexual confidence is getting to know your own body, your own desires and how to accommodate them. We all got fantasies. How we use them plays a major role in life itself. Remember that what you put out is what you're going to receive in return. So, being warm and friendly, kind and courteous, unafraid to give a compliment when deserved and grateful for all that you have just as you are now will draw those same things to you. Likewise, when you bask in your own sex appeal easily, without becoming obvious about it, you'll become a magnet for exactly the types of people you want to attract. Those who will make you feel even better about yourself while you do the same for them.
Bar advice. Go look at yourself in a mirror. If you like what you see and feel, great. If not, and you want better, get off your ass and do something about it. Just waiting for a miraculous change won't do it.
Beyond the celebrities we all find sexy in countless grocery store magazines, to whom, in real life, do you find yourself drawn? Most likely, it's people who smile easily, who aren't afraid to meet your gaze, who move with effortless grace and feel comfortable in their own skin. It's the confident people, not necessarily those we find physically perfect, who draw us in. Feeling good about yourself signals potential partners that not only are easy to be around, but are probably great in bed.
A genuinely confident person however, who knows what they want in and out of the sack. On that note, sexually confident people tend to have a certain degree of integrity, sexually speaking. In other words, while a cocky individual, someone whose bravado screams look at me, look at me, but whose demeanor indicates their self esteem is faux; may be less than giving when getting some. The confident individual cares not just about their own pleasure but about their partner's as well. Sex, after all, is reciprocal. Oftentimes, the better your partner feels, the better you feel about yourself. Basically, confidence exudes warmth, energy and passion.
The first step to sexual confidence is getting to know your own body, your own desires and how to accommodate them. We all got fantasies. How we use them plays a major role in life itself. Remember that what you put out is what you're going to receive in return. So, being warm and friendly, kind and courteous, unafraid to give a compliment when deserved and grateful for all that you have just as you are now will draw those same things to you. Likewise, when you bask in your own sex appeal easily, without becoming obvious about it, you'll become a magnet for exactly the types of people you want to attract. Those who will make you feel even better about yourself while you do the same for them.
Bar advice. Go look at yourself in a mirror. If you like what you see and feel, great. If not, and you want better, get off your ass and do something about it. Just waiting for a miraculous change won't do it.
Sunday, October 14, 2007
A cute Japanese girl
Last week I had this Japanese girl come into the bar. She heard the music and came up. Seems like she likes R&B songs. She spoke pretty good English so we got on well in conversation.
Initially she sat away from the bar area but moved there when I told her that the other side was non smoking. She told me that she was there for a brief holiday and staying with friends. I was kind of disappointed that she didn't have a hotel room but I didn't know where the conversation would lead anyway. Later in conversation she revealed that she was married but her husband was in Japan. Working. Alone. I started thinking to myself " Oh God she's here alone".
Nice thing was that she had a great sense of humour as well. Using the astrology thing I found out that she was a Snake/Leo. Great combination because people born in those signs are sexually hyper. They are low keyed but if you manage to be with one, you'll find she'll intoxicate you with her seductive prowess. When a Snake/Leo wants you she'll go all out to make the moves that will surprise you. Her gentle ways makes her an interesting find. She also like a little bit of party and enjoyment but won't over do it. She's responsible. Knows what she likes and wants. Most of all she always knows that she can get almost any man in the room. She makes heads turn when she walks by and she knows it.
I also read her palm(basic stuff I know) and it revealed to me that she had other love interest. She smiled and turned away from me but confirmed it was true. This all took place when we went to a bar after I closed mine. Later, and after more drinks, I put her in a taxi. Did get a kiss but tried to steal one on the lips but she knew I was doing the old cheek and shift to the lips bit so I ended up with the cheek kiss. She smelt nice too. She was going to a Indonesian island resort the next day and I knew I wouldn't see her again. Fortunately, she gave me her email address.
I just talked to her on MSN messenger. The one thing she did reveal to me was that there was actually a current affair. The guy I mentioned about when looking at her palm. She did say that it was more sexual fulfillment than love. Adultry or not I told her I understood. I even asked if she read my blog after I sent an email earlier. She did and found it interesting and myself knowledgeable. Probably because she may be able to relate to some of the topics. I even told her I was going to write about her in the blog. She had no problems with it.
This cute Japanese girl actually gets me interested because although she only met me once, actually went out with me. She's in a foreign country but had enough trust in me to know that I was a nice guy. She also emailed me a shot of her in her bikini by the swim up bar at the resort. She really did look like she was having fun but somehow she does look a little sad behind that sweet smile. I guess that's what happens when you have a husband and juggling a lover on the side. It's more common than most people think. Confusion becomes your friend. Why's that?
Well, the heart is split between the married partner and the single stud. Maybe it's truly a sexual feed but she probably wishes it was coming from her husband instead of another man. You can't make your husband change all of a sudden. Most men end the romance after the chase is over. I wonder at this moment if she and I had more time would I have been able to be with her that night. Possibly, but, it would have to be her choice. It seems to me that some part of her life is still not completely satisfied or realized yet. She's still searching. I hope she finds it for herself someday.
Bar advice. Sex is a common desire for all. Mostly men but there's also a lot of women(even married) that need the attention, tenderness, seduction of passionate romantic love making that a lot of guys don't understand.
Initially she sat away from the bar area but moved there when I told her that the other side was non smoking. She told me that she was there for a brief holiday and staying with friends. I was kind of disappointed that she didn't have a hotel room but I didn't know where the conversation would lead anyway. Later in conversation she revealed that she was married but her husband was in Japan. Working. Alone. I started thinking to myself " Oh God she's here alone".
Nice thing was that she had a great sense of humour as well. Using the astrology thing I found out that she was a Snake/Leo. Great combination because people born in those signs are sexually hyper. They are low keyed but if you manage to be with one, you'll find she'll intoxicate you with her seductive prowess. When a Snake/Leo wants you she'll go all out to make the moves that will surprise you. Her gentle ways makes her an interesting find. She also like a little bit of party and enjoyment but won't over do it. She's responsible. Knows what she likes and wants. Most of all she always knows that she can get almost any man in the room. She makes heads turn when she walks by and she knows it.
I also read her palm(basic stuff I know) and it revealed to me that she had other love interest. She smiled and turned away from me but confirmed it was true. This all took place when we went to a bar after I closed mine. Later, and after more drinks, I put her in a taxi. Did get a kiss but tried to steal one on the lips but she knew I was doing the old cheek and shift to the lips bit so I ended up with the cheek kiss. She smelt nice too. She was going to a Indonesian island resort the next day and I knew I wouldn't see her again. Fortunately, she gave me her email address.
I just talked to her on MSN messenger. The one thing she did reveal to me was that there was actually a current affair. The guy I mentioned about when looking at her palm. She did say that it was more sexual fulfillment than love. Adultry or not I told her I understood. I even asked if she read my blog after I sent an email earlier. She did and found it interesting and myself knowledgeable. Probably because she may be able to relate to some of the topics. I even told her I was going to write about her in the blog. She had no problems with it.
This cute Japanese girl actually gets me interested because although she only met me once, actually went out with me. She's in a foreign country but had enough trust in me to know that I was a nice guy. She also emailed me a shot of her in her bikini by the swim up bar at the resort. She really did look like she was having fun but somehow she does look a little sad behind that sweet smile. I guess that's what happens when you have a husband and juggling a lover on the side. It's more common than most people think. Confusion becomes your friend. Why's that?
Well, the heart is split between the married partner and the single stud. Maybe it's truly a sexual feed but she probably wishes it was coming from her husband instead of another man. You can't make your husband change all of a sudden. Most men end the romance after the chase is over. I wonder at this moment if she and I had more time would I have been able to be with her that night. Possibly, but, it would have to be her choice. It seems to me that some part of her life is still not completely satisfied or realized yet. She's still searching. I hope she finds it for herself someday.
Bar advice. Sex is a common desire for all. Mostly men but there's also a lot of women(even married) that need the attention, tenderness, seduction of passionate romantic love making that a lot of guys don't understand.
Monday, October 8, 2007
Making the relationship last.
Have you ever wondered why some intimate relationships work and others don’t? Why so many of us seem to have the same relationships with a series of different people? Some people can easily find a mate while others struggle. Why? Is there a way you can accelerate the process of uncovering and living your natural loving way and making the relationship last?
The explanation for most vexing relationship questions is actually quite simple. The majority of our relationships, as well as our patterns of relating in general, are based on need rather than love. This is probably no surprise to you. However, it may surprise you that there is something you can do about it. Stop looking for love in all the wrong places.
Most of us are on a quest for love that amounts to trying to fill a leaky cup. Every time we appear to get love from an external source, especially from another person, it merely reinforces the belief that love can be found outside us. So, the feeling of receiving love or approval inherently has "leakage". This includes the fear of losing love, resentment towards the people we feel we need to get it from, and the simple act of looking away from the love that we, by nature, already are. Sometimes it's years of frustration during our youth at home that builds into a swell and when we don't get the love from the external source later or we find that the external source does the same things as home, we are devastated. We ask, "where is love".
Good news. You can turn each of these dilemmas around simply by letting go of wanting love or approval. You can also hasten the process by looking for mutual ways to love, as opposed to getting it, and mutual ways to give love, in addition to receiving it.
If you’re in any kind of an intimate relationship with a life partner, friend, or family member, and you can reach the point where you simply love the other person as he or she is, as best you can, then both of you can relax and be authentic with each other. This promotes much healthier, more satisfactory interactions. A fine example was when Steadman told Oprah that the wig she wore that resembled Tina Turner did not suit her. He said that none of her workers would dare say a thing but he had to because she wasn't Tina. She realized it and even on TV told this story to make a point that love means having the ability to say anything and the other person knows that they will never hurt them. Only help.
If the relationship is to last both sides have to ensure they are honest and truthful to the other. You don't need the approval of your partner on every issue but you need their counsel and concern. So to should you do the same for them in return.
Bar advice.We make mistakes at times but isn't it better to know the other person won't be there to judge you.
The explanation for most vexing relationship questions is actually quite simple. The majority of our relationships, as well as our patterns of relating in general, are based on need rather than love. This is probably no surprise to you. However, it may surprise you that there is something you can do about it. Stop looking for love in all the wrong places.
Most of us are on a quest for love that amounts to trying to fill a leaky cup. Every time we appear to get love from an external source, especially from another person, it merely reinforces the belief that love can be found outside us. So, the feeling of receiving love or approval inherently has "leakage". This includes the fear of losing love, resentment towards the people we feel we need to get it from, and the simple act of looking away from the love that we, by nature, already are. Sometimes it's years of frustration during our youth at home that builds into a swell and when we don't get the love from the external source later or we find that the external source does the same things as home, we are devastated. We ask, "where is love".
Good news. You can turn each of these dilemmas around simply by letting go of wanting love or approval. You can also hasten the process by looking for mutual ways to love, as opposed to getting it, and mutual ways to give love, in addition to receiving it.
If you’re in any kind of an intimate relationship with a life partner, friend, or family member, and you can reach the point where you simply love the other person as he or she is, as best you can, then both of you can relax and be authentic with each other. This promotes much healthier, more satisfactory interactions. A fine example was when Steadman told Oprah that the wig she wore that resembled Tina Turner did not suit her. He said that none of her workers would dare say a thing but he had to because she wasn't Tina. She realized it and even on TV told this story to make a point that love means having the ability to say anything and the other person knows that they will never hurt them. Only help.
If the relationship is to last both sides have to ensure they are honest and truthful to the other. You don't need the approval of your partner on every issue but you need their counsel and concern. So to should you do the same for them in return.
Bar advice.We make mistakes at times but isn't it better to know the other person won't be there to judge you.
When things fall apart.
Much like Zen, Pema Chodron's interpretation of Tibetan Buddhism takes the form of a nontheistic spiritualism. In When Things Fall Apart this head of a Tibetan monastery in Canada outlines some relevant and deceptively profound terms of Tibetan Buddhism that are germane to modern issues. The key to all of these terms is accepting that in the final analysis, life is groundless. By letting go, we free ourselves to face fear and obstacles and offer ourselves unflinchingly to others. The graceful, conversational tone of Chodron's writing gives the impression of sitting on a pillow across from her, listening to her everyday examples of Buddhist wisdom.
When things fall apart in life we sometimes don't know what to do. This can be a natural disaster that destroyed our home. A marriage gone bad. Deceit. Illness. Many things can be the cause but how and what you do will determine you as a human being in this cosmic plane of greater things.
Bar advice. Sometimes we need to step back, shake off the bad vibe or karma and move to a healing place within our hearts. Whatever it was, my advice, this too will pass.
Sunday, October 7, 2007
Time
I've been kind of busy lately. Haven't had the time to do my blog but that's life. If we did have time for all the things that we liked to do then we must either be filthy rich or or living in a fantasy world. There's many aspects of time. As an example, there's day/night time, lifetime, earth time and cosmic time.
I'll only talk about the lifetime and day/night time. What is it about time that either makes or breaks us. We all heard the saying,"time waits for no man". Well it's the truth, isn't it? In fact it waits for no man, woman or child. Anything can happen in the blink of an eye. We may even find ourselves staring death in the face. We say we were "lucky" when nothing happens but we say it was "fated" when it is that particular moment in time.
Must people don't have much time on earth. Things can go seriously wrong and we find that we haven't spent enough time with a love one. If, for example, we're told by a doctor that we only had weeks to live due to some medical problem, what do you do? We start to realize that the people we take for granted will no longer be around. If you're the dying one won't you be thinking that all these others will be around after you've gone. Where will you be heading to? Heaven? What did you do that makes you so sure that you'll get in? Now the mind starts to wonder about these things.
Suddenly you see that all those small annoying things don't seem to bother you anymore. It can be a hot scorching day, a flat tyre, bird droppings on your shoulder, a fungus on your toe, a bee sting on your ass or a freaking pimple on your nose; it wouldn't bother because you'd rather have it then not be around to feel it. You'll start to enjoy life with passion and embrace every moment of it instead of complaining like before. Thinking back, you see that your whole life you were wining about the smallest of difficulties or when you didn't get what you wanted or even your way. Now you see with clearer eyes but it's too late?
Next, who you love and who loves you. Should they? What makes you so darn special? Did you show love to family members or were you too damn busy making money to care? Will friends surround your coffin with tears in their eyes or will they throw a party to celebrate the fact that you're out of their hair? Are you selfish? Kind? Helpful and thoughtful of others? Generous? Spiritual? What means can you be measured upon?
Time can stand still for some. Example would be those in a coma. It's like suspended animation but will anyone be there if you woke up. What determines you as a human being that is worthy of the love and friendship of others is the fact that we all must remember that time and life is short. To be remembered, loved, cherished and missed by others is the measurement we have versus the time we have spent here. Who doesn't want to live a long life? What we do with it is a different story.
Bar advice. Don't waste too much time focusing on trivial issues. Time is ticking.
Friday, September 28, 2007
Men's looks
You don't need to have great looks to be successful with beautiful
women at all. After all, social value comes from many sources having social proof or leading a girl's peer group for example. Good looks alone won't get you laid, if that's your only source of social value.
Still, if you're serious about maximizing your success with women, you want to fully exploit every avenue of getting social value that you can. Having good looks specifically, having a muscular, chiseled, formed body, is one of them.
For instance, I know a guy who is now in his early 40s and he regularly has girls in their early 20s. Unlike most men his age, he takes care of himself. He works out and eats right. And it shows. He looks good. In adds that he also is matured and knows how to approach and talk to women. Women don't like a man that doesn't act his age or is too much of a kid.
Visually, he is attractive to women. They look at him, and that feeds his confidence. His success keeps him working out and eating right, causing more success. It's a virtuous, reinforcing cycle. But here's the problem. Most men let their bodies go as they get older. They have no muscle mass. They grow a gut for a belly. They don't groom themselves well. They dress dumpily. In other words,
they don't take care of themselves. Why be that way? You're going to feel like you look in the mirror.
At around age 26 or 27 something happens to our bodies. Our metabolism slows down and our body stops producing new muscle mass on its own. Up until age 26 or 27, you can basically eat like a pig and not exercise and your body will still stay fit and thin to some degree. But, by the late 20s, your muscle mass begins to slowly wither away and that gut starts to appear and by age 40, most men look downright bad.
If you're really out of shape, many girls will be too embarrassed to be seen with you with their friends and family. Even if the girl is otherwise attracted to you for other reasons. It's like when a man meets a fat chick. She's sweet, nice, pretty faced, wild in bed, loving, fun personality, highly sexual, a great girl to be
with but you don't stick with her because you're embarrassed what your friends of family might think.
That's why it's so important to take care of yourself and to start right away. In many ways this is a shallow way of thinking but it's a fact in our society. People go for looks. We see it in fashion magazines, Hollywood and more. The trick is to stay in tune with who you want to be and what you can do to be in a better shape when you get older. Taking care of yourself will make for better years ahead.
Bar advice. My advice here for men also applies to lots of women as well. Not to say that you got to look like a supermodel but health and fitness can be obtained which makes for a better life.
women at all. After all, social value comes from many sources having social proof or leading a girl's peer group for example. Good looks alone won't get you laid, if that's your only source of social value.
Still, if you're serious about maximizing your success with women, you want to fully exploit every avenue of getting social value that you can. Having good looks specifically, having a muscular, chiseled, formed body, is one of them.
For instance, I know a guy who is now in his early 40s and he regularly has girls in their early 20s. Unlike most men his age, he takes care of himself. He works out and eats right. And it shows. He looks good. In adds that he also is matured and knows how to approach and talk to women. Women don't like a man that doesn't act his age or is too much of a kid.
Visually, he is attractive to women. They look at him, and that feeds his confidence. His success keeps him working out and eating right, causing more success. It's a virtuous, reinforcing cycle. But here's the problem. Most men let their bodies go as they get older. They have no muscle mass. They grow a gut for a belly. They don't groom themselves well. They dress dumpily. In other words,
they don't take care of themselves. Why be that way? You're going to feel like you look in the mirror.
At around age 26 or 27 something happens to our bodies. Our metabolism slows down and our body stops producing new muscle mass on its own. Up until age 26 or 27, you can basically eat like a pig and not exercise and your body will still stay fit and thin to some degree. But, by the late 20s, your muscle mass begins to slowly wither away and that gut starts to appear and by age 40, most men look downright bad.
If you're really out of shape, many girls will be too embarrassed to be seen with you with their friends and family. Even if the girl is otherwise attracted to you for other reasons. It's like when a man meets a fat chick. She's sweet, nice, pretty faced, wild in bed, loving, fun personality, highly sexual, a great girl to be
with but you don't stick with her because you're embarrassed what your friends of family might think.
That's why it's so important to take care of yourself and to start right away. In many ways this is a shallow way of thinking but it's a fact in our society. People go for looks. We see it in fashion magazines, Hollywood and more. The trick is to stay in tune with who you want to be and what you can do to be in a better shape when you get older. Taking care of yourself will make for better years ahead.
Bar advice. My advice here for men also applies to lots of women as well. Not to say that you got to look like a supermodel but health and fitness can be obtained which makes for a better life.
Monday, September 24, 2007
Kino
So what is this thing called Kino? The common view of kino(note: kino = touching) is that you're giving the woman pleasure and that this arouses her and makes her attached to you
It's critically important to physically touch a woman early on in a seduction, sometimes referred to as "kino". Here's the scientific explanation of how and why it works. Then I'll explain how to use touch to reliably get laid.
Touching a woman causes her body to release a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin increases a woman's testosterone levels, the hormone responsible for her sex drive. Oxytocin also causes her to feel a bonding with you and to feel good around you. Even for a woman who "never feels like sex" and acts cold, a few touches can make her horny for sex. It doesn't matter where or how much you touch her, even a small touch on the arm is enough to release oxytocin hormones into her body and warm her up to you.What's more, oxytocin gives her the desire to be touched even more, producing yet even more oxytocin, a reinforcing cycle of sex hormone escalation.
One other thing. This oxytocin touch response is much more powerful for women than for men. Oxytocin requires estrogen to work. Without estrogen, it has no effect and women have much more estrogen in their bodies than men. Okay, here is how to use this powerful scientific knowledge to get laid.
First, be the kind of guy who is comfortable touching women from the moment you meet them. Be a physical kind of person. Act as if touching a woman is a normal thing you do all the time and women will accept that. If you start touching a woman all of a sudden after a few weeks, it will seem weird to her, so start from the very first time you meet her.
Begin with small touches on the hands and arms to make her oxytocin hormones kick in. As you progress, play footsies with her under table. Take her hand when you walk together (don't ask, just take it). Tell her to sit on your lap and stroke her thighs (again, don't ask just do). The more you touch her in a playful take-charge way, the more she'll want more touches and then even more. By the time you're touching her nipples through her shirt the oxytocin hormones will be raging, shooting her testosterone driven sex drive into the stratosphere.
Also, never ask a woman "Can I touch you?" It's creepy. Don't ask. Women like men of action, assuming you have some form of rapport with her. Don't suddenly spring into that sort of action because she'll say you molested her. Now here's what you do with women who consider you to be "just a friend". One woman I knew considered me "just a friend" and whatever I said to her didn't seem to work.
Knowing the scientific certainty of her oxytocin response, I began to work my spell. At first, I touched her innocently on her arms and hands. No resistance. Soon I got more playful with her and would hold her by the waist. She kept telling me she only wanted to be friends, but her body was beginning to tell me another story. I also told her how much "I liked being friends" with her. I then proceeded to playfully tickle her from time to time. All the touching made her oxytocin and testosterone levels flood her body and she was getting horny despite herself.
Pretty soon she was calling me and after we've did the "deed", her bonding feelings for me caused by the oxytocin were firmly entrenched. That's the flip side of the oxytocin response once you've got her, your only problem will be keeping her at arms length! Kino is a touchy subject and can get difficult in the end.
Bar advice. Keep your hands in your pockets if you don't want to persue the girl. Turning her on and then turning her away is not a good thing to do.
It's critically important to physically touch a woman early on in a seduction, sometimes referred to as "kino". Here's the scientific explanation of how and why it works. Then I'll explain how to use touch to reliably get laid.
Touching a woman causes her body to release a powerful sex hormone called oxytocin. Oxytocin increases a woman's testosterone levels, the hormone responsible for her sex drive. Oxytocin also causes her to feel a bonding with you and to feel good around you. Even for a woman who "never feels like sex" and acts cold, a few touches can make her horny for sex. It doesn't matter where or how much you touch her, even a small touch on the arm is enough to release oxytocin hormones into her body and warm her up to you.What's more, oxytocin gives her the desire to be touched even more, producing yet even more oxytocin, a reinforcing cycle of sex hormone escalation.
One other thing. This oxytocin touch response is much more powerful for women than for men. Oxytocin requires estrogen to work. Without estrogen, it has no effect and women have much more estrogen in their bodies than men. Okay, here is how to use this powerful scientific knowledge to get laid.
First, be the kind of guy who is comfortable touching women from the moment you meet them. Be a physical kind of person. Act as if touching a woman is a normal thing you do all the time and women will accept that. If you start touching a woman all of a sudden after a few weeks, it will seem weird to her, so start from the very first time you meet her.
Begin with small touches on the hands and arms to make her oxytocin hormones kick in. As you progress, play footsies with her under table. Take her hand when you walk together (don't ask, just take it). Tell her to sit on your lap and stroke her thighs (again, don't ask just do). The more you touch her in a playful take-charge way, the more she'll want more touches and then even more. By the time you're touching her nipples through her shirt the oxytocin hormones will be raging, shooting her testosterone driven sex drive into the stratosphere.
Also, never ask a woman "Can I touch you?" It's creepy. Don't ask. Women like men of action, assuming you have some form of rapport with her. Don't suddenly spring into that sort of action because she'll say you molested her. Now here's what you do with women who consider you to be "just a friend". One woman I knew considered me "just a friend" and whatever I said to her didn't seem to work.
Knowing the scientific certainty of her oxytocin response, I began to work my spell. At first, I touched her innocently on her arms and hands. No resistance. Soon I got more playful with her and would hold her by the waist. She kept telling me she only wanted to be friends, but her body was beginning to tell me another story. I also told her how much "I liked being friends" with her. I then proceeded to playfully tickle her from time to time. All the touching made her oxytocin and testosterone levels flood her body and she was getting horny despite herself.
Pretty soon she was calling me and after we've did the "deed", her bonding feelings for me caused by the oxytocin were firmly entrenched. That's the flip side of the oxytocin response once you've got her, your only problem will be keeping her at arms length! Kino is a touchy subject and can get difficult in the end.
Bar advice. Keep your hands in your pockets if you don't want to persue the girl. Turning her on and then turning her away is not a good thing to do.
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