Monday, January 29, 2007

He's just not that into you

Here's a little help from a book that has been doing well. It really hits home for women and this is for women all over the world. Take notes from it. It may just be what you need in your life to straighten your love life out.the author and this book was also shown on the Oprah Winfrey Show.

This book really isn't just for women, and it really isn't just about relationships. True, it focuses on empowering women which is a wonderful thing to realize, but it really goes beyond relationships. We are conditioned to work hard in our jobs, material possessions, etc and when love or money or other things we want don't come to us, it's easier emotionally to justify and/or make excuses as to why we're not getting what we feel we deserve when we want it. Whether it's the attention of a man (or woman) or a promotion at work, the power of this book is that it tells you in no uncertain terms that YOU are the only one who will suffer if you continue to cling to something that wasn't meant to be.

Bar advice.Who knows how many great things pass us by because we're too busy worrying about getting something or someone that just wasn't meant to be. Read it and weep, if you must, but then also be glad that if you apply what you've learned and make it your mantra, it's the last time you will cry over a love or aspiration unrealized.Hopefully.

Sunday, January 28, 2007

A night with 3 ladies and myself

The night was a little chilly because of all the rain but it was a good day at the bar. These 3 ladies had come up because they heard the music. I wasn't sure if they were into what I was playing but as the night went on they kept ordering more drinks.

The place was a little busy so no time to chit chat but eventually as the night worn down I had to check if they need any more booze. Then they started to talk to me. Initially they commented about the song choices and how they were enjoying it. Music does bring people together even if they were younger than me.Mostly it was about the artist, old music, new music and what the people of today and yesterday were listening to and the fact that a lot of new artist do a cover version of other people's songs. It's also a nice 'ice breaker' to start a conversation.

Being the last customers, I was asked to sit and join them at their table so I got my beer. The topic soon started to change to relationships, guys, girls, expectations and lots more. Some of the things that we talk about were simple stuff but some were a little more indepth but it was really frank and open.That was great because it shows that a lot of younger people d9o think about this stuff and try to understand their partners that their with or at least are trying to.

They bombarded me with a lot of 'guy' questions. I guess after telling them that I was much older and the fact that we were all drinking, it made it easier for them to open up and ask some intense questions. I'm sure that they would have loved to ask more stuff and all avenues of what a guy wants and thinks.I'm referring to both of his heads as well. Maybe that will come up the next time. Frankly, I was checking them out. They seemed nice and interesting. Good figures and intelligent as well. What they didn't know is that I too was getting a lot of insight into the workings of the female mind and here I had three of them.

It struck me that these girls, although friends, saw and felt differently about guys. Some knew more than others and some felt differently about certain issues. Things like why a guy does this or why do guys say that? Even to bring it down to genetics. These are hard things to answer but I told them that I could only give them my perspective and analysis on what maybe going through their minds and why they do them, seeing that I'm a guy as well.

Ladies, here are some insightful tips about guys. Make them work for it. Don't put out too quickly, if you know what I mean. Just as I was sitting there I could smell the perfume, check them out as they walked back and fort from the ladies room, looking at the ass as the moved away from the table and then checking out their breast as they were coming back. What I'm getting at is that guys like to look. Even if he's married and won't go any further than that, he will still look. It's a guy thing. He may have a solid, beautiful, sexy girlfriend or wife and he'll still look. Women can't help looking at shoes when they pass a store but for guys it's cleavage. These two things causes the same effect on the different genders.It's true people. We guy's have to look. With all the naughty modern day clothing, can you blame a guy. Don't forget you girl's wear that stuff just to make us look.

Women have to play smart. Find out more details about men and then you can have a great relationship. Whenever I see two people falling out after a few years it's sad We've all gone through it and what we need is insight about each other. One little thing that women need to do is let the guy do the chasing. The male instincts go all the way back to the caveman days. That's instilled in him by nature but letting him crave you and chase you longer puts you in the driving seat. Please don't over do it or he'll stray away to someone else if you're not going to even give him a kiss. A reward like that is all it takes to fuel his fire.

An example of this caveman ways is what guys do if they are with someone and another guy comes along. It doesn't matter if he's a friend or not. Imagine 3 people in a conversation. If the lady is having a good time conversing with the other guy the first guy(that was with her) will start to lean in more. Maybe put his arm around her on on her leg or even give her a kiss on the cheek before he excuses himself to go to the toilet. Why is this so? Well the male instinct in him is telling him to show the other guy his dominance over the situation and him. It has nothing to do with her.It's a clear message to the other guy to know that the girl is with him. In the caveman days that's how it was. Territory and possessions are important to guys.

Bar advice. There are a lot of other things that can be said about the matter and everyone is different. This has been going on for so long and it isn't going to end anytime soon. One last thing to reflect on. When women are looking for guys, they want to go to that 'special place' just need a place.

P.S. The title suggested that it was a night of lustful sex between 3 women and a guy but it wasn't. See, it's a guy thing.

Friday, January 26, 2007


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Bar advice. Smoking is not good for your health. Remember that.

Women and politics in the US

This is for those that are really keen to get a better understanding of what has and can happen in the future. Not only for the US but the rest of the world.

A must-read for anyone wishing to understand the history and present-day political reality of women, this fascinating book explores the efforts, achievements, as well as the setbacks involved in the movements toward equality for American women. Women's Movements in America; The Struggle for Political Rights; Women's Political Participation; The Struggle for Employment and Educational Rights; Women's Economic and Educational Status; The Struggle for Familial and Reproductive Rights; Women's Place in the Family; The Future of the Movement. Anyone interested in women and politics.

Bar advice.Ladies should take a better look at this as it will help you in your own countries political climate. Baby steps are needed and even if you're not fully into politics, it's best to be armed with this insight. Remember knowledge is power. No one can manipulate you if you know what is going on.

Women leaders needed.

Mature and industrialized nations today continue to strive for human equality, especially when it comes to women’s rights. In general, women are the voice which calms the fighting spirit of man. I believe that women who are elected to office bring new perspectives to issues and are more inclined to collaborate effectively with their counterparts. I often wonder if this is one of the reasons for the civilized manner in which modern countries enjoy. It is a sense of balance and fairness that allows people to determine their own fate.

The inclusion of women into national and global politics is pertinent to the progression of peace and prosperity in our times. In part, I am referring to regions of instability. In Iraq, I think it is very important that women have the ability to run for elected office. This could serve the country well in the difficult times still ahead. How often in history have we seen what a large group of men do when confined to the same set of genes and testosterone that only serve the escalate tensions and bring about devastating wars.

As a gender, males have a strong sense of pride and are not afraid to fight for survival. This begins at a young age when males fight for dominance of the pack. We live by the rule that only the strongest shall survive. There is no room for trust or fairness.

One point to add is that women can also be unkind to one another. Gossiping and venting out when the other party is not around or cannot hear them. Talking behind peoples back is truly more of a women's trait than a man's. They can be vicious and vindictive in many ways to their fellow females as well. This , some say, is the feline like instincts that we hear of. Hence a 'cat fight' when things really get out of hand.

This year Hillary Clinton is running for the office of the President of the United States. Will she win? That remains to be seen as she faces good candidates in her way but if she does she has more on her shoulders the just being the first female president. She will be watched, criticized, examined, prodded, flagged and turned inside out and upside down because she is a woman. I think it will be refreshing to see what happens. Not only in the US but all over the world.

Women are psychologically known to be more collaborative, nurturing, and social. There is no preferred biological makeup, yet different situations call for the strengths of one gender over the other. This is why I believe that women should be more included in global politics. They are much better suited to find common ground and come to a productive solution and bring peace that is acceptable to all parties involved.

Bar advice. If mankind is to surpass to the next level we got to have the women from all nations be in the fore front of leadership that will help to change all the world. The earth is not called mother for nothing.Those that really hear me on this issue, strive for it today.

Smart women's views

There's a burning question that women ask themselves when they see other women. Especially if she seems better or more well off than herself.What then can be done?

A Smart Woman uses her entire toolbox of experiences, talents, feelings, logic, intuition, education, and yes, even her mistakes, to live her life authentically engaged. She takes the time to care for herself, evaluate what she really thinks and feels, and acts and reacts from a place of patient love, energized compassion, and balanced accountability. Choices are opportunities and she welcomes them.Opportunity leads to her future and she faces that future with a ready and willing heart and a nimble and open mind.

A Smart Woman respects others’ points of view while still making her own choices. She gives generously to others while nurturing herself. She knows the value of boundaries and is skillful in using them to build stronger relationships. She speaks up when she needs to and she knows how and when to supportively listen as she keeps her vision of peace and tolerance in sight. She knows when to walk away, wishing luck and best wishes to those who are on another path.This includes long time friends and colleagues. She knows and values her true worth.

Adaptable, caring, capable, and clever, a Smart Woman embraces life and triumphantly whoops and hollers her way to joy. She claims her power and her divine birthright, as each of us do, in a myriad of infinitely beautiful and unique ways, creating a fulfilling life as a Smart Woman. She's not out to prove anything to anybody. She is here to learn, live, love, laugh, and contribute.One important key item is that she also makes her own money. Why? Well, being dependant on others, especially a man, will make her inferior and even desperate but when earning her own money she is in control. By all of these things that is her true self there is but one obstacle that may(or may not) be a downfall problem for her. What is that? Well, men. Something to think about. Then again some women don't know how to because men are an alien species to them sometimes.Anyway that's a different topic at this moment.

Bar advise.You should believe we all have a lot to share, to communicate, to witness, and to celebrate.So, what do you think? Are you ready to explore? I hope so because you need to be a Smart Woman with firm plans. Are you? Setting yourself up this way will take you through many difficult situations that life may throw at you.

Thursday, January 25, 2007

A small tip for guys.

One thing I've been noticing from going out lately is that the hottest girls are always with someone that they are friends with and know really well but they are not as hot or good looking as the main girl itself.

What happens is if you go up to some girls who are maybe 5’s to 6’s9this is out of 10 of course), and chat with them, get them giggling, etc. From there, a hot girl, maybe an 8-9 walks up and introduces herself to you. Believe it or not, a lot of hot girls roll with less attractive girls. From there on you already have the group’s comfort and appreciation so it is easy to isolate the hot girl from there.

If you had rolled up to a couple less than attractive girls and said “You seem fun, I just had to say hi." You would be chatting back and forth, when a hot 8.9 came up. This may or may not be their friend but to any of them that have been watching you from a distance and observing that you are a nice guy will be a willing participant to engage in a conversation with you.

Now could this have worked had I waited until the 8.9 was already in the set? Of course. But I’ve found it to be far easier to attract a girl if you hit the set before she arrives. You’ve already won over her friends at this point. Even if you haven’t won over her friends it can still work well if you’re already in the set. Sometimes, girls who weren’t that interested, and a third girl came up who was interested causes controversy and if her friends leave, she may end up making out at the bar with you..

On a more general note, you should be playfully bantering with all types of women. Throughout your day, you should be bringing joyful interactions to as many people as possible. The fat girl serving you at Burger King? Make her smile. You don’t have to outright flirt of course, but just a little playful misinterpretation can help the day. People, including yourself, like to feel good. Don't forget guys that you are not perfect as well and all women know this for a fact. If you thionk you are then you're in for a rude awakening. Make it real.

Bar advice. This is just a little help for those that need to find women and to approach them. It is not really what I do myself but it is the reality. I welcome your comments dearly and if you think that this doesn't work or if you say that you don't 'let' the 'other' girls become your friend (I don't mean all ladies), then you are lying to yourselves. Confidence lacks in all human beings. Man and woman.

Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Can we blog all this?

Whoever came out with the whole blog thing may or may not have known what they started. This is an outlet for so many people, irregardless of where in the world you are, and you have just become an author.

Whatever you want to say or advise and maybe point out is easily done. The only thing is, who's reading it? Well if people are like you and they are interested in what makes sense to them or reflect all your stuff as something in their lives then you have an audience.

Your stuff can be crap, erotic, sexy, intoxicating, professional, weird or any damm thing. As long as people have an interest then you're ready to party. money is something that most people are interested in but so is life. what can you possibly know about philosophy?

Well you lead you own life so that's a start. Is there any thing that you can share about it? If it's dull and boring don't worry. Most other people are in the same boat. If they weren't than the whole planet would be full of celebrities.

Bar advice.What is it that I'm getting to , besides the fact that this is going to be a short entry, is that our lives are like blogs that we read and see all the time. A lot of us don't journal it but if we did the whole Internet would be filled with mostly that. This is what you do. Add or make a blog today.

Monday, January 22, 2007

Why men love bitches?

As a man who read this book, I have a new understanding of how and why my last girlfriend acted the way she did. She must have read this book!
I have to say, I chased after her, just like the book says a man will do if you follow the rules it describes. But, (and this is a big BUT), eventually, I got tired of chasing her. Eventually I came to the huge realization that I didn't want to live the rest of my life this way, under her thumb, with her making all the rules for our relationship.

Women have put up with men that act this way, and it drives you crazy, doesn't it? Don't you hate it when a guy doesn't call and acts like other things are more important than you are? This book could just as well have been written for men, and been titled, "Why Women Love Jerks."

As I read this book, I thought that if everyone, men and women alike, followed the rules contained in it, this world would be full of a lot of single people. Mainly because it's all about one person in the relationship (in this case, women) acting aloof, not chasing men, and not showing men that they're afraid to lose them. If both sexes acted this way, no one would get in a relationship because both would never chase the other. (In the hopes that the other one will first. It's not going to happen!)

All in all, this book seems to be written for women who have been hurt badly in the past and don't want to be hurt (or at least show that they're hurt) again. Anyone who has ever had the good fortune to have been in a GOOD relationship would never think of treating their mate like Sherry Argov suggests.

Bar advice.Full of much-needed advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author’s unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you’ve discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you’ll not only increase the romantic chemistry in the relationship-you’ll gain your man’s love and respect with far less effort.

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Breast Cancer and you.

It's estimated that 1 in 8 women in the world may develop breast cancer during their lifetime.* Concerns about developing breast cancer worry nearly all women, but there are ways to help reduce your breast cancer risk.

In this program, Dr. Edward Conley reveals 10 secrets that provide critical information women need to make informed decisions about their health and lifestyle. Discover which supplements, natural foods and antioxidants protect your breasts from damage.

Find out about the safer estrogen that does not increase breast cancer and a simple test that predicts it. There is hope in the fight against breast cancer and you can be a part of it. Start taking Simple steps today to help reduce your breast cancer risk tomorrow!

Bar Advice.Dr. Conley shares five additional secrets to help reduce your breast cancer risk while improving and maintaining good health. The bonus material also includes a Q&A session with participants from the program.

Breast enhancment

I thought I'd write something just for the ladies.If you'd like to firm up, strengthen or add volume to your breast, then this might be the most important article on breast enlargement you'll ever read.To date, Breast implants is the most effective breast enlargement method.

Let’s Consider The Various Breast Enlargement Methods And Their Claims.

Firstly, Breast Enlargement Exercises.
Since the breasts are composed mainly of mammary glands and fat, no amount of exercise will change their actual size or shape. At best, like some devices, it may help to develop the underlying muscles (known as pectoralis)they push the breasts outwards, giving the illusion of larger breasts.

Breast Enlargement Pills Or Supplements Or Creams?
They are generally herbal in origin containing different quantities of harmless “plant-estrogen” like, dong quai,fenugreek,saw palmetto and so on.

Is There Any Possible Solution To Natural Breast Enlargement?
Before you lose all hope, there is one herb which belongs to the family guminosae, subfamily Papilionoideae or the soy bean & pea subfamily, known as Pueraria Mirifica or Kwao Kreu” or “Kwao Kreu Kao” which are commonly found in the north, the west and the northeast of Thailand at the altitude of 300 to 800 metres above sea level.

In 1940, a group of German scientist successfully isolated the phytoestrogen called Miroestrol from the root of Pueraria Mirifica.After another 60 years,another phytoestrogen called deoxymiroestrol was isolated from the root called "Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol " and is very different from other phytoestrogen, as it posses highest estrogenic activity among the known phyto-estrogens due to structural similarity to estradiol, (Estradiol is the main human estrogen which can be found in all women who are at the stage of nursing baby (Lactating).

Bar advice.I will say that you should be happy with what God has given you but the nano technology is there and so is the product. This may be a better alternative then going under the knife.Do it only if you are feeling inedequate and not because of vanity.

Sunday, January 21, 2007

When it ends

I recently met a new customer who just moved here. He came over to Singapore well before he wife was suppose to arrive here. This guy is a 51 year old American but looks like he's 38 or something. Being here for the first time in his life and without the wife. Well what do you think happened?

When I herd the story I thought to myself here is a situation that I've heard and seen before. He had a sexy Indonesian girl with him. They had been together for several months and he was falling head over heels for her. I've seen this sort of thing before and it was nothing new to me.

He told me that his wife had arrived and that he had been with the Indonesian girl for a while that he decided to divorce his wife of 30 years.They moved out of the apartment that the company was paying for and they were in a hotel that was nearby.When he told me this story I could see in his eyes and gestures that he felt relieved and almost glad that this was the outcome. There was a look of rebirth and vigour on his face while he was constantly holding and hugging the girl.His speech was that of a man that was imprisoned and was just released.

I wanted to tell him that this is not new to me. Hearing stories like that but I also wanted to advise him of women that take advantage of guys like that and make them feel so special especially in ways that his wife, of a western country, will never do. The problem is that she was right there in front of us and she spoke english as well so there was no way to get that piece of advice out to him.The next day they were back at the bar and he met with a friend that happen to be in Singapore as well.

Guess what? The friend had an Indonesian girl as well on his arm. The girls didin't know each other but became friends seeing that they were from the same country and the two guys are from the same hometown. The conversation was very light and it was a party mood. I guess he felt better that she had someone to talk to as well.The other girl was really pretty and had a sweet smile. I was surprised that she was 30 years old because she looked like she was 22 or something. Then again the difference betwen Asian and Western women are very wide.It can help if you know how to find things like nano technology.

What's going on exactly at this point of time is baffling to me. He seems ready to move on. I haven't met his wife but he did say that she was going to be going back soon and he will be returning to the apartment. He did say that he blames her for leaving him here to be alone for 5 months without her and it looks like the devil came out and got him to do the ultimate betrayel. Then again I believe that it may have been heading in that direction already. The divorce was probably going to happen for him . This just made it easier for him to go ahead with it.

Bar advice. Just because you're in another country and alone, don't make the mistake of the girl that will want you and because you're feeling or starving from love that you get blinded by it. She will come out with a really sad story and you'll fall for it. Tell you what. They all have one. I've heard them all. Trust me. They want the one thing to solve it and that's your wallet.

Friday, January 19, 2007

Karma Sutra

Just in fairness for both guys and girls. I know some of you don't like to read so here you can get a better idea in the form of visual experience.

Pleas don't think that this is some sort of porn movie or something. it's been around for a very long time and the western world was really the one that brought it to light. These are some very interesting methods and advance ways to please your lover.

All of Bollywood have probably read it. Possibly even Hollywood. It is actually a educational video and gives better relationships and sex appreciation of partners.If you're into the whole romantic,erotic and sexual lifestyle then this is for you.

Bar advice.If you're not ready for this then I suggest that you go for the books first and slowly cross to the DVD. This sensual art of love making is also not know to most people either so I don't expect you to be an expert overnight.

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Inside you’ll find:

• Exercises to whip your tongue, lips, and jaw into shape so you can perform with exquisite control
• An anatomy class you need to pass
• Sensual kisses to get you both ready for the main event
• Sure-fire methods for getting her to climax again and again
• Advice on how to keep your mind from spoiling your head
• Advanced techniques to wake up the neighbors
• Positions that will make her purr

Bar Advice.Read The Lowdown on Going Down alone or with the companion edition, Blow Him Away for mind-blowing oral sex—every time.

'Sex and the City' and you.

A couple of months ago, I watched a Sex and the City episode, in which Charlotte, in her never-ending quest to find true love, attends a seminar to teach her how to do just that.She drags Carrie along, who scoffs at the whole thing. She thinks both the women who got sucked into attending and the seminar leader are sad and ridiculous.

To attract the right men, the crowd is counseled to use affirmations, which Carrie finds preposterous. These suckers actually think they're going to meet guys by reciting a string of useless words!During the presentation, Charlotte raises her hand to ask the leader a question. She says something like, "I've been using my affirmations, but I still haven't found the right one."

Slightly annoyed, the leader says, you have to get out there, you have to love yourself, and so on.Carrie grabs the mic from Charlotte and insists, "She is out there."The leader says something, but Carrie drowns her out, "She is out there." As far as Carrie's concerned, the seminar is a scam. There are probably no decent men left on the planet. The good ones are married, and the rest have issues.

Now, I enjoy watching Sex and the City. It's fun. It's light. It takes my mind off more serious things.But it is not real life!

Carrie may discount the power of affirmations, but I didn't. If you aim to attract a wonderful man, you shouldn't, either.They work.Even better, they're free.Indeed, they are one of the most important methods.A girl I know told me this.

After years of dating losers, schmoozers, and No-Show Joes, I attracted a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man by using affirmations.If you want to attract a man who is worthy of you, who will add to your happiness, then decide what qualities you want in a man and write an affirmation in the present tense:

I am happily married to (or in a relationship with) a ____, ____, _____, ______ man.

Write it ten times a day. Recite it in the shower. Repeat it to yourself as you're falling asleep at night.Give it time. You could start attracting better men within weeks. If you've been hurt or have trouble trusting men, it will take more time.But keep it up. Keep it to yourself. You'll find out that it's worth it.

The girl who told me this is married now and really doing well so this advice seems to be working and it can for you as well. some may take longer but others will find it easier. desire it it will become a reality.

Bar advice.By all means, keep watching Sex and the City. Just remember that it's fiction. Few people, men or women, actually behave like its characters in Manhattan or anywhere else.

Thursday, January 18, 2007

Older women

I have recently encountered the words 'Cougar Women'.A term dreamt up by some male or possibly jealous young female to describe an older woman engaged in a relationship with a younger man. The description 'Cougar Woman' infers a predatory mature woman (35-50+) who hunts, stalks, lusts after and imposes her attentions upon some innocent, inexperienced young male.

The traditional description for the older male who does likewise is, 'Sugar Daddy'. Would it not be appropriate, in light of today's touted 'equality of the sexes' to apply the description of Panther Daddy? Who knows, if enough people around the world pick up on these descriptions then such terms might ultimately become a part of the English language.

We all know that in most cultures throughout history (even today) untold numbers of innocent, naive and inexperienced young women have being forced into unsuitable marriages. The financial, social or political benefits from such actions pass generally to males.

Today however(certainly within the western world cultures)the majority of younger male or females involved in relationships with 'Cougar Women' or 'Panther Daddies' are far from innocent, naive or inexperienced. They are educated and understand that a 'consideration' or 'benefit' forms the part of any contract. Who's to criticise such liaisons where the partners have a clear understanding and appreciation of the terms of engagement? Under the assumption that we all enjoy but one lifetime, then we should live our lives to the full but with the provision that in doing so we make every effort to avoid hurt to others.

The younger parties in such relationships can gain many benefits that they may not (perhaps due to social position) normally be able to attain in life. The older party will certainly enjoy the boost to their ego and, no doubt the sexual fun and games that will form a major feature of the relationship.

The Cougar Woman and Panther Daddy relationships are but one aspect of the 'Relationship Age Gap' equation. Statistics indicate that 'Older woman - younger man' relationships have increased substantially throughout that past sixty odd years and that great numbers of such relationships are successful and lasting based upon true and solid love connections.

Thanks to technology, health and beauty facilities of the past sixty odd years there is no reason why older woman should suffer the aging process experienced by their hard working great and great-great grand mothers.

So, this now brings me to this word 'Mature'. As I look around at the excellent physical conditions of some of the older ladies that I know, then the word mature should apply more to the 65 plus age range. I know someone that was in her 40's that was attracting younger guys even without trying.In fact she was pestered for dates by a sane, good looking 22 year-old male and although it was of much concern to her 19 year-old son, it was apparent that the lady in question was somewhat thrilled at the attention and, lets be frank about it. What woman wouldn't be?

I once read a biological article that claimed that the female sexuality peeked at the 35-40 age ranges and the male in early twenties. I would attach some credence to that claim based partly upon personal experience. Try understanding from the outset (pleasure affair, not a love affair) where the partners experience a powerful mutual instant attraction both physically and mentally, hold strong respect for each other and, perhaps above all, enjoy an unfettered ability to communicate without embarrassment, then such a relationship can develop into an exciting, pleasurable and memorable life experience for both.

Thank goodness society has changed. Today the older woman, younger man relationship would pass unnoticed. Some 40 years back however, discovery of the relationship would have resulted in the older woman being condemned and ostracized without mercy by society and, principally by her own sisterhood.Probably Hollywood had more of an influence on today's acceptance of this so it becomes something normal. Maybe the fact that not many of us see people in this situation that we don't really care either.

Bar advice.To the slightly older girls out there ignore the silly terms 'cougar' or 'mature'.If you fancy him, he fancies you and you get on well, then go for it. Doesn't matter if he's younger.You will both probably have a whale of a time both in and out of the sack? Love is blind to age as well.

Wednesday, January 17, 2007

Movies and your relationship

Nothing beats a romantic night at home with your partner, snuggled up on a coach watching a romantic movie. Stop at your local video store, or borrow from someone to save money,and find a movie sure to capture the heart of your mate. Here are some of the best all time romantic movies.

Ten Things I Hate About You.

A teenage romantic comedy, 10 Things I Hate About You is a modern day Taming of the Shrew. Set in a modern high school setting. Bianca Stratford is forbidden to date until her older sister, Katarina begins dating. Unfortunately for Bianca, Katarina has no interest in dating, until she finds a not so perfect guy.

Sweet Home Alabama.

Beautiful, ambitious Melanie flees rural Alabama and her high school sweetheart in favor of Manhattan's glamorous fashion and social circles. When her Park Avenue boyfriend proposes, it's time to head South and finalize her divorce. Melanie learns that somethings can not be left behind.

How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days.

To help land a big ad account, philandering Ben, makes a wager with his co-worker that he can mend his womanizing ways and date a woman for more than 10 days. Ben bets on the wrong girl. Andie is running her own scam and writing an article on how to dump a guy in 10 days and determined that Ben dump her.

When Harry Met Sally.

Can men and women remain friends without the sex part(cough..cough..cough)getting in the way? Womanizing, neurotic Harry and ambitious, equally neurotic Sally are friends who resist sexual attraction to maintain their friendship. As the two draw closer, they ask if they can they stay just pals, or will sex get in the way?


Industrious tycoon Linus Larrabee has no room for love in his appointment book. Sabrina Fairchild the chauffeur's daughter has spent her whole life worshipping the wealthy Larrabee family from afar. Heartbroken to learn that David doesn't share her feelings, she spends a year in Paris, then returns home more confident and poised. But when a burgeoning romance between his libertine brother David and Sabrina, jeopardizes Linus' pending business merger, the workaholic CEO clears his calendar to derail the relationship.

Some Kind of Wonderful.

Watts is a young tomboy who has a crush on her best friend, Keith, but her feelings go unrequited as he falls for Amanda, a rich girl with snobby friends. Unfortunately for Keith, Amanda's wealthy ex-boyfriend wants her back and is willing to do anything to get her. This coming of age movie reminds viewers what really matters.

Pretty Woman.

Looking for directions to his Beverly Hills hotel, millionaire corporate raider Edward Lewis crosses paths with Hollywood hooker Vivian Ward and hires her as his "date" for a week. Vivian gets swept into a fantasy realm of room service and boutique shopping on Rodeo Drive, and what starts as a business contract turns into much more. Can the poor prostitute and rich industrialist live happily ever after? This is a must see for women that think it's going to happen to them. Forget it. Even though I personally know a few ladies of the night that have married guys and even had children, I strongly advise you to look elsewhere.

Cutting Edge.

Spoiled but accomplished figure skater Kate Moseley is on her way to the Olympics, and so is egotistical hockey player Doug Dorsey. When an eye injury puts Doug out of hockey, he reluctantly agrees to try figure skating as Kate's partner. The duo gets off to a rough start but learns to perform as a team, and they soon become a force to be reckoned with.

Jerry Maguire.( Urghhh but fantasy for women again.)

In one of the best date-night movies of all time, a sports agent grows a conscience, promptly gets fired and attempts to turn his life around. With one loyal football client. A starry-eyed co-worker and her irresistible son tag along, the sports agent discovers that loving well while playing fair is the best revenge.

The Princess Bride.

In this enchantingly cracked fairy tale, the beautiful Princess Buttercup and the dashing Wesley must overcome staggering odds to find happiness. Giants, swordsmen, six-fingered counts, murderous princes, Sicilians, pirates, rodents of unusual size and even death can not stop true love from triumphing.

Dirty Dancing.

Expecting the usual ennui that accompanies a summer in the Catskills with her family, 17-year-old Baby Houseman instead finds herself in love. The object of her affection, is none other than the resorts free-spirited dance instructor, Johnny Castle. But Baby's disapproving dad soon steps in to keep Johnny from putting the moves on his artless daughter.


Bored with high school boys, best friends Cher and Dionne instead set their sights on college men. But the meddlesome Cher gets more than she bargained for when she gives a fashion-challenged student a makeover in hopes that her new friend will find love and happiness.

She is All That.

Laney Boggs, a geeky high school student, becomes a challenge, when she spills her books in front of class superstar Zach Siler. Zach's buddies bet that he can not turn Laney from an ugly duckling into a prom queen. With help from his sister, Zach gives Laney a makeover that turns heads and makes him think twice.

Sleepless in Seattle.(The ultimate)

Soul mates who come perilously close to never meeting. Although separated by thousands of miles, rueful widower Sam Baldwin and soon-to-be married Annie Reed connect through a radio call-in show encounter engineered by Sam's son, Jonah.It's a slow and wanting/longing for all natural people. This is the stuff that we all want and still find hard to achieve.

Blog Advice. Women are most attracted to these movies. Purely because they long for some of these things. They want their guy to be like some of these charactrers. Well guy's go check them out because if you want to have a smile on your face daily then this is a lesson to learn well.

Monday, January 15, 2007

What women are lookin for in men.

The behavior of women is as much of a mystery to men as men is to women. However, one thing is certain. The women love to be wooed. They want to be pursued. They want to be courted. They want men to try and win their affection.It’s a great psychological game that both men and women play. The winners enjoy it; the losers end up wondering what went wrong.

To end up as winner men need to understand what women want. Here is a list of seven qualities that every woman expects to see in their men:

Well groomed.
Do women pay attention to the way a man is dressed? Yes.Do women want men to open doors for them? Even in this age of liberalism they want and long for the days of chivalry.

Just as men like their women to be pretty and gorgeous, women like their men to be well groomed and stunning. They expect their men to be courteous, well behaved and well mannered. Among other things, they expect them to know the social graces. They also expect them to be well dressed, and in tune with the fashion of the day. Men who are loud or obnoxious are unlikely to win the attention of sensitive women. The same applies to those men who don’t pay sufficient attention to the way they look.

Good listener
Should men do what women want? Listen carefully to what a woman say.

All women want their men to pay attention to what they are saying. Men may not agree with their thinking but they should not make the mistake of looking bored or causal. They must pay attention, even if they don’t intend to do what their women want. The very fact that their point of view was considered before a decision was taken is enough to make the women happy. It is the basis of a strong relationship.

Good in bed.
What do women want in bed? If you think it's just the sex,think again.Do women like to be forced?How can women be made happy?

Every woman wants her man to be good in bed. They want to be aroused, and to be sexually fulfilled. The relationship has to be equal in the bed. The man must make an honest effort to fulfill the sexual needs of his women He should, however, not take advantage of a relationship. But he should respect those days when the woman wants to stay off. Women don’t like to be pushed into sex unless they are in a mood to do so. They would much rather prefer being cajoled and cuddled instead of being rushed into sex.Women want the passion in it. Men just need a place.

Honest and sincere.
Do women want to know everything about their men? Should men tell everything to women?

Two qualities that women value in their men are honesty and sincerity. They don’t want their men to cheat on them or to hold back anything from them. They would like to be equal partners in both the joys and sorrows of their men. Very often men try to hold back their problems related to work or their finances. This is not a good policy. Women feel more wanted and involved when their men take them into confidence. Men should also not try to delude women into false notions. They must gently inform them of their problems without being blunt or cruel. No woman wants to be told that she is ugly, fat or dumb. But, at the same time, they would not like their men to lie to them about their looks.Worse thing.Being honest upfront will not be hard when skeletons in your closet come out.

Stable career
How important is financial stability? Are women after successful men?

Women want stability in their lives. They don’t want to be in a situation where they are forced to scrounge for favors. They would like their men to take care of all basic necessities of life. They would therefore prefer men who are successful and well organized. However, this does not mean that they want to hook the rich and the well placed. This is a wrong notion. Money and success alone is not enough to satisfy a woman.Just take Hollywood as an example.

Love for surprises.
Should men give lavish gifts to win the love of women?Gifts that women cherish the most.

No woman wants to be tied to home and children. She would like some excitement in her life. This is where men need to be imaginative and thoughtful. The surprises need not be big. They can be as simple as enjoying an evening at the theatre, followed by a dinner at her favorite restaurant or it can be driving down to a resort at the weekend. The joy is multiplied if these bonuses come unannounced.Watch her smile at the smallest and silliest thing you did to please her. They deal with emotions and sentimentality

Intelligent and witty.
Are witty men more charming?How does intelligence matter in a relationship?

Women like their men to charm them. They would like them to be intelligent and witty, who can liven up the evenings and make a room come alive. Men who are dull and boring or too obsessed with their own musings are unlikely to enchant women. Women like men who are willing to chat with them on their wavelength.Take Marilyn Monroe as an example. She was married to Arthur C Clark. The guy who wrote the book 2001 A space Odyssey. Not forgetting that she was later involved with the president of the US as well.

Bar Advice.Go and rethink about what your girl wants or needs and ask yourself this. What have I done recently to put a smile on her face? Now go do something about it.

Sunday, January 14, 2007

Women and emotions

Have you ever heard someone say that women are really emotional? Well, it's true. And actually, everyone is very emotional... whether we like to believe so or not. We make emotional decisions and then justify our behavior with logic. Let me share something with you.

Whenever I go out with a girl, guys always try to come up and hit on her. It'll go really badly for them and at some point she will tell them that I can help them get better success with women because I teach men how to meet and date women.

The next thing I know, the guys are trying to convince her that she shouldn't be with me and that they are much nicer guys that she should be with. Then, they ask me for dating tips which they then try to use on my her.

It's pretty funny. I get a good laugh from it every time. And, it only makes them look like idiots and make her want to be with me more.This is why no matter how much you beg, whine, try to convince or logically justify or rationalize to a woman why should she be with you, it won't ever change her mind. She won't ever say, "Hey, that really makes sense, I think I'm compatible with you!"

This isn't a cloning lab. You aren't in a debate. You can't say, "I have good breeding, a good job and high apparent intellect... I think we'd make good natural companions" and expect anything but her to look at you funny before she walks away creeped out.

It'll never work. Just like no matter how much someone tries to convince you that she's hot and sexy, if you don't have beer goggles on, she'll still be nothing more. So, STOP TRYING TO CONVINCE WOMEN TO BE ATTRACTED TO YOU!

So, how do you get a woman attracted to you if you can't do it by convincing her logically?

You do it through emotions. She has to feel emotionally drawn towards you. You have to do all the things that I've been talking about.Be a challenge, tease her, be unpredictable, be interesting. That's the only way you'll make a woman feel attracted to you.If you walk up and a woman isn't instantly attracted to you, you need to press her emotional buttons. You need to be different than every other guy out there who tries to convince her to be attracted to them.

Let's talk about a few of these things.

Be a Challenge and teasing

Hot women are used to men coming up to them, giving them anything they want and then agreeing with everything that a woman says. I've had girls crawling all over me just because I disagreed with what they said and had an argument with them.

Hot girls are so bored with their life of guys doing anything for them that they want something new, some type of substance in their lives. Give it to them. Tease them about their clothes or their jewelry. Don't be worried about offending them.I even found Brenda some what close to this.

Be Unpredictable

Women have the same things happen every single time they go out. Before a guy even walks up, she knows exactly what the guy is going to say.And you know what? I do too! It's probably going to be some compliment that she's heard seven times already tonight followed by buying her a drink that he's going to force her to accept whether she wants one from him or not.

After that he's either going to try to come on to her so hard that she basically has to call security over or he'll be so unbelievably nice to her that she'll have to come up with an excuse like, "I have to go to the bathroom" in order to get away from him without hurting his feelings.

Do something different. Be interesting, fun, exciting, challenging, engaging, cool and indifferent. Don't let her know that you're interested in her by pushing it and showing her that her looks don't impress you.

Be Interesting

Have you ever talked about your job, school, your car or your family? Stop it! I'm getting bored just thinking about it!Have something interesting to talk about at any time. Have a good story that you can tell if your conversation dies down.

Take her somewhere that always has interesting things going on where you can talk about relevant things in the area. I like to go to shopping malls with crazy shops in them and try on really silly trendy clothing that you only see people on runways in fashion shows wearing.

Bar advice.Read some books or ebooks on comedy and have fun wherever you go. Do anything you can to be different than most guys and have a good time. A woman would rather be with a poor, funny, interesting guy than a rich, handsome, predictable guy any day of the week. Win their Hearts, Not their Minds.

Saturday, January 13, 2007

Cofidence for you ladies. Know it now.

Remember Teri Hatcher doing those impossible splits right on the studio floor on Oprah's show? Sheer confidence! Maybe Carmen Electra positively gushing about what exotic dance has done for her body and bedroom tactics? A large number of celebrities have recently taken to a sexy alternative to working out. From pole vaulting they have leapt straight to pole dancing at the X Factor and they aren’t stopping at pole-dancing either. Our celebrity pin-up girls have been everywhere and done everything, from Strip-Aerobics to Exotic Dance Workouts, the motto is ‘Everything sexy goes’!

If all this sudden gush for sex is making you blush, you go ahead and click your tongue and hang your head in shame, no one will begrudge you. “SEX SELLS” and we are being sold it morning, noon and night through every possible channel. It screams at you from gigantic billboards featuring gorgeous demi-love-gods, pierces into your fantasy’s through the television and fondles your imagination with semi-naked bodies scattered all over the net. Life itself is like one giant, prolonged orgasm and as a woman you are expected to idolize those models and endeavor to look like one.

Sure you wanna be Carrie from ‘Sex and the City’ and moan and groan and roll around on your bed with a different guy every night, seven nights a week turning your life into a series of fantastic sexual escapade but you'll snap out of it. After all life is not a TV show and learning how to embrace your sexuality takes time and effort.

First impressions are important. Amongst the glamour of the TV shows and the supposed sexual abandonment, the skin and the G-Strings, women have to deal with mixed messages, guilt trips, religious dogma, body image, and misinformation. Sure getting your hymen snapped by 16 is a must, but so is regretting doing it by 25. Beneath all our external frills, getting laid is an issue women deal with badly.

The concept of‘Positive Sex is an idea not many of us have managed to fathom yet. Fornication is still, essentially a male domain, where women participate like whimpering goats, hesitating and interestingly enough feeling insecure about their role in it all. In general cases.

A majority of women swear by making love in the dark. Here's what I KNOW, most of us are ashamed of our body. Nudity is a concept we haven't been taught to handle well. Seeing ourselves naked freaks us out, and knowing that someone else is watching us naked, desiring our body for itself, brings to life our worst fears. This is the gaze our parents warned us against, this is what religious lessons have told us to avoid. So off goes the light, plunging everything, from ourselves, to that desirous gaze, to our insecurities, into comforting darkness.

The truth is that the darkness serves as a warm invitation to what Susan Bremer calls our ''Shadow”side. ‘'Every woman wants to take a trip to their wild side” she explains,‘We all yearn to seduce. But we've been told over and over again that to rejoice in our body is immoral, yet the wish to feel powerful in our sensuality, to express our sexuality remains.” Jane(a girl I know), a proud ‘Gentleman club’ dancer considers her sexual prowess to be her way of establishing her role in a world hounded by men.

This sense of power probably needs some delving into. As women suffer from their own insecurities. It’s a cliche by now but they all know that the world belongs to the testosterone thugs. They keep women down everywhere, be it in the boardroom or wherever. Slowly women grow use to being kept down, such that they soon become conditioned to not reversing the situation at all.

A positive sex-image, whether you use it or not, can and will alter all this most miraculously. Your sexual achievements in the bedroom can give you the kind of omnipotent confidence which oozes out from your personal to public sphere. For any woman with low self-esteem, the act of embracing your sexuality serves as a miracle tool for believing that she can have that effect on other people, in a non-sexual environment too.

The thing is, much as we try to shake it off, we are all sexual beings. Sex is important to us and it has the power to make us feel good. 65% of women in most countries do not, at their heart of hearts, take this idea seriously. Good sex or an attempt to have good sex, for them, is still a nudge-nudge-whisper-whisper issue. This attitude gets transferred from them to their kids and grand kids and so on, such that each generation of these young women grow up with the idea that every time they are making love they ought to feel guilty about it. This mystifying of the subject is harmful for a lot of reasons.

For starters it gives us a lifelong baggage of guilt, every time we think about sex. Every time we fantasize or our hands itch to masturbate we feel like a criminal. The constant feeling that sex is wrong or dirty leads to a negative self-image as a person. That misinformation means that when we are in the act it can be hard to enjoy it, leading to severe sexual frustration, not a feeling you'd like to carry around with you.
Ladies this discussion might go on and on, because of the trouble to face the fact that we like getting laid. All this has a very easy solution. Get in to your sexiest lacy underwear, devote tonight to unleashing the temptress in you and for once really, really enjoy it without any hang-ups.

Bar advice.You will like the results tomorrow morning.Of course pick the man you really want.

Friday, January 12, 2007

Getting underware for her

Lets face it, we men are obsessed with women’s bodies and yet if I needed to tell the size of her breasts the best I could probably muster would be “just about right” and if she were to ask me right now what her breast size was I would probably mutter that it didn’t make her bum look big at all. This is in part due to my ever-present attempt to gain brownie points and not spend the night sleeping in the kitchen with the dog, but it is in one big part due to ignorance as most guys simply don't know.

Of course what I'm about to suggest is for people who are either married, live together or are consenting adults who see each other in or out of their underwear. Please don't go ransacking through a girls drawers if you don't know her intimately or she might just think you're some sort of pervert.

It really isn’t that difficult to find lingerie size information either and the list of instructions on how to find out would consist solely of:

1 – Open cupboard door.
2 – Remove appropriate garment.
3 – Check label and make mental note of size.

Even my brain could cope with that first thing in the morning but despite telling myself I should do it I never actually remember to. This could partially be because there is something instilled in the back of my brain that tells me the second I remove her bra and start ferreting around inside it, her mother is bound to burst down the front door unannounced and catch me in the act of apparently sniffing her beloved daughter’s bra. This really isn’t a situation I want to find myself in but if I want to please her (my partner, not her mother) then I should do it. In fact, every man should do it. Go to your wife or girlfriend’s closet and find out her bra size. Write it on a piece of paper and stick it in your wallet if necessary.

Of course, even if you know the size of her bra that doesn’t make the actual selection any easier. As a general rule of thumb, I’m led to believe that a black latex nurse’s outfit is not considered to be either lingerie or indeed comfortable so I will try to steer clear of that as far as possible, no matter how appealing they look. I would try my utmost to ensure that whatever I buy will not only please me but will make my partner feel sexy as well. This should imply that she will be able to move comfortably and bits don’t poke out when she lifts an arm or tries to sit down, or more importantly lie down.

Visiting any shop that has lingerie is bound to be a big deal the first time you try it but you're a grown man and should be able to cope. The sales assistant probably won’t think that the stuff you buy is for yourself unless you say something embarrassingly stupid and wear fake breasts. In fact, there’s a very good chance she’s dealt with people like you on a fairly regular basis. You know, the kind of person who skulks around by the knickers looking around shiftily and sweating a lot. In fact, come to think of it, it’s probably best if you don’t do that, and just head straight over to her instead. She will probably be very helpful.

Once you get it for her you probably can't wait to finally see her wearing the new lingerie you bought.So, I guess the only thing that's left to do now is actually find out her size and really go and buy something appropriate and NO latex nurse's outfit that you've seen in some porn movie even though that's what most guys perceive women like.

Bar advice. Even if you get it wrong. She will appreciate it with a smile on her face.

Thursday, January 11, 2007

Successful dating

Dating is probably one of the most exciting yet daunting adventures any single individual might ever encounter. Traditional dating cum meeting up, going out or eating out with somebody you are interested with can be a challenge as well as a learning experience for everyone.

More than women, men feel more pressured when going out on a date because they are expected to do almost everything to make the date a success. Since they are the ones who will carry out most of the so called “dating tasks” here are some tips that can help men go through with the exciting process of dating the girl they are interested in.

Dating can be a nightmare especially for men who haven’t dated for a long time, for those who haven’t been successful with women and even for those guys who are so used to dating without knowing the basic rules in playing the game. Remember, people need to conform with the "rules" whether they like it or not. In the case of dating, there are simple rules that need to be followed to ensure success.

Ensure cleanliness by keeping on eye on your hygiene and style. The worst thing any man can do is to turn up on a date smelling, unshaven, and looking dirty so the first thing you should do is to take a bath, brush your teeth, and shave those stubborn stubble's. Men who do not know how to maintain hygiene are no-nos for girls into more hygienic sex. Remember, women think  about these things. It also pays to spray on some decent cologne and gargle before you meet up with your date.

Dress up to look your best. Looking your best when you go out on a date gives the idea that you have prepared for the special occasion even if it’s only a first date. If you don’t have enough dough to buy new shoes or clothes, at least try to wear those decent ones to impress your date.

Be on time. The first impression of women is usually based on how much men value their time. If you ask a woman on a date, make sure that you can turn up on time because not doing so will give her the impression that you don’t value your word or her, for that matter. If you don’t want your date to think you are unreliable, try be early or at least on time when going out on a date.

Before asking someone out, make sure you have a job to flaunt. Women always find security in men who are secured themselves. Although financial stability is too early to discuss, your current job will give her an idea if you can manage dating her for a long time. Men who have jobs give women the impression that they are ambitious and they have the will to go on top.However, if you really don't have one, never lie.

Do all the necessary preparations. Preparing for things you can say during the date will ensure the easy flow of conversation all throughout the night. Getting your knowledge levels up and sharing it with your date will definitely make her date interesting. The safest topic to discuss includes current events so make sure you watch the news or read quality magazines. Know when to stop talking and start listening. Opening up topics for a conversation will pave the way for an interesting intellectual stimulation but you must know when the ice has been broken and when to be patient. After you have given your thoughts on a certain topic, ask her what she thinks and listen to her intently.

Issues on bills. The general rule in dating is that whoever asks for that date should pay for it. Since you are the one who asked, and you are the man, then; by all means you should pay the bill. But if the idea of your paying for the entire bill does not sit well with the woman you’re dating and she insists on paying for her half, make a compromise. Suggest that she pays the half and you’ll pay for the rest. This takes pressure off her as she feels that she's not pushed into another date if she doesn't like you. Women want empowerment as well.

Being a gentleman pays. Simple things that show your gentleness like holding the door open for her, letting her walk through the door first and pulling out a chair for her will definitely make an impact on her. Showering her compliments now and than throughout the day will also make her think that you appreciate her efforts of looking good for the date. Don't over do it though.

Watch out for body language. Just before the date ends watch her body language before attempting to kiss her goodnight or trying to seduce her. Attempting sex on a first date is not a good thing unless she wants to. Lastly, don’t tell her that you’ll call her if you don’t have plans of doing so.

If you are serious in the woman you’re dating, start learning how to live a healthy life. Smoking only show irresponsibility and carelessness because you are not taking care of your health. Drinking should be a social practice when going out and not a daily affair. Think of new ways to entice her where possible.

Bar advice. Just remember to always be yourself. If you try to be someone else and don't know what you're talking about don't get caught with your pants down. Also, she may know more about the subject and the whole date will be screwed. She will never go out with you again.

Not forgetting the women: Lingerie

The word exotic refers to something exclusive, strange and extremely beautiful. Hence, when it comes to lingerie, the term exotic lingerie refers to the most unique choice, under the category of lingerie.

Most women usually look out for the best and something chic when it comes to purchasing lingerie. The desire to purchase exotic lingerie is common, in almost all women, across the globe from an early period. As per some of the famous psychologists, the desire for exotic lingerie indicates that you are adventurous and would definitely love to indulge in the act of fantasy. Please remember that not all women can really afford this luxury. If you are were born in one of the worlds poorest countries then you can be forgiven for not being able to afford it. In these places they are simply referred to as underwear or undergarments.

There are different types of exotic lingerie available in the marketplace for you these days. Some cost less but some need that extra amount of money. It depends on the style you prefer and the kind of stuff you would feel comfortable adorning. In case, you are looking for something chic to wear, you can go for leather exotic lingerie. However, if you are looking for something feminine and that would flaunt your curves, you must consider lacy and satin ones.

For the sexy women who love experimenting with their style, sensual thongs are the best to shop. Shopping online would be the best option for you. Try visiting some of the best websites based on exotic lingerie and you would definitely find something that compliments your style and figure. Never wear underwear that's uncomfortable!

You would be amazed to find the variety and styles available, under the category of "exotic lingerie online".The best part is that you can shop for your favorite exotic lingerie, within the privacy of your home. Additionally you can get amazing discounts on when shopping online. You must also take special care of the exotic lingerie, you purchase. This would offer long life to it.

 Wearing it today and you would definitely be able to lure your man. All you have to do is to look out for your favorite lacy stuff, wear it and flaunt it. This would make your guy fall in love with you, all over, again. Let me tell you that most of the "working women of the night" spend tons of cash on these itmes because they know that it turns the guys on...big time.

Bar advice. Why am I writing this is because, trust me, some of you out there really need the help. Been there, seen it. Aughhhh!

Sunday, January 7, 2007

Meeting girls online

Lots of men often ask me if meeting women at the clubs or in public places isn’t gradually becoming obsolete in today’s modern society with the growing popularity of the Internet? My answer to that is: Has driving become obsolete since the growing popularity of aviation?

The truth is that the Internet serves it purpose to a certain degree. Is there really any method that you can compare which can have you meeting women from as close as the girl next door or as far as all four corners of the globe and all with a single click? Probably not. But just like everything else, the Internet as a method for meeting women has its advantages and disadvantages.

Firstly, there is no comparison to seeing a woman in the flesh who you admire and plotting the course to meeting her and ultimately becoming a part of her life. Of course this too can be done on the Internet; but one big difference. On the Internet, the woman is virtual. Over the past few months I have taken a look at a few of the sites out there which have crept up to fill this void which introduce men and women to each other and all the ones which I have seen all seem to serve their purpose to some effect. As a matter of fact, I have known people who have met their perfect matches on some of these sites and have even gone on to do the ultimate.

On the other hand I am all too familiar with people who have come away from the Internet experience so beaten, broke, frustrated and battered because they have been disappointed, disillusioned and let down, by such things as the photo collectors those e-women who only collect photographs of people they “meet” on the net or those women who supply fake photographs that bear no resemblance to who they actually look like. Then there are those who like Miss Haversham from the old novel “Great Expectations” having been spurned and burned by relationships in the past they set out to trawl the net causing as much pain as possible to every man whom she happens to come across - and the Internet is full of these women.

In this age of political correctness and women’s liberation these women are more than likely wreaking vengeance on the spineless men of the net as vengeance for the absence of men approaching them. I have come to verify that experiences on the Internet aren’t too different for the women either. However, there’s one caveat for the fairer sex. The men that these ladies hope to and do attract are so desperate for attention and anything else on offer that they are willing to jump through every hoop which the women put in front of them so that they can have the chance to be with these women - and these hoops are in no short supply. Take this one for example, (and you need not be in Asia) asianfrindfinder. It may or may not be what you are after but it won't hurt to look.

These men are willing to pander (virtually and really) to these women’s’ every need, and numerous net-women have to practically fight these characters off with a stick. Some examples of this are like telling them such things as the kind of things they should do in the photographs and the style of photo that they should supply in order to obtain “special consideration.” Even though the ones that they themselves have on show are often generic. As well as cross-examining these men like a prosecutor to an accused – all to eventually declare a mistrial. For this, special consideration, these men are rewarded by the women in due course neither showing up for meetings, nor returning email and calls and similar things, and maybe some verbal abuse, if they are lucky.

Some of the women seem like the perfect person who you really would want to meet and introduce to mother but then you realize that you have been more or less automatically eliminated as soon you read the profile. Now that’s honesty but then what are you supposed to do? Run away with your tail between your legs or stick around, call the bluff, face the challenge and try to convince her otherwise? Let's suppose you do and in the most unlikely event convince her, what about the fundamental point that never would have worked in the first place. Then there are the ones that you never hear from and those that are the high-quality ones. I know a friend of mine whose phone was always ringing off the hook with calls from these women but he met few of them and has never got past first base as he would wish with any of them. We figured out it was because he was giving these women too much “special consideration” on his web space and profile. After he ceased that desperate practice it all started to change.

Look, the Internet can be and is a fun place to meet women, and it seems like this will remain so for quite some time, however it is helpful not to take the women who you meet there too seriously, that is until you personally get to know them. Try friendfinder. This helps in any part of the world where you can meet women. Additionally the odds are and can be stacked in your favor away from the offline modem if done right.

Bar advice. One thing that men must remember is that on the Internet it is easy for any man to “approach” any woman and tell her anything. But it takes a special man to actually approach a woman in person.

Meeting women in bars and on the street

So you want to know how to meet girls in areas with plenty of them. Here are the situations First: The bars and clubs where the music is so loud, where there are too many people with little or no space to move, and the girls are dancing with themselves,. The main idea is that it is very hard and almost pointless to start a conversation in these areas. How do I do it?

Second: How do I meet girls who are walking along the street maybe going somewhere. Like on their way to work or shopping or somewhere else. The point is how do people do this to with women. But here, its almost considered weird because you pop out of nowhere and she's not expecting it.

Finally, what do you do when a girl tells you she has a boyfriend? Should you leave her alone or continue your business of getting her? What if she is totally in love with her boyfriend, how do you win her over?

Okay, first, bars and clubs are very difficult venues. Unless you're specially suited to the party style nightlife, these venues will be a bit daunting and even if you are predisposed to this type of pick up, you will still have to deal with lots of competition from other men. That said, it's not impossible to meet women in nightclubs. But it will require you to be a little more outgoing and aggressive than other venues.Unless she's a working girl then there's no problem except the money as price.

Here's stuff that you can do. When you're in a club, you tend to like to hang out in open-air areas where you can talk to other people easier. Patios that are right outside the club can be good for this. Most clubs will have some form of outdoor area where you can hang out especially places like New York and Los Angeles and even Singapore (Starting in July 2007) where you're not allowed to smoke inside. The dance floor can also be quite effective. If you like to dance, go out there and try dancing with the women who are dancing by themselves. If they're not into it, move on. If they are then it's play time! Also, keep in mind the time at which you're going to the club. Usually, the later it gets, the easier it is to pick up a girl (this is because as it gets later, people are more predisposed to "hook up" due to alcohol, desperation, boredom, etc.) so think about that.

Second, to approach women on the street takes a bit of finesse. People do tend to be a bit more private than in many parts of the world. My best advice in this respect is to actually follow the girl for a bit and see where she's going. If she stops off at a coffee shop or a bus stop, or whatever, that is the time to approach her! If it looks like she's going someplace you can't follow her into (like her home or office for instance) then you'll have to take the chance and try approaching her cold. But make it a quick approach and include a time constraint ("I know you're on your way somewhere, this will only take a second..."), get her number as quick as you can, then move on.

Finally, when it comes to the "boyfriend" thing, that's a matter of personal taste. Some guys don't want to mess with that, others don't care. The thing is, most women aren't that committed to their boyfriends, so it's not as big of an obstacle as you might think.The important thing to do in this situation is to try and "read" the woman. Sometimes, a girl will tell you she has a boyfriend when she really doesn't because she wants to politely reject you (and sometimes she really does have a boyfriend and wants to stay faithful to him). If this is the case, you have to look at the signals she's giving you to see if she's actually into you or not. If a woman does like you and is in fact into you, she will usually withhold the fact that she has a boyfriend. And if she does bring it up, she wants you to take the lead and "sweep her off her feet" so she won't have to feel guilty about cheating on him. So when that's the case, it's time to pump up the aggressiveness on your pick up.

Bar advice. If you learn how to read a woman properly then you'll get somewhere. Don't fear rejection to the point that you'll become the oldest bachelor among your friends. If you need help then I suggest you get some help from books or ebooks on the subject

First impressions

Always look your best. I know this sounds really obvious but you'd be surprised by how many men don't understand the importance of this simple tip. You never know when the girl of your dreams will turn up, or where. And it’s become a bit of a cliché because it’s true. First impressions really do count. Here are some figures to consider from my bar observations.

If you make a Good first impression on a woman, you have a 90% chance of ever getting with her at that point (10% of women for whatever reason will be unreachable for most men at any point – she might like women herself etc). If you make a bad first impression your chances with her reduce drastically to just 20%. This means that to make her attracted to you after the first 3 minutes of meeting her will be incredibly difficult if her first impressions of you were bad. It’s the difference between climbing a mountain and using a helicopter to fly up one. Good first impressions means you’re on your way to the top in the helicopter, bad first impressions means you have a difficult climb to success. No helicopters for you? Honestly, I can't stress this enough - always try to look your best.

Here 5 S’s of first impressions. Shave. Shower. Style. Smell. Shoes. Remember these 5 S’s and always take care of them before you go out. Why are shoes the number 5 S? Your shoes are the first thing a woman really notices about your clothing and hence your appearance. Make sure your shoes are clean and fashionable. What you wear is very important. I could try to recommend a certain look but as with all things fashionable by the time you read this it may have changed. Get the latest FHM magazine or other fashionable man's magazine's and imitate the styles you see there. Most women don't really care what labels you are wearing as long as you look good so you don't have to spend too much money on clothing.

Many guys that dress better usually comment on how strange they feel wearing clothes they are uncomfortable in, but nine times out of 10 they start to feel natural and even confident wearing their new wardrobe within days. Make sure you smell good. Again this is extremely important. Remember how you feel when a woman walks by you and she smells so good - you feel an instant attraction even though you don't know her - well, that's how women feel too. Wear a good quality cologne, but don't spray too much. One squirt on both sides of the neck, and one squirt on both wrists - maximum. You don't want to smell too overpowering. I recommend Cool Water by Davidoff or John Paul Gautier for Men (often called JPG love juice because women love it) if they don’t sell it where you are try to order some from abroad, this stuff is great!

By the time you have slowly evolved from your old self to the new one I recommend that you go to a bar decked out in your new outfit and shoes, hair combed and smelling nice, and sit at the bar counter and order a drink. Small piece of advice- sit near the toilets because the girls will need to use them as well. Once some sort of eye contact has been made she will make that trip to the loo just so she can pass you. It's a good thing you're wearing some great smelling cologne huh? This may even be a conversational piece for here. Hopefully she might ask you what sort it is and that's your chance to connect with her and try to at least get her number.

Bar advice. You will like the new you once the chicks are throwing themselves at you. Sir Winston Churchill once said " Clothes make the man".

Friday, January 5, 2007

Working during the new year

It seems that everyone is hit with the bug of new year blues. What's that? Well it's the fact that we were on a party high during the Christmas and New Year holidays, that we don't want to step into the work place.

Some haven't returned to work as yet but they know the moment they step into the office they want to make a U turn out of there and head straight to the pubs. In my case the Roof Bar. January brings all the expats and tourist back from the US,UK, Europe and even some parts of Asia that are freezing still. The weather is really gone mad nowadays but all the more so for us to dive straight into work. Some of the people that have returned to work have headed straight to the nightspots to catch up with others. They still have that feel of having to neglect that the new year has arrived and just want to party a little more. Who can blame them?

Lots of them will also go see or find the working girls in the bars because they haven't seen them for a while and that gives them more of an opportunity to have another good drinking night. Of course there's the fact that the girls will be willing participants to follow the guys for even less cash because they just started the year and are in need of cash themselves. Both side will benefit from the situation and it looks like the party is set to continue. I have seen this happen year after year. One small problem that happens sometimes is that some of the guys come back after the holidays and tell me that their marriage is on the verge of divorce. Sometimes these things happen, whereby the wife is not too happy that the spouse is so far away and too long away as well.

When these guys have been out in this part of the world for this long and find the difference in the Asian girl, they look disappointed to actually return home. It's not good as children are sometimes involved in the whole mess and that's a little unfair for them. Some fellow that I know have actually married girls from this region and are really happy and sometimes don't even want to go back. The fact that they have family back at which ever country that they came from compels them to return due to those family ties. The weather is what the dread the most.

Bar adice. Look inside and keep true to yourself and family. Never make rash decisions and remember what are most important in your life.

Wednesday, January 3, 2007

What am I going to do?

I was given a book on Christmas by my sister and it was a local author and millionaire. Maybe she thought that I needed more help with money and any new business that will come up this new year. I'll be sharing all that with everyone so that if anyone reads this blog they might just benefit from it too like me.

I won't mention the title of the book as I have just begun to read it. Somehow I already connected to it after the first three chapters. The thing is that I was in need of a boost of sorts for this new year and looks like this book may just do it for me. I'm going to take it to the bar with me tomorrow so that i can finish it quickly. I'm aiming for as high as possible. I know it will be a slow start at first but I am optimistic that this metamorphosis that I want actually will happen. Like a pupa to a butterfly. Actually, it includes all aspects of my life and will range from money, business, work, girls, religion, family and just me, myself and I.

One of the things that I do is Internet Marketing. This has wide applications and potential to earn huge cash flow. There's still a lot of money to be earned out there in the w.w.w so if you think that the dot com has finished, think again. That's what lots of them want you to think. Why then are there so many companies churning out new money website all the time. Take the Ultimate Income Booster for example. This is a simple way of earning a profit at a low cost.. How much more can it get to be simple? Also you don't have to do any work but if you promote the link that they give you surely it will be more beneficial, monetary wise. Another is the Dropship Blueprint.

The thing is that the rewards are much higher and faster with this one. Not everyone can start off with this but those that can I suggest this if you're looking for a great Christmas at the end of the year. There's a lot of people that think it is hard. If you can only just start the ball rolling and make a sale.Think about it.

There's going to be a lot more stuff that I'll share and free stuff that I can give away for all. Hopefully some of you will actually make money and your lives will change a little. One thing that the book has thought me so far is to have a millionaire mind set and things will happen.

Bar advice. Don't give up your day job just yet. Get the ball rolling in other stuff first before making any rash decisions.