How to Turn Rejection Into Opportunity

You see, the thing about rejection is that it’s only a negative thing if you allow it to be. Sure, it feels lousy at first, but underneath that rejection is an opportunity that can change you for the better. What you feel and what you can do about it is two different things. So how to turn rejection into opportunity?

Ask for an Explanation. If you’re turned down for a job or a raise, calmly and coolly ask the rejecting person why. The reasons may have nothing to do with you (such as budget issues) or, if they do, you’ll be able to use this information to improve for next time. Resist Taking it Personally! It is important to realize that whatever someone says or does that appears to cause you pain is often, if not always, not personal. So if you’re feeling like the rejection is a personal affront to your character, let it go. Learning to let go is actually a simple process that is ingrained in all of us. However, most up us need to relearn the powerful act of letting go.

Let go of wanting to change what happened. If you’re wishing that you were the center of attention in your office, or envying the person who got your promotion, the colleague that dresses better, etc, you are only making matters worse. Let go of wanting to change what the others are doing or not doing, and allow yourself to let go of the feeling of being rejected. You cannot feel others rejecting you, you can only feel your rejecting them back. So let go of wanting to reject them back, and then notice how you relax and lose interest in what they think. You will also find that they begin treat you with much more love and respect.

Take back control. Being rejected can make you feel like a victim but you have been in control all along. The more you learn to let go of your hurt feelings, the more you will realize that only you have the power to determine how you feel. So rather than letting a rejection get you down, use the failure as a stepping stone to your future success.

Now lets look at the situation in a personal capacity when involved with someone. If you're trying to build a relationship with a person and they reject your offer of either getting together, going on a date or becoming more than friends, let it be. Don't let it chew you up inside. The world is made up of all sorts of people. You may not be their type. They may not like the way you look, dress or even talk. You don't expect to go up to Angelina Jolie or Brad Pitt and they like you above all other persons, would you? If they rejected you, wouldn't you except it because they said so and move on? Sure you will. A celebrity, however, is no different than anyone else so why let it eat you up inside? If you can accept the rejection from a celeb(and I don't mean that they are any better) why not a normal person?

Shake it off and move on. People are sometimes hurt because the rejection comes a little later into knowing a person. They may have been going out for a while. They also could have been having sex. The rejection by one person may be due to indifference's about lifestyle issues or possibly their ideals of a spouse and partner. It's just one of those things where people find that it's not working out the way they like it to be. Maybe their "space" is being compromised. They may not be ready for a commitment or one is rushing the relationship and the other is feeling trapped. Whatever the rejection reason is one must respect the others decision. Take a bow and leave even with your head held high.

Bar advice. The rejection is sometimes lessons well learned. It makes a person better and brings tested feelings into light. Look into that light for better things to come.

How sexy do you want to be?

Most women look at the magazines on the shelves at stores and supermarkets, or at least the covers, and wish that they looked like those girls. Some actually believe that is what all the sexy women look like in real life. Some are so obsessed with the methods the models or celebrities use that their health is placed in danger.

It's great to be hot and have a lot of guys come after you and such but if you're obtaining that physic by unhealthy methods that can harm you or even cause death, than you're going down a dark and deadly path. We've all heard about how models starve themselves, have bulimia or are anorexic. These stories are just that, stories. People tell themselves that everything will be fine but it only sinks in when a friend or relative dies from it. A lot of women live lives that are a far cry from being thin and are very successful, have lots of men and live a healthy lifestyle. Take Tyra Banks for example. She used to be on all the covers and runways for the world, still does sometimes, but she never did all the crazy stuff to hurt herself to become thin. Maybe for some people it's a bit more natural being thin but others have a hard time.


Sexiness can also be the brightness of a girls smile. Her pouting lips like Angelina Jolie. Maybe even curves like Queen Latiffa. Women can enhance their looks with the right makeup on. Trust me I've seen some girls plaster on a ton of make up that they look worse than the clown, Ronald McDonald. You wouldn't want to see them in a dark alleyway at night. You'll mistake them for a ghost.

Lingerie is also something that can bring out that sexy, naughty vibe in you. Women think it's all superficial. They fail to realize that men can sniff out the confidence of a sexy chick. It's built in nature for them. Just remember that many women around the world all look different. Many have the whole sexy, beauty, stylish package. Others just have to deal with the "Ugly Betty" package that they got when God was handing out looks. Remember, the show "Ugly Betty" is all about this superficial world and what it takes to overcome those obstacles.

Last but not least. Wake up from the dream state you're in if you are thinking that you're going to change over night. Your face and body is who you are. Say cheers to all the beautiful women out there but say a cheer for yourself even if you don't make the "cut". I notice that women tend to check out other women. Not sexually, well some do, but just to see if they measure up to them or the other way around. A woman will not feel threaten if she's in the company of another that isn't giving out the overly sexy and hot vibe that will make her seem insignificant.

Women are always competing with others to be beautiful, to be hot looking, sexy and more but let me go back to emphasise that the key to all of this is the "confidence" you personify that will make you sparkle better than a diamond. Those that are blessed with their looks and bodies sometimes find it a curse that they have to keep up the image or be criticized. This can bring depression and self destruction to some. Look at people like Merilyn Monroe, Karen Carpenter or worst of all Anna Nicole Smith. Dead and gone. Is that going to be you too?

Bar Advice. Keeping a healthy life style, exercise and a attitude with confidence will make you feel so much better that you won't be bothered with the whole image business.