Now this is quite common in many countries that have the payment method where people call in to listen to someone tell them some fatasy and it "get's them off" but when normal people have phone sex; well, it can become a disaster.
There's some of us that can pull it off but many are just not sure what to say or how to turn on someone else if their not in their presence. The phone is a great tool but what do you do when faced with the fact that now your partner is going to sense that you got no sexual imagination or fantasies. It is difficult for some to express something mentally rather than pshysically especially with sex. Not uncommon.
Bar advice. This may not be for everyone but it can highten the sexual relationship of people that are in anticipation of the next time they make love.
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Monday, January 14, 2008
Monday, September 3, 2007
Long distance love
If you're contemplating embarking on romance from afar - or are already in the throes of if, don't stress. Whether or not the relationship works is up to you. It's your willingness to face the facts and make the most of them. Let's start with the good news.
While you may find yourself wanting to spend more time with your sweetie than the distance between you affords, you'll also find yourself growing more comfortable in your own skin. If the relationship is a good one. Why? Because long distance love gives you plenty of time for yourself, your friends and your family and what better time to strengthen your sense of self than while you're experiencing absence of the other.
Study reveals that women can tell the difference between a family man and a ladies man just by looking at his face! Maybe.
When your heart wants to say yes also consider that the disappearing act many couples pull in the early relationship stages. The one that alienates the people who are close to them, doesn't happen here. Poorly rearranged priorities that wind up setting you back are also skipped.
In other words, you get the rush of new love without sacrificing your individuality, your friends and your family. As anyone who's had an all consuming love affair knows, there's something to be said for that! After all, two strong individuals make the best kind of pair. In long distance love, there's no room for getting lost in the other person or losing yourself.
There is also a prolonged honeymoon stage in a long distance relationship that increases your sense of romance and who can blame you for feeling all warm and fuzzy? There's something storybook,almost fairytale, in the idea that two people can share a love strong enough to overcome distance and live happily ever after, right?
Which brings us to the bad news.
There are plenty of downsides to long distance love, starting, of course, with a shortage of time spent together. However, the single biggest obstacle in this scenario is getting caught up in fantasy. While it may be true that you won't get lost in the other person if you're communicating across time zones, it is still completely possible and incredibly common to get lost in your idea of who the other person is.
Truly getting to know someone across the miles is a difficult task, no matter how good you are at text messaging, emailing and even phone calls. After all, phone sex isn't the real thing any more than phone calls equal intimate dinners. It's easier to keep blinders on when you can't see the object of your affection in the flesh on a regular basis. However, in long distance love, your other senses need to come into play even more than usual. Knowing the difference between your gut instincts and your deepest desires is key. Hearing what you want to hear and projecting your desires onto your far away lover will do nothing but lead to disappointment.
As in any relationship, honesty and authenticity are the orders of the day if you want your relationship to have a chance of surviving the miles. You both need to be open about your intentions, honest about your emotions and happy for, rather than jealous of, your partner having a life while you're apart. This doesn't mean you should settle for them seeing other people (unless that's what you agree to), but petty jealousies and the desire to control your mate's activities when they're in a different locale will do nothing but drive an emotional wedge between you.
Lastly, it's important to remember that long distance can only go on for so long. In other words, if the ultimate intention isn't to find a way to spend more time together, you should really consider if this is the relationship for you or, are you just taking what you think you can get? Only you know what will work for you but set the romantic fantasy aside and be honest with yourself. Isn't the best part of having a life partner actually having a partner present in your life?
Bar advice. Nobody likes to be apart from a love one but when it becomes necessary the core thing would be that trust and love must be strongly anchored in the relationship.
While you may find yourself wanting to spend more time with your sweetie than the distance between you affords, you'll also find yourself growing more comfortable in your own skin. If the relationship is a good one. Why? Because long distance love gives you plenty of time for yourself, your friends and your family and what better time to strengthen your sense of self than while you're experiencing absence of the other.
Study reveals that women can tell the difference between a family man and a ladies man just by looking at his face! Maybe.
When your heart wants to say yes also consider that the disappearing act many couples pull in the early relationship stages. The one that alienates the people who are close to them, doesn't happen here. Poorly rearranged priorities that wind up setting you back are also skipped.
In other words, you get the rush of new love without sacrificing your individuality, your friends and your family. As anyone who's had an all consuming love affair knows, there's something to be said for that! After all, two strong individuals make the best kind of pair. In long distance love, there's no room for getting lost in the other person or losing yourself.
There is also a prolonged honeymoon stage in a long distance relationship that increases your sense of romance and who can blame you for feeling all warm and fuzzy? There's something storybook,almost fairytale, in the idea that two people can share a love strong enough to overcome distance and live happily ever after, right?
Which brings us to the bad news.
There are plenty of downsides to long distance love, starting, of course, with a shortage of time spent together. However, the single biggest obstacle in this scenario is getting caught up in fantasy. While it may be true that you won't get lost in the other person if you're communicating across time zones, it is still completely possible and incredibly common to get lost in your idea of who the other person is.
Truly getting to know someone across the miles is a difficult task, no matter how good you are at text messaging, emailing and even phone calls. After all, phone sex isn't the real thing any more than phone calls equal intimate dinners. It's easier to keep blinders on when you can't see the object of your affection in the flesh on a regular basis. However, in long distance love, your other senses need to come into play even more than usual. Knowing the difference between your gut instincts and your deepest desires is key. Hearing what you want to hear and projecting your desires onto your far away lover will do nothing but lead to disappointment.
As in any relationship, honesty and authenticity are the orders of the day if you want your relationship to have a chance of surviving the miles. You both need to be open about your intentions, honest about your emotions and happy for, rather than jealous of, your partner having a life while you're apart. This doesn't mean you should settle for them seeing other people (unless that's what you agree to), but petty jealousies and the desire to control your mate's activities when they're in a different locale will do nothing but drive an emotional wedge between you.
Lastly, it's important to remember that long distance can only go on for so long. In other words, if the ultimate intention isn't to find a way to spend more time together, you should really consider if this is the relationship for you or, are you just taking what you think you can get? Only you know what will work for you but set the romantic fantasy aside and be honest with yourself. Isn't the best part of having a life partner actually having a partner present in your life?
Bar advice. Nobody likes to be apart from a love one but when it becomes necessary the core thing would be that trust and love must be strongly anchored in the relationship.
Saturday, April 7, 2007
Cyberspace online dating
Do you frequently feel lonely late at night when the house is empty? Yes indeed, you are all alone with a bowl of stale soup. You could say that life couldn't be better, right? Okay, who are we kidding? Of course life could be better. For starters, you need to make a new bowl of soup. Then you should do something exciting. Why don’t you call one of those phone sex hotlines? No, scratch that idea!
Those things are fake anyway. I suspect that these phone sex hotlines are all scripted, maybe even pre-recorded. Anyway, there are other ways to cure your boredom. Have you ever heard about adult online personals? This is the hottest stuff in the dating scene these days. It's about time that you caught up with the new millennium.
In the past, I though that adult online personals were rather lame. However, my views changed when I witnessed my best buddy meet a hot girl through the Internet. I was shocked! Did you ever think 20 years ago that couples would be making first contact through a computer? Nowadays there are just so many adult online personals to sort through. It makes total sense if you actually take the time to think about it, since we all spend a lot of hours on our computers already. We might as well make computers a medium for meeting other singles.
Adult online personals are a brilliant way to interact with other singles. There's no reason to be nervous with this method because you won’t be face to face with anyone. You're merely getting a feel for what they're like online. If you do decide that you want to meet up with them, you can if the feeling is mutual. That's the great aspect of adult online personals. You can post your information out in the World-Wide-Web and others will come to you.
Are you interested in adult online personals? Then you can start by posting your information on the Internet. You can find other singles just like yourself who enjoy the same past times and activities. You may even meet your soul mate this way. Hop on Google right now and sort through a variety of adult online personal sites. Start finding that special someone who's right for you. Your soul mate might be just a mouse click away.
Bar advice. Be careful as well when in cyberspace. Don't just give all your personal info to strangers. These things can work out. Some people have married their long distance internet pals. It may just be you next. No harm just browsing, right?
Those things are fake anyway. I suspect that these phone sex hotlines are all scripted, maybe even pre-recorded. Anyway, there are other ways to cure your boredom. Have you ever heard about adult online personals? This is the hottest stuff in the dating scene these days. It's about time that you caught up with the new millennium.
In the past, I though that adult online personals were rather lame. However, my views changed when I witnessed my best buddy meet a hot girl through the Internet. I was shocked! Did you ever think 20 years ago that couples would be making first contact through a computer? Nowadays there are just so many adult online personals to sort through. It makes total sense if you actually take the time to think about it, since we all spend a lot of hours on our computers already. We might as well make computers a medium for meeting other singles.
Adult online personals are a brilliant way to interact with other singles. There's no reason to be nervous with this method because you won’t be face to face with anyone. You're merely getting a feel for what they're like online. If you do decide that you want to meet up with them, you can if the feeling is mutual. That's the great aspect of adult online personals. You can post your information out in the World-Wide-Web and others will come to you.
Are you interested in adult online personals? Then you can start by posting your information on the Internet. You can find other singles just like yourself who enjoy the same past times and activities. You may even meet your soul mate this way. Hop on Google right now and sort through a variety of adult online personal sites. Start finding that special someone who's right for you. Your soul mate might be just a mouse click away.
Bar advice. Be careful as well when in cyberspace. Don't just give all your personal info to strangers. These things can work out. Some people have married their long distance internet pals. It may just be you next. No harm just browsing, right?
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