But that type of woman is really hard to find, believe it or not, and men have just as hard a time finding "The One". So if we ever DO find her, we want to KEEP her. She doesn't need to convince us, or talk us into it, or do a million nice little things for us. That would be great but for men, if they found "the girl", that's all they really desire. That's the kind of love you want too, right? I thought so.
So let me ask you this...
Do you know how to let a man see that you ARE that woman for him? That woman who will delight and inspire him like no other? The woman who will entice him to WILLINGLY give up his single freedom?
What do you think it is that makes us want to pursue ONLY you?
The way you kiss?
Being a great cook?
Pleasing towards our ego?
NOPE! It's much more subtle than that. It's all about using your innate feminine energy that drives a man absolutely wild with desire.
So lets say you've finally met a man you really like and can see yourself having a relationship with him. You should make an effort to show him you're a real great find, right? Actually, no. The fantastic thing about being a woman is that getting a man to see how wonderful you are doesn't involve any effort at all. In fact, putting effort into trying to get or keep a man will end up pushing him away. If you've ever had a man seem very interested in you at first only to suddenly become distant and pull away, this could be the reason why.
Showing a man you're someone he wants to get closer to requires the opposite. It's all about simply being, not doing. When you meet a great guy, you often try to do, do, do whatever you can to make him see what a great catch you are. Probably even go out of our way to do things for a man, plan outings together, and sometimes even say yes to things he wants that go against what you want.
You can't convince a man to fall in love. But you can lead him there by connecting to his heart. One of the most powerful ways to do this is to let yourself be guided by your feminine energy rather than your masculine. Feminine energy is about being instead of doing. When you focus on simply being in the moment and enjoying a man's company and attention, you automatically shift your vibe so that he can step into the masculine role. To do that, you must first be open to receive.
Inspiring a man to see you as "the woman" he wants to be with forever is all about you being able to receive love. Men fall in love when they give to you, not because of how much you give them or do for them. When you shower him with affection, attention, dinners, gifts, and always go out of your way to drive to his place, it makes him think of you as a mother or a friend instead of inspiring his emotional desire for you. It may backfire because he, as a man, feels he should be the one doing all that instead.
When you're open to receiving from a man, you're sending a message that you value yourself. You believe you're worthy of his time, attention, little gestures, and ultimately his love. So resist the temptation to prove your worth by giving, and instead create the space for him to give to you.
Men are competitive creatures who value what they have to work hard to get. You can call it the trill of the chase. If he gets a sense that you're completely devoted to him with very little investment on his part, he'll question your value. Do not give away exclusivity to a man until you have the commitment you want from him. Instead, you keep dating and meeting lots of different men so that you give yourself a chance to find out what you really want and need from a relationship. At the same time, you aren't prematurely cutting yourself off from your Mr. Right in case you haven't met him yet!
When you keep the focus on yourself and keep yourself open to other men, you send the message loud and clear that you're a woman who puts herself first and that you are a prize. This elevates your "degree of difficulty" so he has to step up his game to get you all to himself...or risk another guy beating him to it.
The most important thing to remember when you're dating a man and want him to realize how wonderful you are is to put your happiness first. Just one piece of caution. He may get tired doing all the chasing so you need to allow him to actually catch you in the end or you'll end up alone as no man will be able to do any catching. So..how to be irresistible to the opposite sex?
By letting him know you have a life outside of him actually makes him more attracted to you. Not just because you're not about to drop everything for him, but because people who are passionate about their interests are interesting people! It might feel a little scary to do this with a guy you really like, but the right guy will gladly rearrange his plans to see you. Why? Because you've just proven you're a great catch he has to woo and win.
When you try to convince a man that you're a great catch, you end up giving off a "needy" vibe that actually dampens his attraction for you. Having to "prove" yourself makes him think that you don't have a solid sense of self. But when you focus on yourself rather than on HIM, it automatically conveys that you are a great catch. His interest will be captivated by you.
Bar Advice. Your strong self-esteem is intriguing to him. He'll see it and want to win you over.
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