Thursday, January 11, 2007

Successful dating

Dating is probably one of the most exciting yet daunting adventures any single individual might ever encounter. Traditional dating cum meeting up, going out or eating out with somebody you are interested with can be a challenge as well as a learning experience for everyone.

More than women, men feel more pressured when going out on a date because they are expected to do almost everything to make the date a success. Since they are the ones who will carry out most of the so called “dating tasks” here are some tips that can help men go through with the exciting process of dating the girl they are interested in.

Dating can be a nightmare especially for men who haven’t dated for a long time, for those who haven’t been successful with women and even for those guys who are so used to dating without knowing the basic rules in playing the game. Remember, people need to conform with the "rules" whether they like it or not. In the case of dating, there are simple rules that need to be followed to ensure success.

Ensure cleanliness by keeping on eye on your hygiene and style. The worst thing any man can do is to turn up on a date smelling, unshaven, and looking dirty so the first thing you should do is to take a bath, brush your teeth, and shave those stubborn stubble's. Men who do not know how to maintain hygiene are no-nos for girls into more hygienic sex. Remember, women think  about these things. It also pays to spray on some decent cologne and gargle before you meet up with your date.

Dress up to look your best. Looking your best when you go out on a date gives the idea that you have prepared for the special occasion even if it’s only a first date. If you don’t have enough dough to buy new shoes or clothes, at least try to wear those decent ones to impress your date.

Be on time. The first impression of women is usually based on how much men value their time. If you ask a woman on a date, make sure that you can turn up on time because not doing so will give her the impression that you don’t value your word or her, for that matter. If you don’t want your date to think you are unreliable, try be early or at least on time when going out on a date.

Before asking someone out, make sure you have a job to flaunt. Women always find security in men who are secured themselves. Although financial stability is too early to discuss, your current job will give her an idea if you can manage dating her for a long time. Men who have jobs give women the impression that they are ambitious and they have the will to go on top.However, if you really don't have one, never lie.

Do all the necessary preparations. Preparing for things you can say during the date will ensure the easy flow of conversation all throughout the night. Getting your knowledge levels up and sharing it with your date will definitely make her date interesting. The safest topic to discuss includes current events so make sure you watch the news or read quality magazines. Know when to stop talking and start listening. Opening up topics for a conversation will pave the way for an interesting intellectual stimulation but you must know when the ice has been broken and when to be patient. After you have given your thoughts on a certain topic, ask her what she thinks and listen to her intently.

Issues on bills. The general rule in dating is that whoever asks for that date should pay for it. Since you are the one who asked, and you are the man, then; by all means you should pay the bill. But if the idea of your paying for the entire bill does not sit well with the woman you’re dating and she insists on paying for her half, make a compromise. Suggest that she pays the half and you’ll pay for the rest. This takes pressure off her as she feels that she's not pushed into another date if she doesn't like you. Women want empowerment as well.

Being a gentleman pays. Simple things that show your gentleness like holding the door open for her, letting her walk through the door first and pulling out a chair for her will definitely make an impact on her. Showering her compliments now and than throughout the day will also make her think that you appreciate her efforts of looking good for the date. Don't over do it though.

Watch out for body language. Just before the date ends watch her body language before attempting to kiss her goodnight or trying to seduce her. Attempting sex on a first date is not a good thing unless she wants to. Lastly, don’t tell her that you’ll call her if you don’t have plans of doing so.

If you are serious in the woman you’re dating, start learning how to live a healthy life. Smoking only show irresponsibility and carelessness because you are not taking care of your health. Drinking should be a social practice when going out and not a daily affair. Think of new ways to entice her where possible.

Bar advice. Just remember to always be yourself. If you try to be someone else and don't know what you're talking about don't get caught with your pants down. Also, she may know more about the subject and the whole date will be screwed. She will never go out with you again.

1 comment:

Theresa said...

I agree: with every single paragraph. Especially on cleanliness and punctuality.