Advice on email flirting

Online dating gives you the opportunity to meet singles out there through the use of the Internet. However, you can also use another tool with people that you already know, or don't, and it's the email service. Emails that you exchange is a vital feature of online dating sites. Also for office or personal usage. Through emails, you could get to know more about someone or you could even flirt. An email can be very useful to flirt with anyone around who is an online junkie or is tied to the desk because of work. Here's advice from on how to effectively connect with anyone through email.

How can you effectively flirt using email? Flirting through emails is necessary at the beginning of your correspondence with single people. Flirting is the first step before you could meet face to face, unless you already know them, and that is what online dating subscribers, colleagues or friends are aiming for. Just like regular flirting, it all depends on your chemistry with the person. Even if you're bereft of body languages to use, with online chemistry, flirting may still fail.

Flirting is very crucial because most of the time, if not properly done, it sends misunderstood messages. One example is flirting using "about the past" messages. If you think that saying that you understand things like these because you experienced them beforehand, then you're wrong. This includes past girlfriends, relationships or break-ups. This will only make your online date uncomfortable. That's not a good way to flirt. Trying to flirt with someone in the office or some business contact will probably get you blocked.

You should also be careful about your grammar when flirting using emails. Women are easily turned off by men who don't know how to express themselves right in print. Men don't like having to read over what a woman has written as they already find it hard to understand them as it is. Wrong grammar and misspellings translate disasters. Like those cases where you interchange "your" with "you're"? Well make sure you proofread your messages before you actually send them. We're all busy and sometimes it's forgivable but we shouldn't have to try understanding what you write since it may already be hard just trying to understand you itself.

What you should do is write messages that stimulate the interest of your partner. One example is sending her humorous emails. You should use funny stories to your advantage but make sure not to go overboard. You should remember that you're actually flirting so insert harmless teases and ask them flirtatious questions to generate a response. There are a lot of people that like the online flirting emails especially if in the office because it gives them a chance to get away from routine. Also, just keep your emails short and simple. Long emails tend to bore people so just keep them light and readable. This way, your message will be clearly sent and not have the danger of being lost after the 100th paragraph. If you know what I mean. Do remember too that people have to work as well.

You could also try giving compliments through email. Show sincerity. This tells people that even though you are funny and playful, you also have a sensitive side. This will make them want to see you in person more. Sending an ecard can also add a touch of gift appreciation. It won't cost you any real money so why not? If you've been emailing someone at work, for example, than slowly make request about having some drinks after or maybe dinner. Even if things start to go well and you've become a couple, emails are like little reminders that you're thinking about that person. It's like you dropped by to say "hello". It shows your interest. The recipient will have a smile on their face.

Don't send out anyting on weekends. Why? Well, they'll think you're at home all the time. No real social life after work hours. May find it claustrophobic to have to answer emails all the time from you, including weekends. Only send something if it's like a surprise for the beginning of the work week or something you know they'll really like.

So there, my advice on email flirting is just make sure that your emails are short, funny and is free of any emotional anecdotes. Email flirting, like in actuality, still takes a lot of practice so don't be afraid to send messages and gauge the different reactions that you get. If you do it right, you'll be an expert at online flirting in no time.

Bar advice. Messenger services like Yahoo or MSN comes at a later stage. Remember that you can correct emails before you send it out but messenger service is in 'real time'. Don't make a mistake and say the wrong thing and blow your chances.

Dating from a online website

I recently went check out this online dating website. I won't mention it but I got to say it was the only one that I know that allowed gold members to message standard members and vice-verse. found that out later on though. I actually found it as part of the junk mail and spam that we all get. Anyway I went to check it out. Joined as a standard member a went to search. It wasn't all that great a site but had some nice looking members.

With all the relationship advice that I write here, never did I think that I would actually be browsing the site as much. Probably because after closing down the bar I had more time on my hands. Then, I came a cross Angela. Her picture is what really caught my eye. red dress and all. Found out that I could message her because she was a gold member, so I did. We went back and forth a bit and finally got our emails exchanged. Then started to get on MSN messenger.

The first time we were on it was a bit of a disaster. She didn't seem to like what I was saying. I was already on first before she got on so to me it seemed that she was preoccupied with doing other things rather than have a chat with me. The conversation didn't rally go all that smooth. Me trying to be cool and all. I never really had difficulties with getting to know someone when you already know them a little. Know what I mean? She seemed like a dodo bird to me on certain things but she didn't like one or two jokes I made or remarks. I had to apologize to keep her pleased. I was actually just testing waters to see what sort of chick this was. Then I find out she's a Taurian/Snake. All hell was about to break loose.

This is what I know about a Taurus/Snake.

THE SLITHERING STOIC
This is the most natural of Snakes. Snake people often display cosmic leanings and cleave to the other worldly. Taurus grounds them. This Snake will be intuitive (as usual), yet wonderfully discreet. The Taurus part of the character will lend earthiness. This wildly attractive creature causes havoc among members of the opposite(or same for that matter)sex. People cannot control their desire to be controlled by this marvelously sensual type whose alluring bedside manner is almost as dangerous in as it is out of bed. The steamy sexual reputation of this cool, yet earthy creature is legendary. When a Taurean born Snake wraps itself around a sex partner, the victim has absolutely no chance of(nor any desire for)escape.

Once I read this, my first thoughts was, how can I get those legs to wrap around me. I started to get more queries about this feline. Just by looking at her picture on the website and our messages I could get the sense that this one was the type that played it cool and waited for the proper time and approach. She was typical of a real snake that would be willing to just sit there and be admired of her beauty by all but only engage when she wanted to. When we got together on messenger again it wasn't as bad and seemed less hostile than the first encounter. I felt like Steve Irwin, the crocodile hunter, here. It ended with a stoic response to goodnight that I thought it was doomed.

At the end of the week somehow she got online really late. About 1am. We were back and forth about a lot of things. She opened up brilliantly. I never had a better conversation with her. I guess it's because snakes naturally like it better in the night. We had frank exchanges and I hoped that we both understood each other a little better. We were online for several hours. I even found out that her dad was a ex-cop. We joked about him shooting me. Probably in deep water now though.

Anyway, I tried to make her see the actual me and really tried to figure her out. I was feeding her info about the man I was and what I was all about. She did the same but in lesser info than I would like to have had. One should know that two people trying to get a relationship started takes a small step at a time but sometimes you need to be bold and move faster a little. At times this may not be the right move because a woman tends to feel a little hurried into the relationship and may just abruptly end it all then and there before it can even begin. Naturally snakes will rather have a less confrontational approach to anything. In a way it worked out. I wasn't going to tell he about the blog. In fact I didn't write anything till now because I told her I was going to do so. This sought of caught her off guard and now she might be reading this.

I think she just wants to kill me at this point for all this stuff written here but I got to do this. All the blog items I wrote may actually help her out. I sense that she's the sort that needs a little coaxing to come out. Maybe she need a little more time. Maybe she's doesn't feel as ready as she would like to be. Bottom line is we both haven't met. A one time meeting could make or breaking a relationship. I already told her if it didn't work out, hopefully we could be friends. It really will come down to what a person wants. Initially I told her that I wanted to be a bit more mysterious and take things slow but just getting to know each other online but, hey, Christmas is coming.

Here's a bit of advice to those that do online dating. The websites are there to help connect people and it's better and faster to find someone. Some are online with different intentions and false information. Others are branded the same even when they are innocent. One individual is different from another. Having previous boy or girlfriends cannot cloud your judgement of someone new. Don't make the same wrong moves that got you here in the first place. Don't judge others the same way. Trying not to look desperate and acting uninterested will get you nowhere. Opening up to the possibilities that the universe can bring you a partner in life, even after all the hurt before, is what you may find at the end of the rainbow of your dreams.

Bar advice. Take a chance. Not everything comes in the package that you wanted, desired or wished for. Sometimes it's a little old, broken, damaged, discarded or in pieces. Can you be the glue to fix it?

Strawberry to daiquiri

There's a huge difference in people who seem to look for the same thing but want it differently. I'm referring to the many single people that are out there that just don't seem to be able to meet the right guy or really know what they want.

For some, because they are still young, it's not yet a problem. Funny thing is when they get older the panic button starts to be pushed and I don't just mean by the individual themselves but by friends, mothers, fathers and even siblings try to fix them up. A younger person is like a strawberry. All plum and nice, very colourful, sweet and ripe to be plucked. The older people, well, they're like a daiquiri that you need before lunch time. Something you need to have to make you numb to get through the day.

Now you probably have to work and all your colleagues are either talking about their husbands or their boyfriends during the lunch hour. You got to listen to all those romantic sloppy details while remembering that you were in bed with a book and your reading glasses the night before. Then there's the fact that your mother is calling you at work and telling you that she just met a neighbours cousins friends daughter who seems to be a good match for you. You make an excuse and try to hush and hurry off the phone so you don't have to listen to her and pretend you were busy at work.

When you get home your dad is feeling sorry for you and he's worried for you at the same time. He'll try a fatherly approach while you put on a brave face to hear the never ending same old story. He may even encourage you do the online dating thing. Your brother or sister, which is much younger, is pissing you off because they hog the phone with their love interest and when you get angry with them they just rub salt in the wound by teasing about yourself being single and bitter or worse jealous.

The truth is the people that are in this category are between 32 to 45 for women and 38 to 50 for men. During this particular age they lie to themselves that everything will be alright so they can seek comfort within themselves and not show others that they are a little scared that they'll never find the right person or ever get hitched. For some they never will but others try desperately to still find someone. Nothing wrong to seek out a glimmer of hope but if you've put such a high wall or barrier up that no one can climb or even view whats on the other side, how is it going to work?

You're no longer the colourful, youthful or even fruitful strawberry. What you bring to a relationship is not the same as if you were in your twenties. You may still see, through your eyes, life and everybody and things like you are in your twenties but you're only kidding yourself if you think others see you like that. There must be a change in attitude and thinking if you're going to have any hope of being with someone. Certain criteria and standards may have to be altered. Don't forget that the person you meet will have to do the same. They too may have had certain expectations of the other but their downfall was never having anyone actually meet those expectations. That's why they're in the same boat as you and in that boat there seems to be only one oar that when paddled just makes you move in unending circles.

If only those expectations can be filtered a little or some dropped all together. You will find that you may just meet someone that's been searching just as hard as you. So what if she's a little shorter, he's a bit balding, she's slightly over weight, his teeth are not so straight, her chest is too flat, he had seven girlfriends or she's not a virgin? Right now you're all sipping that daiquiri and hoping to drown away that pain of not being appreciated or being lonely at times.

Just imagine someone that you can confide in. Someone you can tell a secret to. Joke with or talk to about matters of interest. This person makes your heart feel joy each time you see them or talk to them. Maybe a holiday together to be a little more intimate. This person can be your best friend as well as your lover. You've been so introverted because you thought you had no hope so explode out all those feelings. You will feel greater joy in life itself. You'll look to the heavens and wonder what prayers you said that let God send you this saving grace of an individual that can fill that void that was there before.

Bar advice. Never give up hope but make changes. Everyone including yourself needs love and acceptance will make you, and I stress you, a happier person. You both may just start having a strawberry daiquiri together.

Cyberspace online dating

Do you frequently feel lonely late at night when the house is empty? Yes indeed, you are all alone with a bowl of stale soup. You could say that life couldn't be better, right? Okay, who are we kidding? Of course life could be better. For starters, you need to make a new bowl of soup. Then you should do something exciting. Why don’t you call one of those phone sex hotlines? No, scratch that idea!

Those things are fake anyway. I suspect that these phone sex hotlines are all scripted, maybe even pre-recorded. Anyway, there are other ways to cure your boredom. Have you ever heard about adult online personals? This is the hottest stuff in the dating scene these days. It's about time that you caught up with the new millennium.

In the past, I though that adult online personals were rather lame. However, my views changed when I witnessed my best buddy meet a hot girl through the Internet. I was shocked! Did you ever think 20 years ago that couples would be making first contact through a computer? Nowadays there are just so many adult online personals to sort through. It makes total sense if you actually take the time to think about it, since we all spend a lot of hours on our computers already. We might as well make computers a medium for meeting other singles.

Adult online personals are a brilliant way to interact with other singles. There's no reason to be nervous with this method because you won’t be face to face with anyone. You're merely getting a feel for what they're like online. If you do decide that you want to meet up with them, you can if the feeling is mutual. That's the great aspect of adult online personals. You can post your information out in the World-Wide-Web and others will come to you.

Are you interested in adult online personals? Then you can start by posting your information on the Internet. You can find other singles just like yourself who enjoy the same past times and activities. You may even meet your soul mate this way. Hop on Google right now and sort through a variety of adult online personal sites. Start finding that special someone who's right for you. Your soul mate might be just a mouse click away.

Bar advice. Be careful as well when in cyberspace. Don't just give all your personal info to strangers. These things can work out. Some people have married their long distance internet pals. It may just be you next. No harm just browsing, right?