Being predictable

There is no greater sin than being boring when you're trying to attract beautiful women. In fact, this is the number one cause of nice guy, friend only. It's not that women don't like nice guys. Oftentimes the "let's just be friends" have some sincerity in them. It's that nice guys aren't exciting. They're predictable.

Let's face it, almost everyone will pick exciting over pleasant every time. Guys too. How many sites are set up devoted to the hotness of Pamela Anderson? How many are set up exalting the attributes of Jane Austen heroines? Have you ever even had the patience to finish a Jane Austen novel? I rest my case. Nice guys often wind up in this atrocious position where they do everything "right" and his object of affection wants to "like" him because there's just is no spark.

She wishes like hell she could fall for such a sweet man who would treat her as well as anyone but she just can't. Her head is all into you, but her heart is somewhere else. Possibly being a free spirit. Wanting her desires and sexual needs to be fulfilled. Her heart is seeking adventure. Now, this doesn't mean that you have to go mountain climbing or skydiving on a first date but it does mean you can't be predictable. You can't be bland and inoffensive because that path is so obvious she'll know what you'll say and do five minutes before you do it. How long can you watch a painfully formulated movie before getting annoyed especially if there aren't any explosions? Exactly.

Women do seek the trill of being swept off their feet by their handsome 'prince charming' but in reality very few actually will. They do feel at ease with someone less attractive by their side because the tendency for the man to leave her is low. Somehow you find that women, like on online dating sites, highlight the point that they are not worried about looks. This can be because she's either getting older, wants to feel secure that he won't be going off looking for another woman anytime soon or would not want to be in a jealous relationship and be miserable.

Guys looking to get into a better relationship with women should stop being predictable. Women have a intuition about men but if you do something out of the blue, extraordinarily or spontaneously; you throw them off the scent. They will see you differently. Their normal patterns start to change. Now they start to get excited. They look forward to seeing you, hearing your voice or meeting up again. After some time you'll find that she's willing to jump in the sack with you. However, I advise you not to. Why? If you grab the invitation too quickly you jump right back onto the 'normal' path of being predictable.

Bar advice. If you want to have some really good sex you really need to hold back first. I know it's hard but it will be worth it. Trust the unpredictability.

The true secret about getting ?

I stressed this point several times before. Due to the fact that men are primarily attracted to a woman's physical beauty, they make the mistake of assuming that she is also attracted by physical beauty. Hopefully I can clear this up for you.

Women bear children, men don't. So while men are drawn to the youthful, healthy, physical signs of a woman, women instinctively gravitate towards fearless men who takes charge of a situation. In essence, confidence! This is the true secret about getting women. This makes perfect sense when you think about it from a biological point of view. Women want men who can protect her family and herself from the big bad things of this world. So, this explains why you see so many women with guys like bad boys and the rebel sort. They aren't always the most "suitable", but they're oozing with confidence, which makes them irresistible from Mother Nature's point of view.

Women are realist. They just want to get to the bottom of things and that includes who you are. They want the real you. You see women looking at celebs and drooling about them but what happens when they find out something bad about them? They turn away with disgust. They feel let down by the actions of their idol. The thought of the person they adored doing a "bad" thing cannot seem to register in them. Women that do this must realize that they don't know the person at all. The actions of that celeb falls badly on all other guys simply because they are men. When a woman really meet a man it is then an added bonus that he looks half good. Not quite their idol but presentable. She sees beyond the physical and less imperfect features. She seeks the confident and stable soul.

If you go to online dating sites, you'll find a lot of women adding on their preference section for guys not to 'play games'. Also, and more importantly, they state that the guy's looks are not important to them. The tendency here is that these are a little more matured women. Those in their late twenty's till forties. Why is this so? The ones that are still looking for their handsome "prince charming" tend to be the younger ones. Maturity level in looking for "true love" is blocked by the hot handsome celeb look a like. It's understandable that the youthful will stick to what they know and feel. Peer pressure also looms in every part of their lives. Women in the other group have found that love, commitment and strong lasting relationships is what they're after.

Another point for women is, the older they get the less likely they show that they want sex. A brave front to deny themselves the physical pleasure they like but they seek things of greater value i.e. someone that cares for them the way they want. They always want a secure foundation with a man. Once everything is laid and all barriers have come down, all fears aside, the sex will follow. Women are more likely to fill a mans every desire because she has placed trust in him from that point onwards. Beside her wanting to fill her sexual needs she will make sure that the man get his "all" so she needs not have to go looking anymore. Who wants to after all that time.

Women need to know that men are unwise to these particular needs of women. They tend to see women like themselves. Men think women think the same way as them so they falter. Their train of thought is derailed at the sight of the next lovely girl that comes along. Getting a man is one thing but getting him to stay with you is another. By understanding that men need some coaching to a women's way will get you ahead in the game. Men want and need to be told sometimes, just like their mommy's did, to know what they need to do. Pleasing a woman that's difficult can be tough and that makes some men run off to find another one less demanding and less self centered. Seeking for an ideal man is nice but reality is he'll never be as perfect as you dreamed up and neither will you be to him. Acceptance and working the relationship will see both through and together.

Bar advice. Men can also be just as complex as women. If both can just see the others wants and needs it can just about click. Take a chance sometimes.