Whatever

Somehow I decided to just focus about this girl Brenda at the moment. Instead of discussing other things, situations and such but I will bring that up though because they reflect what is happening to me currently as well.

Whatever happens between us is somewhere between personal, private but also weird. Why? Well she in one state or another at different times of the day and I don't even know where I fit in . It's like I fit in only to when her agenda seems to want it. I know that I've been around the block with a truck load of girls before but there's nothing like the chase of a beautiful and gorgeous women. This is the hunt that I have been longing for after some time now.

She makes me feel like a teen at times that is looking for his first kiss. I like it. Last night I met here with two of her cousins and it was fine. they did not drink much as it was a Sunday but I just wanted to be seen by some of her relatives. They both were girls so that made it a little funny trying to squeeze conversations in especially since they were talking more about their family issues. Whatever.

All I know is that after the cousins left we had a reasonably good time talking . Got to kiss her on the shoulders, which is Divine, and sent her home in the cab. Did get pissed off that she didn't allow me to kiss her goodnight. That's the thing about her. One day all's good and the next day I go no idea what's in her head. She never responded to my calls today either. Sometimes I want to give up but she's a fight that I don't want to either. Know what I mean? See, I just like everyone else.

Bar advice. Patience some times may be better. Wait, watch, listen and then try again.

Movies and real life

We sometimes feel that we want to have what the movies produce. The beautiful women. Seduction and romance. The chase and finally the link up that's suppose to last forever. Well as movies are only about two hours or so long, real life isn't.

I recently met this gorgeous girl Brenda. She came to the bar one day with colleagues after work. Some of them had been there before but it was her first time. Her eyes are so enchanting. Great smile and lovely long hair. It goes all the way to her ass. After they all left, I thought that I'd never see her again but she did come back with different friends and as we got to talking I got her email address because I wanted to add her into the email list. Well it was more for me personally than anything else but eventually I did email her and got her number. We've been talking almost everyday and she's come over to the bar twice now. We've kissed and when she had too much to drink I got to first base with her. She smells good. Trust me if you think that a women smells good when you hold her you know you really like her.

The thing is that she just got pass a boyfriend and she's not all that eager to get back into one right now. Me on the other hand have been alone for a while now and need a women to be part of my life. Especially when Christmas coming around so soon. It can be the loneliest time in ones life. Anybody would want to be making love than masturbating pointlessly. She's a bit of a character, this girl. Makes me pissed off with her sometimes when we talk. She is straight forward and sometimes too truthful and blunt but that's the unique thing about her. I haven't found anyone like her before.

Too many people are always being what they are not or pretending to live like they are in the movies. Some quote lines just to be able to converse with the other and hope that the reaction will be like the movie they watched. Eventually honesty and sincerity are key to relationships that work. At this moment I don't know where we are going and I hope it gets better between us. One day at a time I guess. Maybe Christmas should be over and reality of the new year will bring us closer a little. I don't know what the heck I'm blabbering about. It's all her fault. She drives me crazy at times but I can't stop thinking about her.One bonus is that we both like the same English Premier League team. Chelsea. Thank goodness we found one thing in common.

Bar advice. Remember opposites sometimes do attract. Get back to you about her in the future. If I don't, well, then there was no future between us.

Beautiful girls

Guess what? Women are all over the place but we are not looking at the right places all the time. Here's a little story about myself at this moment. Here I an meeting this lovely girl Brenda and she's just driving me nuts.

Why you ask? Well. After all the hard time that I had over the last several years, I haven't been with a really wonderful women like her for some time . Wow! She is just fantastic. It's like watching the Niagara Falls and the Angel Falls all roped into one. Small problem. She's getting over someone that she herself told me that she's not in love with but the subject of a another previous boyfriend never seems to elude her conversation or memory. I'm stupid but I think she's great. Reasons...well, I shall reveal sometime later.

At this moment I got to say that everyone always wants to be with someone. Even if you look at the most notorious of gangsters or criminals throughout the centuries, you will find that most of them had someone that loved them or even the fact that they loved others and spent money to do 'good deeds' that help others even though they were that bad of character. All that is good will happen to all that work at it and remember there's no FREE ride.

Bar advice. We all want happines, joy and love. It is coming to Christmas so let us find a way to not be alone. Loneliness is a killer. Change that today.

Continued for last

Well. Did you think about it? The bully is about to beat the shit out of you or something humiliating will happen to you. What do you do?

I'll be honest with you. If he ever gives you his face and dares you to hit him, Do so Idiot, He's trying to show off to everyone all around. So give it to him and he won't forget.The longer the bullying goes on the longer it will take to change the situation you're in. Make sure you hit and hit hard till he can't get up that day. There will never be respect for you till you get him down. Here are a few hints for the next time...

Do it quick. Swiftly.
If possible, make sure he's intoxicated.
Fight tooth and nail.
Let him think that you're scared.
If he's got friends, run like mad.
Copy his style, movement and methods. He'll be a lost for words when he's up against himself.
Be aggressive if you have to.
If things can be talked out, make sure that all this won't happen again and please call a witness to ensure it.

Many other ways and methods that apply but I'm not going to list them here. Some stuff are left to the gangsters to 'reveal' to you if you ever get in their face. Whatever dude.

Bar advice. It's simply a insecure person that resorts to violence but bullies are further the food chain so stand your ground and watch them back down.

What the f*%k?

We all get that saying. What the fu#k. Things go wrong. Shit happens. Situations occur and we have to face it. The fear that something bad may happen at that particular moment that scares us.

Whatever it may be. We got to remember, be it any person from any country that you come from, there's always the bully's and the bullied. You're no longer in High school. Wake up. True to the fact that if you're in a foreign country, you don't want to piss anyone off, but hey you may be in a bad situation that you never could have imagined. Well may be you did imagine but it became worst, so what do you do? Think about it.

Bar advice. Be humble.

Pretence

You may think constant partying will help your sex life, but excessive drinking and smoking will give your load a nasty after taste. If you do have a few Cocktails, stay away from beer! Have you ever been hung over the morning after raging a keg and felt like the stench of beer was exuding from your pores? Well that happens ALL over your body, including your junk. Instead, try some mixed vodka drinks or even saki. Guinness will definitely do the trick.

I recommend being yourself when trying to meet people or any date for that matter. Unless you're just looking to get laid, pretending to be someone else when you meet someone will just come around to bite you in the ass later. Eventually who you really are will come out and if the other person doesn't like you then you have just wasted your time and theirs by game playing. If someone doesn't like you for who you are, move onto the next person until you meet someone who does. One thing about the ladies of the night is that they have to pretend to be someone all the time because the person that they really are is someone that you won't want to be with.

They're there to make your fantasy come through so don't go looking for love in that place unless you're ready to share her with the rest of the block. A lot of the guys actually try to impress these girls by telling them all sorts of stories about what job they do and that they're so busy all the time with lots of money and business involved. Well, you've just told her how much more she's going to get out of you. The only thing that she's interested in is your cash. The more pretence you add into the conversation to mesmerize her and the less cash you fork out , is going to land you in hot soup. Your name will be on all the girls blacklist and you're going to be black balled by all of them sooner or later. You will probably need to find a new bar to drink in to find another girl that will be with you.

The women of the night can be really nice and all's fair in love and lust but don't screw them in that way. This is a business to them and they negotiate deals everyday. Some are more lucrative while others are less but the thing is that if they like you sometimes might get a freebie. It's hard to come by but it does happen. Trust me I know what I'm talking about. Play by the rules and they'll do likewise. There was a Irish guy that I knew that tried not paying a girl and he ended up almost loosing his balls because a bunch of the guys cut his scrotum as a warning. He bled a little but was alright and he did pay her in the end which he should have done in the first place. Idiot.

Bar advice.Sometimes it's all the better to just sit back. Have a cold drink. Let the girls crammer all over you and leave them alone. You'll see a different you in the mirror the next morning.

Loneliest time of the year

With Christmas coming and the year ending we tend to look back at stuff we did during the last twelve months. sure there's a lot of us that will be seeing family and friends but there's also a lot that will be far away from all of them.

If you're a expat working away from home the loneliness sets in as the days get closer to Christmas and New Years. Singles are not too upset but married ones a little though. What is one to do. Some of the guys I know that are married but are working here alone have been fooling around with a lot of the girls that it only really hits them the moment this time of the year comes around. The regret and shame is inside them when they have to make a telephone call on Christmas morning to the family. Knowing that last night on Christmas Eve he just made love to a hooker or a SPG and that side of the bed is still warm even after she left. The scent of her perfume still fills the air as the conversation takes place even to the kids.

Guys think that they can get away with it. They forget to cover their tracks like credit card or phone bills that should have been thrown out or redirected. They meet up with other expats and it becomes a party. The girls seem easy and friendly so temptation sets in. Lust overcomes them more than the booze that they have been drinking and they feel like a teenager again. Seeing, testing, hoping to get to first base then make a home run which ultimately means getting into the sack. As World Aids Day has recently passed, let us be aware that it's still around and hasn't gone a way yet. For that matter there still isn't a cure.

A lot of the girls know that the guys want to be with someone during that time of the year. Why? Well they're in the same boat as well. Do not for one second think that they're here to make more money than usual because of the season. They too want to go back and be with the family. Letting someone fuck them and fear that the Christmas present that they get could be a death sentence is all too real for them as they're with different guys all the time and every night. I feel sad for the girls sometimes. The thing for them is that the grass is greener on the other side. That's why they come to Singapore. It's the lure of bigger money and better chances than being where they are and all other girls competition for them in their own country. If they had money they wouldn't be here either.

Bar advice to the guys. Respect the girls because they wouldn't be doing what they're doing if it wasn't necessary. All of them got a story and reason as to why they are here. Also respect yourself and family enough to know that it could all be gone a heartbeat.

Hoping for love and just be loved for a day

If you think that it's just the women from all the surrounding countries that come to Singapore, think again. Lot's of expats and tourist come for all sorts of reasons. One being that what they want and seek in their own country is not available. That particular thing is Love.

It comes in many forms. Some for just the night. It could be from a SPG, also know as a Sarong Party Girl, which won't require money. SPG's simply like to party and if you're lucky and they like you then you might get to go home with them by the end of the night but it's always the lady's choice. Irregardless of what it may be, I know so many fellows that just have it though with women in their own country that they are happy to be here anytime.

Once they have been here for a while, it's a transformation or a sort of metamorphosis, to them that they feel worthy. Why? It's because if they were back home, their girls wouldn't even think of giving them the time of day let alone stay the night. I'm not putting all of them down but this a general observation for a lot of people that I know. Mind you there are a heck of a lot of others that have no problem getting women but this story is more so about those that are without.

There was this one guy that I knew. Larry was his name, being out of the UK and a little older man. Around forty at the time, he was very well liked and a really good darts player. We use to call him John Lowe because he looked like him a lot. His is a typical story of things that happen when you come Asia.

Larry worked in the construction industry which was a hard days work week but every weekend he was happy to go to the bars and even the clubs to be with other expats and check out the ladies of the night. He wasn't a stingy person. Respected them and was always kind with them. He got cheated and ripped off by some of them before as well but took it as lessons that we learn in life.

He lived in Singapore for several years and really took a liking to the Thai women the most and longed to work in Thailand one day. Well after several more years here he finally got that chance. He went there then came back after one month . I was shocked to see him and was curious as to why he was back. I thought Thailand was where he wanted to be all this time. He replied that it was just a Visa and work permit issue and he would only be in Singapore for a week then back there again.

He met, drank and partied with friends and even the girls here during that time. Actually before he left Singapore, and gave up his apartment here, he had a farewell party at his place and we were all there so it was like a second party when he was back. Eventually he left after a week and headed of to Thailand. Three months later I was told that he was in Singapore. I was shocked to hear that he had a heart attack or sorts and was sent here to Singapore for treatment. When he was out at one stage I asked him what went wrong. He said there was way too much enjoyment, crazy, fun activities and mostly all night party girls there that he could handle.
 
He went back to Thailand two days after that but till today I haven't seen or heard anything about him. I hope that he is fine. Maybe he got married. Possibly living a good life. I dread that anything bad may have happen to him. He was a nice guy. Thing is, he finally got the life he wanted. Whether he got the girl, I'll never know.

Bar advice for all. Let him that hopes to find love, be it a life time or a day, be fulfill. Don't do something that is full of regrets for the rest of you life.